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Question:What is the best thing Dads can give?
First i want to commend all fathers and mothers out there who work really hard to support their families
Mothers and women in general have a more nurturing, soft, gentle spirit about them. I am writing this from a fathers point of view and some of this may apply to moms as well, i pray this blesses and encourages someone.
Life is filled with work, family, traffic, fast food, grouchy people, tourists who dont know where they're going, soccer games, first steps, sick days, rent, church, friends, and many other things. The daily grind can sometimes wear on people. Us dads know this very well. We are told to work hard and support our family. Growing up i learned this very well from my father (one good thing he showed me). But that is where it stopped. Fathers have to learn to support their familys spiritually and emotionally as well. Many times i think it is perceived that Fathers are just supposed to be the "bank" of the family, the money makers, and sometimes the disciplinarian. And many times us fathers fall into this trap. After we do this for our family our job is done. But that is a horrible lie. The spirit has convicted me of this before. Fathers play a pivotal role in raising our kids. It is my prayer that Fathers everywhere dont miss their childrens child hood just b/c they are working to make money. The most valueable thing we can give our kids is not money, food, or toys, but it is of our TIME. We must make time to pour into our kids, they will only be kids for a short time, don't miss the only chance you have at being a dad. We have to do the best job we can the first time. There is not such thing as "do-overs".
One more thing that i have noticed in fathers. Dads will use this line "Well that is what my dad did". None of us had perfect childhoods, we have to REFUSE to let our childhoods be the reason or scapegoat for the way we father our kids. We have to rise above this and be the very best Dads or moms we can be. Use your childhood for the reason you are the best mom or dad ever. Sometime we may not know what to do, but let us all remember that we have the perfect father in heaven who will give us wisdom in our parenting. May God bless you all!!!
Answer: TIME |
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Bud |
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March 07, 2008 at 11:39pm |
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Thanks Sterling, those are some powerful words of conviction for me, you are so right. With me being a Dad for six kids, I know that sometimes it gets overwelming (the Grind of life). Being a Dad (or Mom) can be one of the hardest to do in this short time on earth. Thank God it's the most rewarding, gratifying, and humbling. Time with your kids is what they will remember the most and hopefully mine as well.
God Bless You,
Bud |
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| I have a deep feeling God is going to be leading me somewhere I can share this message with Parents because it has something that has greatly affected me in my life. In my heart of hearts, I believe the greatest gift parents can give is encouragement. Gifts and time are wonderful, but like for me, I struggled so much in my life and I hardly heard anything good about myself. My faults were always pointed out, but I never receieved any praise, and I grew up thinking I had nothing to offer, there was nothing good in me, and it's taken me a long time to believe that I DO have some wonderful things in me, because God put those things in me. But definitely encouragement, especially for the kids who struggle and act out. Plant some good seeds parents, give your children a future. |
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Thank you guys for you comments. Jessica that is a very great point!!!!! Maybe i should have emphasized time as "valuable time". Empty time isn't worthless, but you dont gain much from your parents just being around you. Parents indeed should be their kids biggest encouragers, in a sense parents should be their kids biggest "FAN". I went to a parenting seminar and one of the best pieces of advice i heard was this : Find as many reasons to reward or celebrate your kids.! Parents sometimes focus on what their children are doing wrong instead of focusing on what they are doing right. When they do something great, celebrate it with them, encourage them, and make it a big deal. When they mess up or fall down, do what is necessary, but then let them know they can do better and will do better. We have to remember that we have a God that is not just a God of second chances but a God of ANOTHER chance, and another, and another, and another, and............. We as parents should mimick this with our children(to a point). When our kids do something amazing we should show them just how proud we are of them, and when the do somthing a little off, its not the end of the world. Lets bless our children with encouragement and Love. Make "TIME" to do these things ;)
God Bless |
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| I didn't mean to dismiss your point about time, time is VERY important too. Both of my parents worked full time and it just wasn't an option for them to miss work, certainly not for me. So it would have meant the world to me if they did. but valuable time is right on. I'm around one parent all the time and it does nothing for me, it doesn't feed me it drains me. There is praise when I'm doing well and silence when I'm not. I know for me, it would mean the world to me if I had one of my parents show the slightest glimpse of interest in things that were of interest to me, not just me following them around doing what they want to do all the time. Just sharing that would be awesome. Love the topic, thanks for posting it Sterling. :) |
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| My dad was dry in the way he showed his love for my brothers Steve James and I growing up. His love language was one of works more than talk. He was such a great dad. He always found time to spend with us. We were very poor but that did not hinder my dad one bit from finding something fun to do ether shooting off CO2 rockets or going mountain biking in the mountains we had cheep fun. I will always remember that important life lesson that family and God give us the best joy that money can never buy!!! |
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Diana |
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March 25, 2008 at 10:19am |
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| Thank you Sterling for you wise words. You confirmed yet again what I so want my husband to hear. And I know very soon he will hear those words and no longer mourn and regret what he should have done. I have been off work for 6 weeks due to a surgery and am so grateful for the time I have be able to spend with my 3 girls. It makes a world of difference in the atmosphere in our home for me to be home when they get home from school, etc. I suffer from the guilt of a working mom, but I put my kids first when it comes to loving them and their needs as much as possible. I fortunately work for a wonderful office that even though it is a huge office sympathizes with families, Children are God's greatest gifts and we should never squander a moment. |
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Cheryl |
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March 25, 2008 at 10:23am |
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Great blog Sterling, just saw this. Tell your sweet Sara hello for me.
See ya brother~ |
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Kasey |
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March 28, 2008 at 1:41pm |
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| just seen it cool |
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| Thank you for the comments they are encouraging |
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| Our couples class was recently talking about the greatest gifts you could give your kids,and one of the men in our class,answered to love their mother.(or father).Our oldest daughter has left home and she has often commented that our marriage being so strong was a huge gift to her.The stability that we have figured into her security.Time figures in that too,because you have to spend time with each other as well as your kids.You can't bank time for tommorow,tommorow is not guaranteed and you can't get it back,and it's not a renewable resource.Great blog. |
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