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 Have you met Mr. Right, is he a myth or a reality? Every woman is looking for the perfect man; but how is he like? In my country we call them “My principe azul”. But years go by and this guy still been a mystery for many women. Did you find him?
...Rediscovering the manhood!
Overview This is one of my favorite topics…Men! The most common saying among the single women is “Is there any good man left?” and those who are married still pondering “What did I do?”
The answer is YES! Praise the Lord, there are very good men out there! The fact you haven't found them, doesn't deny their existence.
Few months ago I wrote an article “God saved my marriage from the Divorce” In that article I speak mostly to woman and I addressed some of the things that we, as woman, need to change and improve to become the woman and wife that God wants us to be.
Today I want to speak to Men; because I look with sorrow and concern some of the issues that are affecting our relationships. Divorces increase every year, broken marriages are more common nowadays and the single adult population is growing pretty fast. I also believe that the role model, between man and woman, is shifted in our society today. For different reasons that do not engage to this post, now Mr. Mom works and dad takes care of the house; women needed to assume a new role; and in many cases it’s affecting our capacity to submit to our husband because we feel that if we are not in charge…NO BODY IS IN CHARGE! This is sad friends!
Men have lost what women are looking for. If you look closer a couple, dealing with certain problems, you’ll see a vicious circle of searching for satisfaction. They try with flowers, diamond, Valentine’s Balloons, marriage retreats and even prayer; but just few people have realized that our men have lost many important things; woman, on their side, doesn’t know what’s missing in her couple, so she isn’t able to express what she really needs!
Bible says “Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church— for we are members of his body. "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh."
1. - The first thing Man lost is a Submitted Wife. “Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord” Here is the thing, we were not created to submit but to rule and domain over things. Before our dear Eve messed it up; we were created equals! In consequence of man’s fall, we have to submit; but a woman will never submit happy to a husband IF THERE IS NOT A REFLETION OF GOD IN THEM.
We do not submit to the man…WE SUBMITT TO THE WORD DWELLING IN THAT MAN.
So, you will make a woman’s job easier is you simple submit to God first and she will do exactly the same to you.
“A real man loves Jesus” it has to be more than a bumper sticker a life style!
2. - Man lost his head! “For the husband is the head…” Is that true? Come on, look around! Take a look on those TV Shows like Everybody Loves Raymond, The King of Queen, etc…Who’s the boss? Who’s the head?
Man lost his leadership because they do not inspire trustworthiness to his mate. Leadership is not a title or a position, it’s an attitude! A man is a real leader not because he’s able to slam doors, yield louder or beat harder but because serve the most; and put himself first to serve. A real leader sacrifices himself for the sake of his family, wife or mate.
Leader lives to serve and not to be served…just like Jesus “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy” When you read that verse, you realize that the biggest expression of love is not a card, a balloon; neither a diamond’s ring is giving yourselves…To your family; not to your job, your bills, your “buddies” and internet.
A real leader uses his “authority” to edify and not for destruction! In my humble opinion, leadership is the reason why many women do not admire their partners. The fact of been a male doesn’t give you any right to be above…but because you humble yourself so you can be exalted.
The fact of been a Male do not make you a MAN!
3.- Man lost humbleness. I always say “you can see a humble man in worship”; we as woman can easily worship God, with all our heart and emotions. When a woman falls in love with God, she lost her “reputation” and begins to worship God in complete surrender and reverence.
For men it is harder to do because they found difficult to relate themselves with their emotional side; Yes! Man has an emotional side too…Just look at them during a football game. (LOL)
A man can definitely change a family if he establishes a model of worship at home. Imagine what could happen if instead of been the wife who wakes up every morning to pray for her family, he does!
Imagine the power that a man establishes in a house when his children found him on his knees praying. The whole concept about you will change on your family’s eyes; your wife will be more confident knowing that you are not walking alone, that you are not independent but a surrender guy before God!
When you worship at home you are demonstrating to your family that you are seeking that part of your manhood related to the human part of God…JESUS …WOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
4.- Man is lossing his Mission. When you go to a war, you have a mission; you follow a plan and obey the instructions given to you.
Those who are fighting for our Nation are COMMITTED TO A MISSION. And once they come back, they will present a report of their duty and mission accomplished.
Bible said “…husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church— for we are members of his body.”
The core of your mission is feed her; not only on her physical need but also in her emotional and spiritual needs. You have to take care of her, it means that you have to carefully protect and cherish her as Christ does the church.
To do that, first you have to start looking at your wife as the daughter of God. Protect her as you protect your own children because she is also a child to God. When the time comes, you’ll present her before God saying “God here is your daughter; I present her as you present the Church to yourself radiant, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish …Mission Accomplished!”
Bible says we have to be imitator of Christ, so you also have to imitate Him on this. I really believe there are godly man who are taking back his authority in Christ. After God, my hope is placed in those men like you who love God and can testify about Him with a godly life and families!
