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I've edited this piece because my heart is melancholy. There is part of me longing and crying out to God like a child. I am mourning and grieving and have just realized why. I'm needing my parents and my grandmother. Just when you think all of that is over... It is then, that I know that the grief I'm feeling is a blessing. It means that I was loved, and that I loved them in return. I've acknowledged the grief, hence it will pass. God is so merciful and loving. The season will soon pass. So... I wonder, can we ever love anyone too much? I don't think so. For there are so very many times that people feel so very alone in the world. Some people can be in a room filled with people and not have one person say a kind word to them. Many weary people walk the roads and sometimes, not a soul stops to see if they need a helping hand. People are embarrassed when they pull out their food stamps to pay for groceries. I do not how you feel about this situation, but I don't look at the food stamps. I look at the human being. For in every situation, there is human being involved. I knew of woman who was once in a grocery store lane. She saw an an elderly woman who didn't have enough food stamps to complete her small purchase. The woman had her head bent away from the other customers, and the younger woman sensed her shame. So the younger slipped to the front and squeezed some dollar bills into her hand and whispered, "Don't worry". Their eyes met for a moment, and they smiled. The younger woman slipped to the back of the line. I do believe the younger woman touched an angel that day. It's sad... so many assumptions, so many worries about approaching strangers, yet isn't it the same now as it was when Christ walked this earth? I have no memory of Him having qualms about touching anyone. He just loved... and gave... to everyone. Our society has anti-bacterial hand wipes. The coin can flipped as well. What if you are that stranger, or that person who needs human contact but is ashamed or embarrassed to ask for help? Babies die from lack of human touch. I read once that loving God means loving and giving until it hurts. It means that you forget about yourself, and you put God, and other people ahead of yourself. It means stripping yourself of pride, prejudice and arrogance. It means forgetting about what you want and what you think is important, and learning to focus on what God thinks is important. It means getting down to the basics, because in reality, that is exactly where we started. Being loved by God. |
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| December 31, 2007 |
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Very good blog Joey!
I have no doubt that you planted a seed of the very love of God in that woman's life that day. That was act of random kindness. That was God working through you, and that's a beautiful thing!
Thanks for sharing.
May your roots continue to grow down deep into the soil of God's marvelous love! |
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| December 31, 2007 |
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| So simple. So powerful. And yet the world and even the church find so many ways to look away, to ratiionalize, and put limits on love. Thank you Joey for a wonderful post. |
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| December 31, 2007 |
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| What a beautiful story of love. We need to look inward not outward. Happy New Year and God Bless you and yours. |
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| December 31, 2007 |
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Joey AWESOME
not only the angels saw and rejoice at what you did but God new that you where going to do it He is the Alpa & the Omega so He began His rejoicing when you got out of bed that morning. Amen |
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| December 31, 2007 |
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| Great blog Joey! Gives me a lot of things to think about. |
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| December 31, 2007 |
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I was writing the blog about my attitude, and you see, I'm the flip side of the coin too. It's easier for me to give than to ask for a friend to give me comfort. Does that make sense?
I've been a grumpy person! Difficult to live with, and I want to change my attitude. I want to be like Jesus. I've always prayed that I look at people through the eyes of Jesus, not my own. |
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| January 01, 2008 |
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Joey, this was so excellent! My friend Jen & I were talking about how hard it is to ask for help -- because we don't want to be a burden to others but also because we've been used relentlessly by those "vampire relationships" in our lives (those folks who suck the life blood out of you). It is a challenge to find balance there -- to keep attuned to when the Holy Spirit tells us to help and when He tells us to back off so that person can learn to reach out to the LORD -- but also to be brave enough to ask for help when we need it. It boils down to keeping an intimate relationship with the LORD so we'll have the discernment we need. Sounds simple enough, but I definitely need to work on it! Your words bring even more clarification to that line of thought. Thank you! |
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| January 01, 2008 |
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| Nice one Joey, we could all use and give more love!!! Stu. |
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| January 01, 2008 |
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| Joey, I loved how you showed both sides of this....I think like you it can sometimes be hard to receive love too. I live alone...so I have gotten to where I will ask my grown daughter for a hug...cuz like those babies, since I loss my hubby I sometimes go days without human touch....and I can testify I for one need it. |
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| January 02, 2008 |
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Joey, of all your blogs I've ever read, this is by far the most touching and special - at least to me. God bless you sister.
