As my melancholy heart sits here and reminisce about the evening I am overwhelmed by my day. Candles and beautiful music surround me as I swirl through many thoughts. My deepest fears were dissolved as if they never existed when I received the good news this morning from my doctor. Many Friday and Saturday nights have been spent dating my Jesus. We have been to the park, Sonic, Starbucks, and just driving around. We have laughed, cried, poured over God's word and ultimately I have trusted Him through this past 5 yrs. I have been single since 2003. Alot of nights we have spent together. Jesus has held me when I was hurt, lonely, and just needed someone. Jesus has always been faithful to me.
Now, as we sing and enjoy the jazz praise that looms in the air...I am in tears about the future. God is so amazing. If you can not see that, please come to my Jesus. I plead with you...spend a date night in the arms of the one that will never hurt you. Always has a open line for you to call. Always has a shoulder for you to cry on. Always has a heart that understands.
lol....Yes, Mike you're right...lol. As a guy and somewhat single...I don't see it as dating Jesus either. But now as for Cheryl, you go girl. Get yo date on. When I spend time with Jesus alone, It's like being with, well...Truthfully it's just not enough room on her to write. I'm getting all terry eyed now. See what yaw doin to me...:-(. He is amazing Cheryl...and I love Him sooooo much tooo.
I've been "single" for 11 years after being in a relationship for 13.5 years beforehand. In all of those 11 years, her mom still keeps in contact with me - as she regarded me as the son she never had.
She being about 73 years old now, was diagnosed with stomach cancer in November last year, and I am the only one that has supported her throughout her cancer treatment, as ther daughter and husband just don't know what to do - and just sit around and do nothing. So you can only imagine the reason me and my ex split up, as when my father died - she wasn't there. The same happened when my mother died. It was her mother that helped me and asked if I was doing OK, the rest didn't give a toss. Strange thing about it is, her daughter sent a message via her mother saying she still loves me, and would it be OK if she could talk sometime... Hmmm! For saying we haven't spoken in 11 years, now that takes a bit of swallowing, and the jury is yet to come out with a verdict. I got bitten once, I don't get bitten twice.
Anyway, from one friend to another Cheryl, raise your cup and smash it in the devil's face! You've had it, you've been through it, and you've overcome it. You're a living testimony of what God can do. And as I end this comment, I raise my cuppa to you (you see, I've just got up) and you lot are just going to bed, ha ha. CHEERS!!!!
Well that was beautiful Cheryl and touched close to home. Thank you for reminding me that Jesus is our Maker, our Savior, our Redeemer and our Husband! Beautiful song also.
God Bless you with something extra special this weekend! Cindy
Cheryl- I am excited about you and your relationship with the Lord, thank you for sharing and continue to Love on him as he Loves on you. God bless you.
Praise jesus he is our friend who sticks closer than a brother,he will never leave us nor forsake usbut,will always be there to comfort us and see us through every strom in life..... god bless you always love and hugs Debbie
Cheryl, what a beautiful way to enjoy your singleness with the Lord!! Who could possibly be a better date than Jesus! Treasured, treated with respect, and loved so deeply that he would (and did) die for you--Jesus is the perfect date-- giver of gifts, lover of all you are, understanding shoulder, your biggest cheerleader. Oh my, what a wonderful way to be intimate with our Lord. My mom recently told me that she too dates her "Daddy" (she's married--not to my dad). I think my Lord is asking me to go on a date with Him. My answer is "YES!"
I can relate to what you are saying here. Since my dad died I have spent so much more time with Jesus crying & talking . So amazing how big ourJesus is. What a loving Father He is. Praising Jesus for always being right there with us and His unfailing love for us. Thank you so much for your blog. God Bless♥
thank you so much. this really spoke to me. i've grown so far away from god that i just feel empty. i want to come back to him...but its almost like things are holding me back. i need help. please just help me. please.
Cheryl with your awesome joyful praising self..... I love this new way of thinking on singleness... a date with Jesus.. how awesome.... I know my husband will have no problem with me dating Jesus!! Love you!!
Hey, Cheryl! I have been in the same place, spending so much sweet and precious time with God, (which is part of the reason I've been on here so litte), and the more I get the more I want! God rocks!
cheryl i have been devorced since 2000 and have been hanging with jesus ever since never looking for anyone to come back in my life right yet i have been here with my children i have custody of them all three of them and i'm blessed amen GOD always pervides everything when i need it
This is great Cheryl, and it generated more thoughts and comments than you probably expected...lol. I too am single, and yes I agree whole heartedly with what you've said. One thing about Jesus; he is the ultimate date. He'll never stand you up, He's already paid the price for everything, He's always a gentleman, He doesn't ask for anything in return for His gifts, He listens to you, You can always be yourself with Him, and you never have to question His love for you. Wow, what a Savior.
Do not fear, for you will not be ashamed; Neither be disgraced, for you will not be put to shame; For you will forget the shame of your youth, And will not remember the reproach of your widowhood anymor. For your Maker is you husband, The Lord of hosts is His name; And your Redeemer is the Holy One of Israel; He is called the God of the whole earth. Isaiah 54:4-5
I spent my divorced years "holding onto Jesus" as well. I learned through my experience the meaning of "husbands love your wives as Christ loves the church". I knew how much I wanted to love my beautiful wife (my imaginary wife).