I thanks God for my husband!
Love you all! |
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Johnny |
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March 06, 2008 at 5:25am |
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So, for those men who are like this...please follow next steps:
1.- Make your wifes to sumitted God's will
2.- Men...go and get your head back...find it, and dont loose it again
3.- Men..pray and ask for humble
4.- Focus and execute your mission. |
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| Unfortunately for all the ladies, "Mr. Right" was snatched up by Lili. ;) |
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Mr. Johnny are you joking????!!!! hmmmmm :-0.....Sad, Sad, Sad I was expecting more insights. BTW you made a bad resume about Jen's post:
1.- Man submit to God's will and your wife will submit
2.- Be man and not male
3.- Humble yourself in prayer
4.- Focus and execute your mission. (at least you got this one right)
Jenily~ I think this post can save thousands of families. Good job! The holy Spirit really used you in this one!...I had a good breakfast! |
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Jenily |
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March 06, 2008 at 5:49am |
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| Thanks Jairah20; I agree with you; for that reason before I speak to man I wrote a post to woman as I mentioned above "Few months ago I wrote an article “God saved my marriage from the Divorce” In that article I speak mostly to woman and I addressed some of the things that we, as woman, need to change and improve to become the woman and wife that God wants us to be" |
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Jenily |
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March 06, 2008 at 5:50am |
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| BTW Thanks Contagious for put Johnny in place....hahahahahahahhaha...Now I'm not the only one! We love you Johnito! |
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Very well written Jenny! You are right..."My prince charming" as we call him in America does not exist in the flesh, but Spiritually speaking I'm sure there's some out there. As we single women say "all good men are either all married or gay"....LOL! Coming from a woman who's single...definitely say "Single Men that follow Christ" exactly as He wants them too IS DEFINITELY HARD TO FIND! I just pray that one day God places that kind of man in my life; a Godly man who will guide my daughther and I into full submission in Christ! I keep telling myself...
40:31 But they that wait upon the LORD shall renew [their] strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; [and] they shall walk, and not faint.
and pray I can wait until He's will be done for the good of my daughter and me!
Thanks Jeni...love ya!
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Libia |
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March 06, 2008 at 6:07am |
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| Guao! Excellent post, It really touched me. Because as woman instaed of looking for the Mr. right, we should be praying for him. We choose man based on emotions. And I know there are many good guys all around, but why we always end with the more difficult and sometime they even don't know jesus??????//....I think our lackings and emotions do let let us find the man submitted to God that you mentioned...I know there are many... As Elizabeth said I'm waiting for one! |
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Jenily |
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March 06, 2008 at 6:11am |
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Thanks Elizabeth, nice words!
Gracias edenita, you are right many time we do not pray enought for our mate before we establish a relationship. But remember even if you find the man that God wants for you, he is not going to fullfil all your needs and lackings...just Jesus does!
Both of you ..keep praying! |
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Johnny |
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March 06, 2008 at 6:21am |
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Ms or Mrs. Contagious Christian: Yes, I was joking so...don't get sad. |
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Great post Jenily... I've officially passed the one month mark of being married, so I don't have a whole lot of wisdom... but I do believe that we many times mess up our priorities. We get passionate about work, passionate about church, passionate about our friends.... and then we have nothing left to give our wives. As the scripture you pointed our says, husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, we should have this kind of love... this kind of energy... this kind of commitment for our wives. I struggle with this daily. But it all starts with our relationship with Jesus Christ... when that is not right, our marriages are in trouble. |
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Jenily |
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March 06, 2008 at 6:47am |
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| AWE!!! Matt that's a beautiful comment! gaby is a very blessed lady! |
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| Amen Matt....perfectly said "Humans mess up on their priorities", specially when it comes to work. I'm happy for your wallk with Christ....this will lead your marriage to be ever lasting since it's Christ centered! (hey I just realized it's a line from my speech at your wedding..jejeje!) oxoox |
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| LOL !!!! No, Mr.Johnny I'm not sad...I'm never sad! I'm a Joyful Lady! |
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rick |
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March 06, 2008 at 7:19am |
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For those that are praying for Mr. Right.
Just would like to encourage. GOD has already picked him out and set him aside for each of you. But what he really needs is his wife to begin to pray for him to learn what ever it is God needs to do in him before he can present him to you. That's right in GOD's eyes you are all ready married GOD just hasn't presented him to you yet. MR. right or not we men can be slow learners. So the faster he learns and GOD gets done preparing him for you.The quicker GOD will present him to you. Yes GOD will present him to you. NO need to look for him. You just keep praying for your husband, for wisdom, strenghth,peace and speed. He is a real person and he is out there, since when do you have to know someones name to lift them up and interseed for them.Also imagine the power when you first meet someone you have been praying for and crying out for on there behalf now that is love at first sight.
much much love rick
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Jenily |
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March 06, 2008 at 7:23am |
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| Wow Rick....powerful! Thanks brother for encorage my friends here! |
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Libia |
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March 06, 2008 at 7:30am |
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| AHHH!! Thank you much Rick |
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| Thanks Rick for your inspiring message! It sure brought a smile and awwwe to my face! |
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It really broke my heart "To do that, first you have to start looking at your wife as the daughter of God. Protect her as you protect your own children because she is also a child to God. When the time comes, you’ll present her before God saying “God here is your daughter; I present her as you present the Church to yourself radiant, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish …Mission Accomplished!”