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| January 03, 2008 |
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| Simply beautiful, just like the heart it flowed from. God bless you Joey. |
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| January 04, 2008 |
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Amen... Psalm 23 pressed into my heart that I'm never alone; especially during the darkest and bleakest of times. I know that He is with me, guiding me, and that He will lead me home. It gives me that blanket of safety and love. |
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| January 04, 2008 |
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Good blog, Joey! |
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| January 04, 2008 |
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| Why, thank you Kathy. That means so much. You all just made my day |
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| January 06, 2008 |
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| Good blog, Joey!!! I want to press in and run hard after God too. Thanks!!! |
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| January 07, 2008 |
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| Run like the wind! My hips won't let me but my heart does! |
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| January 07, 2008 |
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| The first time I read this blog I was touched too deeply to comment, it brought the heart of God to us all. And it reminded me of a friend of my son Chris. They were both teens working part time at a grocery store. This young man was so shy he was anti-social. (Both my sons were always bringing home strays.) I learned there were some problems at home. He would never look me in the face, only look at the floor and try to be invisible. He shrunk back like he did not want to be noticed, that human contact was painful for him. In my natural mind I thought it might be easier to him to let him have his way and not notice him. But the Lord put it in my heart to start speaking to him, painful as it seemed. So every time I went in the store or saw him, I called him by name and said, "Hello __________, it's good to see you" or some such small talk. He rarely responded that I could see. But I kept it up. Chris continued to be a friend to him and one day maybe a year later, reported that his friend had told him "Chris, you have the nicest mom in the whole world." I was blown away by that. All I had done was notice him in a positive way. And then I thought something close to what you said: there are some people in this world who go day in and day out, week after week, month after month, with no one speaking a kind word to them. I did so little but to the young man it meant so much! May God help us to sow seeds of kindness everywhere. |
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| January 07, 2008 |
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A little to most people means the most to some of us.... God bless you, sister. |
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| January 10, 2008 |
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Your commemts was very good I wish and pray that more people will feel the same way someday as you and I do. Thank you I needed this letter today. |
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| January 11, 2008 |
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| Love can hurt, but it is the right thing to do. |
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| January 11, 2008 |
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| Wen you mean 'love until it hurts',what exactly is it? |
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| January 11, 2008 |
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It means that you forget about yourself, and you put God, and other people ahead of yourself. It means stripping yourself of pride, prejudice and arrogance. It means forgetting about what you want and what you think is important, and learning to focus on what God thinks is important. |
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| January 11, 2008 |
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It means stripping yourself of pride, prejudice and arrogance.
I think that stripping ourselves of our pride, prejudice and arrogance are the hardest things to do. We have become so self-centered, as a society (I know I have!!) that we can't get over ourselves to help those who are in much more need than we are.
Loved it!! |
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| January 11, 2008 |
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| She is a smart young woman, that one. Thank you! |
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| January 12, 2008 |
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Hi Joey. Just got an email with your blog featured on it as I was sat preparing a sermon on Love. Was praying for inspiration, and I read your blog and got it! Thanks! Will be reading out your thoughts as part of my talk..... |
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| January 12, 2008 |
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| Thank you Joey =) God bless ya |
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| January 12, 2008 |
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| That was very touching. Bless you! |
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| January 12, 2008 |
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| Beautiful blog! |
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| January 13, 2008 |
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| God bless you, Sondra for sharing your story with me. Love often; I will remember that. |
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| January 13, 2008 |
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| I was just convicted of pride yesterday, a friend shared with me about when you do not wait or want to wait on the Lord's timing~that is pride. WOW!!! I sit at His feet. |
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| January 13, 2008 |
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Pride.... I have been humbled many times, by many people, and situations. I am still working on all of things I spoke of. God knows us... |
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| January 14, 2008 |