Jesus said, "If you remain in me and my words remain in you, ask whatever you wish and it will be given you" - John 15:7 (NIV)
I bought a big Body Pillow and each night, I held onto my beautiful wife who loved me. I thanked God night and day for the wonderful wife He had promised in that blanket statement - "whatever you wish".
I was divorced in August 2004. Now, I am married to a beautiful woman who God brought all the way from Texas (I live in Ohio). We married in February 2006.
I still have the "Jesus Pillow" but it lays on the floor most of the time. Now, I hold onto the fulfilled promise of God, thanking Him always for her.
Your prayers are being heard. If you want to have a godly man to hold you at night like Jesus does, just ask. He can bring him in from anywhere in the world. EVEN TEXAS! I know. He brought me my godly wife. And you know what? She feels GREAT!
I learned how much God treasures his church. I learned how much I needed to love and treasure my wife. I also learned how to pray. I was transformed by that experience.
Gee, Cheryl. My Friday nights consist of sitting in front of the TV if I can get home from work before 10 pm and simply letting my brain rest. And my Saturday nights are usually a shower and soft bed after working in the yard all day - my muscles ache. Hmm. No dates here either - and like Mike, I'm married.
Good news from the doctor...Amen! Jesus is my best friend and I love spending time with Him. I just had a day of worship with a bunch of ladies at my church. We had a seminar and I learned some new things and had a chance to meet new people and to Praise my Lord. It was a great day!
I'm single ladies!! Ya know, Jesus doesn't rub my back or my feet. I mean, this physical body needs some attention if you know what I mean. In more ways than one. It says in eccl I think, it's not good for a man to be alone. Amen to that! I taught my dog to sit and to stand up on her hind legs for a treat. Even if I could teach her to rub my back, her paws are too small. She does portray many of the qualities I want in a woman though. She's always happy to see me when I get home, likes to snuggle up next to me, likes to lick my face , ha ha jk. She's happy and doesn't worry much, oh and protects me and the house ha ha. She's the perfect dog except for an occasional flea. She is God's gift to me until the right woman comes along I guess. Oh , one more thing, she put's up with my loud music at all hours of the night. You never know when inspiration will come. -Rob
Hey Lady~ you are being so transparent, good for you. This reminds me of the song I sang during my single/ divorced yrs at a church I attended at the time. It was called "I can't live a day without you" and it spoke of being able to live without romance and someone besides Jesus to hold me. It was about Him being my all in all. I had many night like this when I was alone in those years, just me and my two small children. He was the husband who held me all together or I'd have fallen apart through all the trauma. Now that I have accepted God's perfect gift for me in an NON-ABUSIVE husband, I am learning to be loved by God through him. I would have never learned to accept love from a man had I not accepted it from my Jesus first, b/c I thought I was unlovable. Thanks for sharing, Cheryl, keep tight to your one and only~ JenBoat~
I agreewith you totally Cheryl. I wrote a blog about this subject as well a few times. And I think that unless/until God has arranged a marriage..... Then it should stay that way. I read an interesting passage in The Bible where Paul was telling people to marry if they want to but he would like to see them single because you have less stresses on your time. There is more time to spend doing for the Lord Himself. But I think that as for me God has revealed to me that my job is to seek Him not a husband. If that is His will than that's his call and I would have to be obedient in that, but if it is not then, He is all I will ever EVER need/want If He needs a man to HELP me with my MINISTRY than so be it but if not I see no point I am complete already He is my whole..... Jesus is and was the Perfect man, No Man will ever fulfill or replace His pure love.... I guess its the gift of singleness some got it, some don't but we should still have Pure Hearts and eyes toward our Brothers & Sisters.
36-38If a man has a woman friend to whom he is loyal but never intended to marry, having decided to serve God as a "single," and then changes his mind, deciding he should marry her, he should go ahead and marry. It's no sin; it's not even a "step down" from celibacy, as some say. On the other hand, if a man is comfortable in his decision for a single life in service to God and it's entirely his own conviction and not imposed on him by others, he ought to stick with it. Marriage is spiritually and morally right and not inferior to singleness in any way, although as I indicated earlier, because of the times we live in, I do have pastoral reasons for encouraging singleness.
39-40A wife must stay with her husband as long as he lives. If he dies, she is free to marry anyone she chooses. She will, of course, want to marry a believer and have the blessing of the Master. By now you know that I think she'll be better off staying single. The Master, in my opinion, thinks so, too.
23-24All of you, slave and free both, were once held hostage in a sinful society. Then a huge sum was paid out for your ransom. So please don't, out of old habit, slip back into being or doing what everyone else tells you. Friends, stay where you were called to be. God is there. Hold the high ground with him at your side.
25-28The Master did not give explicit direction regarding virgins, but as one much experienced in the mercy of the Master and loyal to him all the way, you can trust my counsel. Because of the current pressures on us from all sides, I think it would probably be best to stay just as you are. Are you married? Stay married. Are you unmarried? Don't get married. But there's certainly no sin in getting married, whether you're a virgin or not. All I am saying is that when you marry, you take on additional stress in an already stressful time, and I want to spare you if possible.
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