Guess what?? It is snowing again!!!!  And 16 outside.  UGHHHHHHH!!!

Things have been a bit hectic around here the last little while. Got a phone call from my friend wants Darin and I to be with her and her husband to discuss a few options.  The part of me that got excited is still somewhat excited but was also brought to reality really quick. 

First question out his mouth "what do I have to do and how can I re-impliment myself back into the family and come home?" 

Without hesitation his wife says get clean and stay clean...before she could finish.. Darin asked how long has it been since you used?  The eyes start rolling the thoughts start racingUmmmm... Darin said Hours right???  Yeah man I used this morning Darin went come on ahh this afternoon too?  Yeah Man!!! 

OH at that point His wife is pissed and so am I she tightened right up.  I spoke up and said although I appreciate your honesty with that.  How can you, and I am speaking as a wife, a mother how can you sit there and expect me to answer the question you just asked when you just used before you came to see your daughters???  You want me to let you back in the house I dont think so!!  You wouldnt even be allowed around my children!  His wife was then able to speak a few things on her mind.. she talked about his priorities, and his friendships,  how it is effecting the kids and much much more.. the more she sid the more aggrivated he got and defensive, but I  had to reassure her she was safe and that it is the drug talking, the only person he seemed not to get overly defensive with was Darin which is okay.  This is the first meeting we have many many more steps to go.....

We ended the night with Darin, Him, His wife going to get him a hotel room so he could sleep and get to work for the first time in 6 weeks!!!!  (they gave him time to get help) he waited for less than 24 hours before to make any steps to that, but that is a whole nother story.  But first before goin to the hotel he must rid himself of any drugs on him... and he did just that and down the toilet they went.   It is a start but the three of us knew he is not ready and he has not hit the bottom yet... we saw the signs the manipulation, the excuses, the fact he still was using and had the intention of using more, on and on....   It is not my fault I ask for help and the doors are shut in my face.. I have no where safe to go.  I had said to him and who's fault is that...you asked we were willing to with conditions you opted the other way... SO???

Any how we have since found out he went to work yesterday (yeah) but before going to work he also had a few friends over to his hotel room!!!!  So his wife told him she will not pay for another one for him.  Darin told him last night we will not so dont bother asking.  He did come and check in last night after work, so one accountability down.. many many many more to go.. Our accountability for the three of us "helping him" is to not be enablers and that is what we need to help and support each other with.  It is a long road.. but I thank God He is in it.. I also thank God he has someone in place from my church who is helping me and advising me in many many ways... we are trusting God to allow the perfect time for him to come in and be a more active part of the process...
Please continue to pray this is a Crucial time not yet critcal but if we can stop it before it gets critical To God Be the Glory!!!  pray that we the supporters stay under the guidance and direction of the Lord, doing His will!!!