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| I love to love. My favorite thing to do is when going through the drive through of an fast food place is to pay for the order for the people behind me. I never know the reaction, but the joy that floods my heart is so God given. I don't do it all the time, but it is when God speaks in a little voice in my heart that I do so. I have also helped people in grocery stores. When God gave me an abundance it is only fair that I share. The thanks I get is from obeying God. There is nothing greater in life. Try it, you will love the feeling of love both to the person behind you, and from God. |
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| January 14, 2008 |
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| You are a blessing, indeed. It feels alot better giving than receiving, doesn't it... |
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| January 15, 2008 |
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Hi Joey, great blog my name is. Ace the Holy Spirit has me working on a new ministry. I might be going to Africa and India in the near future. The name of are ministry is Organization For Jesus Christ ministries. JC International enables you to make a difference and break the cycle of poverty for children at risk. Check out are new ministry when you have some time, and tell me what you think, I am almost ready to put it out on the web. http://www.freewebs.com/1952albert/ and please leave a comment thanks. JC seeks to serve at-risk children through quality, holistic care in three different programs: children’s homes, care centers, and schools. Our ministry will operate in Africa and India. Starting out I have two pastors, Fidel Donaldson and Angel ,who will be working with me but it will take some time to get it running. I will be advertising by word of mouth, that is the best way to advertise, I have a lot of people that are waiting for it to come out. When you see it tell a friend . Well that is all for now. Love,your brother in Christ, Ace |
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| January 16, 2008 |
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| This is beautiful. Honest. Real. I, too, aspire to walk in my freedom strongly enough to bend to my need for people; to not be afraid to let love in. That's just as tough as loving others...you do well in encouraging us along these lines...thank you... |
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| January 16, 2008 |
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| can we be friends? |
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| January 16, 2008 |
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You are a blessing to all of us that have read this. Any time i give out i always get some much more than what i gave and i don't relant giving it is my littel secret. It is not christ-like for you to say to someone come on the morrow whan you can heal a wound today. Someone needs help no matter how small it may be do it and watch God increace you.
2:15 If a brother or sister be naked, and destitute of daily food, 2:16 And one of you say unto them, Depart in peace, be [ye] warmed and filled; notwithstanding ye give them not those things which are needful to the body; what [doth it] profit? |
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| January 18, 2008 |
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Joey, that was a great blog. Loving until it hurts. You know that is the definition of love if you really think about it. The message of love we see from the world is it is all about me, yet true love is defined when we will give our life for a friend. Thanks for such a good encouragement to love until it hurts. Have a great weekend! |
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| February 15, 2008 |
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Joey, you are one of the great blessings that have to come me thru MyChurch! I need to read this again! |
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| February 16, 2008 |
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Farrah: Don't give up; God IS love, and He wants you to turn to Him. He is so easy to talk with. Procyon: I apprceciate what are saying - thank you! |
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| April 11, 2008 |
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| Awesome work! God bless you! |
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| April 11, 2008 |
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You know in the process of softening the heart of this Stoic Welshman from a long line of Welshmen. this blog has chinked away at a couple of bricks in the wall I used to keep the love of God and my fellow believers at bay. But I do Miss Dad, Uncle Sam, Several cousins, and Grandma Kemp, I could go on and on. But I just wanna say thanks for this touching post my dear friend.
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| April 11, 2008 |
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| Thank you Joey.yes,thats the best thing to do.Thank you.I liked what you said about grieving means we did really loved them.Just yesterday i was wondering if i really loved anyone,or was capable of,or was just an empty person trying to love,or maybe that all i thought was just a pretence.But now i know better.Thank you loads =) God bless you! |
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| April 11, 2008 |
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there are so many comments that I did not read them all. (I will come back) I have been on both sides of that coin. And I tell you what, I can't wait for it to flip again. I love to be able to give and help others. when this started (our situation) and I spoke to no one while mom and I ate PB&J and baked potatoes for 2 months, the Father reminded me how it felt to give and said I was robbing others of enjoying that. WOW. That amazed me. |
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| April 11, 2008 |
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There's an estate sale across the street for my good friend and neighbor Sarah. I blogged in memory of her when she died recently, recounting the adventures we had together. Several times I've thought I was over my grief but then today, with the sale going, it was back again. I went over there and alternated between being glad for her that she is in a wonderful place and being sad for me because I miss her. God is so good! I opened a huge zippered file and my eyes fell on the first line of a poem she had paperclipped to a page that said this: "Don't grieve for me, for now I'm free." I also read: "Perhaps my time seemed all too brief, don't lengthen it now with undue grief...I took His hand when I hard Him call, I turned my back and left it all." Life is brief. And no, Joey, we can't treasure our loved ones too much. |