I think men need to be more Father to us! I really need it! |
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| BTW Nice colors on you post! I like it all! |
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Steve |
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March 06, 2008 at 9:18am |
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| Great post Jenily. Many problems in Christians marriages exist because each person doesn't take on the role that God gave them. We need to remember that just because the wife is in submission to her husband doesn't make her inferior. I could not operate my life or my home without the help of my wife. Sometimes I do have to make a decision when we disagree on what to do but that is rare. Leaders lead by example and not by force. Jesus showed us the way when He washed the feet of the disciples. I am certainly not "Mr. Right" for everyone one but I am for my Cindy. |
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Jenily |
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March 06, 2008 at 9:22am |
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Awe! That's a nice comment steve. Thank you there is a lot of wisdom in this frase "We need to remember that just because the wife is in submission to her husband doesn't make her inferior"...Good comment.
Also Thanks Add2you...I'm glad you found interesting this post |
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| Man, That was so deep. I got ot go pray.... |
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Jenily |
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March 06, 2008 at 11:52am |
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| hahahahhahaha You sound so funny and in a hurry! |
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| If I were only thirty years younger!! |
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| I have found Mr. Right it's Jesus my savior! I just never found Miss Right that puts God frist! All the Good ones are taken! God Bless,Doyle |
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Jenily |
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March 06, 2008 at 12:36pm |
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Don't worry Golden2100 you have an eternity...
Yes! Doyle I'm so happy too because I found Mr.Right in Jesus |
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| I wish Juan can read this! I send him a linky |
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Jenily |
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March 06, 2008 at 1:03pm |
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| Ok Maria send it to him....hahhahahahaha |
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| yet another great post, im not worth , im not worthy. Seriously youve touched on the heart of one my issues. To many people claim to honor God or put God first but when the stakes or they always revert to their more basic nature. The few people I've dated claimed this but how quickly the let their true colors show:sex, drinking, etc. Couples must remeber that God comes first, we were created to worship Him. Our marrige or interpersonal relationships comes in a close second. When you take God out of the equation our personal interractions suffers. Thank you so much for writing. |
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Joey |
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March 06, 2008 at 2:21pm |
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| This was awesome. Thank you for writing it up for us. |
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JayKTX |
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March 06, 2008 at 9:54pm |
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Very good and thought-provoking post! My short answer for what makes a woman submit to her husband is for him to love her unconditionally and sacrificially as Christ loves the church. My husband is like that and I respect him greatly! |
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Jenily |
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March 07, 2008 at 6:03am |
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nbncmission...Thanks for your honesty and nice comment. This kind of post are really built up when a man express his postion about the topic...Thanks
MiaJoey...Thank you and glad you enjoy the reading
JayKTX my beutiful reader, your comments are always a warm gretting..thanks |
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Can't believe I missed this one somehow. Is there a Mr Right? Mr Right for you, yes, but even so, it will be a battle with your flesh, just like the apostle Paul said. You made awesome points I agree with. I just recently finished a book called "Love and Respect." God so totally wanted me to read it. And I couldn't afford it, so i told the Lord if He really wanted me to read it, He'd get it in to my hands...free! And ya know what? One of my friends on here had a book she just "had to" send me, and guess what it was? Yup! So anyways, it speaks of giving men unconditional respect, regardless. The Bible says respect your husbands, not respect them if they deserve it. The thing is that we are to do this as on to the Lord; as service to Him, with eternal rewards. When you overlook another offense, it is on to the Lord, when you chose to keep your mouth shut when he is making you mad, it is on to the Lord. When you look at it this way, it really does make you feel differently about it all. And your unconditonal respect will activate his unconditional love for you. So everyone wins! so many ppl try to take from their spouses what can only be found in God...and so many more break up because they lost that gushy feeling.....well, I did, but the Lord promised me it will come back as I do acts of love unto my hubby. We have been through HELL. But I know that I know that I know he is the one for me.....and if we continue to seek God, He will better our marriage. there are good godly men out there, but like you addressed here, we ought to be the godly woman to snag the godly man.....and that godly man will NOT be perfect. Sorry to burst some bubbles there. lol |
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Powerful msg Lara...I've been attentive to this post and your message speaks "TRUTH"! May I be that Godly woman for that Godly man He's preparing for me ;)
Blessings! |
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Jenily |
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March 13, 2008 at 12:19pm |
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Hello there! thanks Lara for this awesome comment!
Epale elizabeth, hello agai :-) |
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