Hey, Jenily!  I don't think it was causing conflict, either, at least when I was on there earlier today.  :-P Don't feel guilty!  You just put the question out there! 

If any of my comments were somehow offensive, I ask forgiveness right now of all readers.  :-o 

I was thoroughly enjoying reading everyone's perspective!  Sorry you felt like you needed to take it down, sister!  Blessings and love to ya!

Don't feel guilty.  It all started in fun and I am sorry if anyone got upset.  In fact I was commenting to tell everyone "this is all in fun" when it disappeared. Imagine my surprise! lol!   I was enjoying the comments and I believe most were.  Thanks for the post!

I thought the blog was insightful and helpful for communication.  Here's what I wanted to contribute:

Yes, it's true that women say "I want X" when they really want not-X.  Not all women, but many, and the ones that do don't always do that.  Guys normally don't think like that, and it becomes difficult for a guy to determine what a woman really wants.  As a programmer, I'm particularly inept at that, as I work with clear, precise statements of fact all day long, and this is reflected in my writing (see above).  Knowing women operate this way helps, and keeps guys on their toes to understanding women, but we could use some help.  It's encouraging to know that some women speak plainly, and guys would respectfully ask more women to do this, for both our sakes.  

On top of that, women have this (apparently God-given) right to change their minds as often as they like and nobody is to contest them.  So when a woman says "I want X", she may really mean that, but later when a guy brings her X, she can say, "No, I wanted Y!".  In this case, that would be a lie since she used to want X, but nobody should care about that, because she really wants Y right now and it's up to the guy to get her Y.  Women, when you change your mind, that's okay.  It doubles the effort of the guy but I don't think guys should complain, since changing minds is what women do.  What would help is rephrasing how you change your mind, so that we don't end up second-guessing ourselves:  "Maybe I misheard her?"  "I must have screwed up somehow."  Seriously, those are the thoughts that go through guys' minds when women change their mind suddenly and don't say they changed their mind.

Your post was just fine, Jenily.  I hope mine was too.

I believe the huge problem on that blog was that few people really understood the question… it was…WHY women speak opposite? It wasn’t about good or bad, godly or ungodly! So many came shouting bible verse proving why it’s wrong.

Let’s agreed…it’s wrong! We need to speak according to the Bible! Period! But it doesn’t hide the true…MANY, MANY women speak opposite. The idea is to help those to change, finding the roots of the problem.

Particularly, I believe many women speak opposite because is the “wrong” way they find to look for “love and attention”. Unfortunately, when a woman gets married her level of expectations about her husband are too high; they expect them to be husband, friends, father, lover and priest. And no one just Jesus can fully satisfy that need.

For me that’s the root…”A demonstration of love” …We are not talking about communication, but CARE!

Online wrote, "Usually, Men know what they want to say before they speak; women gradually discover what they want to say as the conversations continue."

I didn't know that.  That's really good to know!

AddGod2YourDiet:  I'm not the person to ask.  If there was any arguing, I didn't really notice.  I think this is an excellent blog to help us all improve our communication!