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| April 11, 2008 |
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| Joey, as usual you're allowing all of us to dig up those bittersweet memories... every time I see a letter in my Grampa Pledger's handwriting, my heart swells up with joy! Then, almost immediately, I get that old familiar ache -- wishing my kids had known him, had experienced his humor, his love, his fervent love of the LORD. Our lives are richer because of those wonderful gifts of humanity that God gave us, aren't they? |
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| April 14, 2008 |
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Thank you and God Bless You this is a wonderful post and something I need to remember when i see others who are struggling, Will I stand up and be of help , or will I tuen the other way. Today i choose to stand up , Like Jesus and be of help to others in need. I kind word, a few bills, a pamphlet of Jesus words, etc. It is abou tbeing humble today, and thats how i try so hard to be again thank you and god blessu and ur family!!!!! Prayers!! |
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| April 14, 2008 |
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| Joey , you did a great job on this blog,I havent had time to read them all, but I know they are great as well, I know you have helped lots of poeple with them,even me, your sister,I love you and I'm very proud of you!!! Keep up the good work!! |
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| April 14, 2008 |
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| This is awsome! keep keepin on. |
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| April 15, 2008 |
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| Working on my attitude! |
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| April 16, 2008 |
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Thank you for sharing that story. It is always good to be reminded that we need to see things the way Jesus would and love like He does. God Bless |
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| April 16, 2008 |
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| To be like minded in Christ...tis a hard task...but one we are all supposed to strive for. Wonderful post my friend. I love you! |
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| April 17, 2008 |
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I believe that talking with God comes with learning to put your trust, and your faith in Him. When I talk with God, I'm confessing everything to Him, and I don't feel as if I have to put my words into a certain language. I talk with God because He is my Father, in Heaven... and I love Him. Monday, I asked for God's Divine Intervention in our family. God moves mountains! |
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| April 17, 2008 |
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Compassion and love. Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love I have become a sounding brass or a clanging symbol. Though I give all my good to the poor and though I give my body to be burned (or that I may boast), but have not love I am nothing. Without love we are nothing. Love is the greatest gift we can ever give. We love because He first loved us and showed us what love was. Laying down our life for another. If we love only those who love us what credit is that to us? That is merely a business exchange. I scratch your back you scratch mine. But if we love those who can not repay that is the kind of love our Saviour had for us. That is the kind of love that comes from God and that He is well pleased with. I would say love does hurt. If you are not hurting then you are not loving because love involves sacrifice, it involves being vulnerable, it involves giving, and being uncomfortable. That is true love, and if you experienced that kind of love then you indeed are rich in this world and will know no greater joy than to be loved. Love is stronger than death. The love for your grandmother and for your parents goes on both ways long after you see each other. You are blessed to be loved. Enjoy it, and bless others with your love!
God Bless You and smile becasuse you are loved most of all by the Lord and nothing can ever seperate you. From the love of God which is in Christ Jesus our Lord. |
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| April 17, 2008 |
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The world is the same as it has always been, just more people, so more of it going on. As per Loving people, they all require a balance, that does not mean that others have to love us as much as we love them, it just means love has to balanced inside of us to at least some degree so that we are neglecting ourselves or the Lord continuously for the Lord does not like that, nor does he like us to love anyone more than him and I believe him. For all the answers are in the Bible, but it must be read and reread for that is how the discovery takes place. It is important to pray before we read the Bible.
Quit babying each other and than not doing anything when it is time to do something. Stand up for being a Christian, if a school states something is wrong in being a Christian, stand up and say no there is nothing wrong with being a christian. Did you know there are three states in which there are Muslims public funded schools in which the students get to pray in several times a day. This is a fact, is are kids allow to pray in school at all, is it just me, or is there something wrong with that picture? Brothers and Sisters we need to stand up and stand together in Christ.
As per people who judge others, funny thing about life, it always takes full circle in one way or another in many cases. As far as Christians, they should be a living example for what Christ would do in any given situation, if they are not, then they are not Christians, it is just that simple. For to be about the Fathers Business, we must live in the body of Christ. We must not be afraid to say something when something needs to be said, after all yo got the biggest back up in the world if you are saying what the Lord would say, God has your back.
As per strangers, personally, I;m 6'2" with tats up and own both arms and a few whiskers on my chin. I am a Reverend who believes that the Lord wants us to be an example to others and plant his seeds in all places and they will grow in his time, not mine. So I am not too concern personally about strangers. But for a 5'2" lady weighing about 105 lbs, I would suggest, be just like me, just make sure there is someone else around you can count on. If not, pray before you say anything.
