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Okay, single lady, you say you want a life-long mate, huh? Positive?Well, here's another question for you... "Exactly, why do you want a husband?" I know that's a tough question-maybe even a strange question. However, it's a serious question that every single woman, particularly the single mothers, should ask themselves before they prepare to marry
Check Your Motives
Again, examine your motives for wanting a mate? Is your primary motive to experience the love and security that comes with having an emotional, spiritual and financial partner? Or is it because you're tired of the loneliness associated with being single? Or, still, do you want to marry to fill a emptiness or a void in your life? There tons of reasons women want husbands. But the question becomes the reasons the "right" reasons? Are the reasons a woman wishes to join her life to anothe person birthed from genorsity or selfishness?Sadly, many of women aren't seeking mates so that we can be a life-long blessing to someone else. Instead, many of us are actually looking for a "mini" version of God here on earth to fill those empty spaces in their dull, lonely lives.After being single for awhile, it's quite easy to trick one's self into thinking that a husband is the missing "link" in the chain of happiness, but it clearly is not. In fact, marriage can bring a host of brand new problems if your expectations of it are distorted or flawed. As you may know, there are many married women, Christian women, who are lonelier within their marriages than any single woman could ever be! Marriage May Not Be the Answer
Sorry to deliver the dreadful news, but marriage is not the answer to heal your wounded spirit or to fill the void in your life. But, there is good news. God promises to fill all of those empty places in our lives. Better still, He and He alone, has the capacity and the ability to do it! In order for Him to fill our "empty" places,we need to adopt a spirit of gratitude while discovering new and exciting ways to connect with Him. In other words, you've got to get to know yourself and your God so that you can be a complete, whole woman. You can get re-aquainted with yourself by learning to embrace and love those quirky, weird idiosyncrasies that make you uniquely you!Secondly, get to know God by spending time in His presence - just you and Him. Read His word and books about His words faithfully. Get to know what He likes and dislikes. Learn to recognize His voice when He whispers into your spirit. Surround yourself with other women who love Him and are are exploring Him just as you are!After you rediscover God and yourself, a mate that finds you will find you to be a whole, complete person with a strong spirit and wonderful insight! Your conversation will be intriguing, your opinions will be stimulating and your self-assurance will make you an invigorating to be around!
There Is HealingFinally, allow God to dig into those old wounds that have warped your perceptions about what love should be. Whether you've been tainted by past hurts, generational cycles or society's ideals, seek God for full healing and enlightening. The world is full of wounded people who have allowed past hurts to distort and corrupt their expectations of what love should be. I've encountered countless women who enter new promising relationships with a dark pessimism, always expecting the worst outcome. Don't become one of those people. Begin your journey of healing and restoration so that when blessings comes to you, you'll have healthy expectations and you'll know how to walk in faith and hopeful anticipation!
GOD BLESS YOU MY SISTER.. |
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| March 28, 2008 |
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| I need a wife!!! |
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| March 28, 2008 |
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Dear Doyle God's word say:
62:4 Thou shalt no more be termed Forsaken; neither shall thy land any more be termed Desolate: but thou shalt be called Hephzi-bah, and thy land Beulah; for Jehovah delighteth in thee, and thy land shall be married.
You need to receive in your heart this word..
God bless you my friend.. |
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| March 28, 2008 |
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This is a great message Libia. Very well written and quite powerful.
Bless your heart! |
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| March 28, 2008 |
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Great post! |
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| March 28, 2008 |
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| Thanks Michael...Good To see you... |
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| March 31, 2008 |
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Do I want a husband? Nooooooooo way! Do I want to get married? Noooooo way! I've been down the road before and it's a double cross to carry in our lives! I completely agree with you on being a single mother, since I am one...I definitely think twice of who I will marry, because it will affect my daughter as well.
You are absolutely right Libia. God needs to heal our souls of all past wounds to not let it affect any relationship. At times it's good to stay single for a while, to focus stronger in God's word, and let Him cleanse us white as snow, convert us into that beautiful, spiritually speaking, woman God wants us to be...! "When we commit our way unto the Lord, trust in Him, He shall bring it all to pass" Psalms 37:5
And then, but not till then, God will place the right person in our lives. So, I'm not truly saying I never want to remarry, but I am saying God's "my man", until HIS WILL is that God sends that special someone in our (my daughter and I) lives.
Great blog Libia...so much truth...Amen to the power of God's word in our lives!
Love ya! |
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| March 31, 2008 |
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I love you Eliza... |
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