Thank you Gene, I have visited both now and they are right on target~smart women!  This applies to men also, as I left a blog entry on Kathy's site, women are abusers too, usually "dumping" their feelings onto someone (partner or not) and then it can lead to physical abuse.  Stats are:  Every 15 seconds an act of Domestic Violence occurs, with men it usually just goes unreported.

Thanks for looking that up Cheryl.  I realize that violence does occur to men.  My question was about emotional and verbal abuse toward men, which I think is probably very substatial.  Does the term "violence" refer to only physical abuse (which is what I'm assuming), or does it also include verbal and emotional abuse?

God Bless You Too =D 

=D  Men just aren't very communicative about emotions.  We see emotions as data.  Gals tell me they see emotion more as, I don't know how to put it, fundamental truth?  One gal told me that guys don't get it when she "knows that she knows that she knows".  Is that the whole woman's intuition thing?

BTW, I firmly believe in woman's intuition.  I think the Church has approached it in a rather odd way.  I've heard pastors say "Men, your wives have a special connection with God through their intuition.  Pay attention to it.", as though a woman's intuition could never be wrong.  I'm not saying it's always wrong, but since all humans are sinful, both the "male" approach (reasoning) and the "female" approach (intuition) can be just as off base.

be yourself not a fake of some one else.

My Grandmother used to say: Don't worry what someone else think's of you.  By the time you've figured it out, their on to something else.

Cheryl, WOW.  I don't know what to say.  I have not had to live in that sort of situation but my wife and mother in law know it only too well.  In spite of the paste, God has healed her of remembering the ugliness and she is not bitter.  She was affected in some ways in the way she trusts or doesn't trust others sometimes. 

I pray that God will give you the words to say to the people that He brings across your path (here or in your offline world).  I pray you will be safe and protected in 2008.  Most of all, I pray that God will give you the Peace that passes Understanding for His Glory this year and beyond.

Thanks for sharing this. In the Grip of His Grace, your brother in Christ, Brent 

This is very powerful & moving. You need all our heart-felt prayers. May God bless you and protect you and comfort you all the rest of your days.

Promises for you: Deuteronomy 33.27; Isaiah 43.2; Psalm 66.12 

Lara, how beautiful your spirit is to me!    As you know my heart, this is only a God thing!  I do pray others may see this to learn and also grow closer to the Lord.  My dad is a Police Officer so we were taught about ALL kinds of things, tricks, games played on the streets etc....;however, I did not know about Domestic Violence.  In this testimony I shared the bad situation, but this did not begin until 5 yrs into our marriage with my wrists being restrained, then maybe 6 months later a shove, or a push.  It wasn't until the end that it became severely violence. If any relationship is violent even a little, then I would advise to get to a safe place and counseling.  Most abuse escalates.   In your situation, if God is showing you as you said abt when you two argue, you then stop and realize~what a growing moment!     What a blessing it is for you to comment on this site~thank you!  Love~

David:  thank you, TGBTG!

What a Testimony!!! and how proud of you is Our Father. Just remember while you fight your good fight of faith He is not watching you from above but He is next to you, fighting with you.

Blessings!!!

Thanks Cheryl for all you do to help those who are in need.

              I intend to write a blog addressing this problem. You will then see. This is not just circumstantial. Many people with an agenda have created this problem. Do not ever think you are responsible for such behavior. That is how they win. They are losers. Remember that,

 and know you are a child of God!!