In other words, don't complain about things unless you are willing to change them yourself. This goes for all of us. Way to many Christians are being quiet and talking among themselves, when they should be talking everywhere, that is why Christianity is being taken out of everywhere, because no one is doing anything about it. Until we all become register voters to vote out politicians when they vote against the rights of Christians, we could make such a difference if we would unite in the Lords name and stand up for the Lord in all matters. This would would start to turn around. Its up to us. All of us that are Christiansl We stand together or we fall for anything. |
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| April 18, 2008 |
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I appreciate your comments. God has my back, and when I'm out and around people I don't know? I feel my ground, and talk about God. I'm not afraid. I'm in continuous prayer. Besides! What do I have to lose?
My blog is not intended to complain. It is intended to encourage others to take a leap of faith, and make a difference. To do.. not to think about doing it. |
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| April 21, 2008 |
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Joey, we have an expression in our family for when we are sad and are feeling. We say, "My heart hurts." So, my heart hurts for you! The spirit of your blog says that to me. Empathy and love. That's what Jesus would have us do! Write on, sister! |
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| April 22, 2008 |
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You are such a friend. I will write, soon. |
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| April 23, 2008 |
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| You have no idea what reading this just now did for me!!!! I literaly just got done posting a bulletin about an individual who I am having a particularly hard time loving right now. This put it all back in perspective! Thanks so much and God Bless!!!!! |
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| April 23, 2008 |
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| Isn't it amazing what God can do? |
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| April 26, 2008 |
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| i seen this on someones e-mail today, its good, hugs god bless |
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| April 26, 2008 |
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Dear Joey, this just touched my heart because I too feel like this without my precious Mother and Father, my precious Grandmother, and also my charming husband. Not a day goes by without me thinking about them an it just make me cry for missing them so much, Thank you so much for sharing this message. Hugs & God Bless You Sweet Sister Of Mine, Iris |
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| April 30, 2008 |
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This is touching my heart. Thanks for great blog God love you :) |
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| April 30, 2008 |
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Dear Gentle Spirit, God has never left you or forsaken you, He is as close as the whisper we say when words fail us. Oh, Gift of Gifts, Oh Grace of Graces That God should condescend To make my heart His dwelling place and Be my Bosom Friend |
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| May 01, 2008 |
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From the heart ...
And what God's Love is really all about.
Thank you so much! |
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| May 04, 2008 |
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You speak the heart of Jesus with your words of love and compassion! It is hard to grief loss anew when it seems the time for it has past. I think as we pass certain milestones or events and do not have those people to suport or celebrate with us, that we experience the grief anew... oh, "Mom was not here to see this!" or "I wish Grandma could be here to give me her wisdom right now!" I pray that you will have relationships where you will feel cherished and loved. God bless you! Robyn |
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| May 04, 2008 |
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Robyn,
You voiced what I feel at times. Moments when I just long to pick up the phone and call Daddy or Grandma and tell them, "I have a grandson, or "Abbie is getting married" or "Syd has a boyfriend". I think that everyone feels like that after they lose the loved ones who cared for THEM as they grew up.
God has been so wonderful to me. I have my Greg and Abbie, Dave, little Jack and Sydney as well as my siblings and Greg's Mother and Dad. The rest of the family.... we are a quilt of love.
Love and blessing to you, Joey |
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| May 07, 2008 |
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| praising god for a good friend |
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| September 29, 2008 |
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oh to be like the lowly Jesus, who was hung high and lifted up for the sins of the world, who wept over the death of a friend, that was to be raised again in that same hour......Tis so sweet to love like Jesus.....even when it hurts. I am reminded of the scripture that states "God will never forget your labor of love" Thank you my sista for birthing love to the nations through this blog.....even as I remember the love of my Nanner, uncle, cousin, godbrother,dad, sister, daughters, sons and my baby brother....I am overjoyed that I have loved deeply and was and is deeply loved. Love Sis Darla |
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| September 29, 2008 |
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| Love makes the world go around! I LOVED IT VERY UP LIFTING IT MAKES YOU THINK DOESN'T IT! Kindness is everything. |
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| September 29, 2008 |
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Sister Darla, you have me cry.. |
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| September 29, 2008 |
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MIsty, loving until it hurts... it stings and it hurts and you shed tears for other people because of it. |
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| October 15, 2008 |
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I am crying... God bless you, Brother Todd |
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| October 16, 2008 |
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| Wonderful blog, Joey. A true inspiration to find someone to be a blessing to. |
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| October 16, 2008 |
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| Coreena, thank you for taking the time to read this. It means so much to me. |
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| awesome |
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| April 19, 2009 |
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| Alec... you are the one who is pretty awesome. |
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