I found this and felt I should share it for those of you who, like me sometimes struggle with being a good friend. Maybe at times we call ourselves friends when we are really just aquaintances that are there only when we need something from somone.

I pray that the latter is not me, I hope my friends know how truly blessed I am by having them in my life and I also pray they can feel the same way about me!

"What does the Bible say about friendship?
 By Pastor Chuck Lovelady
 
I will start by describing what  friendship is not. Friendship is not using someone to get what you want. If you only hear from somebody when they want something, they are an acquaintance, not a friend. Genuine friendship is not mutual encouragement to do the wrong thing. It is not promoting codependence or any other unhealthy behavior. Let’s look at what the Bible says about friendship in the book of Proverbs.

Proverbs 27:6, “Wounds from a friend can be trusted, but an enemy multiplies kisses.” A friend will tell you the truth and confront you even if it hurts, because he or she wants what is ultimately best for you. I have a few friends who will tell me when they think I am wrong and they are very valuable to me. When you don’t share your concerns about someone’s direction because of fear of offending them you aren’t being a friend.

A couple years ago a  relative told me that her friend was making a terrible mistake by marrying this certain man. I asked her if she had expressed her concern to her friend. She said she hadn’t because she did not want to hurt their friendship or her feelings. Unfortunately, her friend is now going through a messy divorce after a short disastrous marriage.

Proverbs 17:9, “He who covers over an offense promotes love, but whoever repeats the matter separates close friends.” A friend loves and accepts you and does not gossip about your private matters. The thoughts and feedback from people who love you are very helpful. The ability to feel completely secure in a relationship is a marvelous gift to give and to receive.

Proverbs 18:24, “A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.” The first part of this verse describes the danger of too many indiscriminate relationships. The second part describes the value of a true friend. When my father passed away last fall I made several trips in the following months to Portland to settle his affairs. The presence of an old friend at key moments made a difficult job a little easier.

Last year I attended my niece’s high school graduation party. She had a book for people to write notes to her as she faces adult life and starting college. In this book I wrote, “A true friend is someone who wants what is best for you. Seek to have those kinds of friends and seek to be that kind of friend to other people.” "

UPDATE*** PLEASE continue to lift my Mom in prayer, I just spoke with her again and she is having a lot of pain and other issues now. As far as I know she did not have a stroke, but had the symptoms of one, they are still not sure what exactly happened to her at this point... She is still at the hospital and once again I say, it is completely in God's hands, so please just continue to lift her up in prayer! Thanks and God Bless! (Sunday 05/25/08 - 11:10 PM)

UPDATE*** PLEASE Lift my Mom in prayer, I just got a message that she may be having a stroke right now. She is at the hospital and now it is completely in God's hands, so please lift her up in prayer! (Thursday 05/22/08 - 8:39 PM)

My mother has been through some rough times lately... She is currently in the hospital recovering from extensive knee surgery on both knees. While there and recovering she experienced some kind of seizure and her blood became so thin they have decided to keep her at the hospital.

Please pray with me now...

Father, today I come to you humbled and submitted to your name. I thank you Lord for all you have given me in my life and all that you have blessed my family with. Today Father I pray that you would send down angels to be with my mother, God I pray that you would calm her mind and open her heart to you Lord. Allow her to receive your healing touch in this time of need. Father blanket her with your love and protection at this time God and just allow her to know you and to accept Jesus Christ with an open and willing heart.

I ask these things in Jesus precious and holy name Father
Amen