CHANGING YOUR ATTITUDE
“As he thinketh in his heart, so is he” (Proverbs 23:7). I want you to understand there are some undesirable attitudes controlling our lives (perhaps unknowingly to us), which needs to be transformed positively, for our own betterment & to the glory of God. Below are the ways that leads to transformation of your attitude for more good, if only you can observe & practice them accordingly: 1. RECORGNIZE THAT YOUR ATTITUDE COULD BE CHANGED:There are things in life you cannot change, such as your parents, your tribe, where you were born. But your attitude is definitely something you can change; just about all of us have areas in our thinking & beliefs that needs adjustment. Remember, your current attitudes are products of your beliefs. “Wrong beliefs produce wrong thinking, which results in a wrong attitude”. 2. EVALUTATE YOUR PRESENT ATTITUDE:Evaluating your current attitude is the most important step you must take. Be ruthless with yourself – be mercilessly honest.And then, take your attitude & expose it to the laser beam of God’s word. There are 3 key elements of attitude, which you need to understand:- Thinking- Emotion- Behaviour Each of these above-mentioned elements flows from the other:- Your thinking will affect your emotions & both will determine your behaviour- Your emotions & behaviour will then in turn further influence your thoughts But it all starts with your thinking (Proverbs 23:7). This is why transformation begins when you change your thinking. Our feelings come from our thoughts; so if we can control our “thoughts”, we can also control our “feelings”. The direction of our thought is determined by what we believe. What do you believe about yourself? What do you believe about your future? The word of God says “All things are possible to him who believes” – (Mark (:23”). I want you to ask yourself these few searching questions: - What kind of thoughts constantly dominates my mind? - What situations trigger negative thinking in me?- When & how does it start?- How can I arrest it before it gets out of hand? When you feel bad without any apparent reason, stop & ask yourself the following questions – (1) Why am I feeling the way I’m feeling right now?Verbalize your answer – if possible write it down, try to describe your feelings in words – Then ask yourself -“I’m I compelled to feel this way or do I have a choice in the matter?Infact, you will find out that 100% of the time; you have a choice! (2) Why do I do the things that I do? (3) How can I make sure my negative feelings do not degenerate into negative behaviour? Now listen, if you want your attitude to change more positively, you must first change your thinking” (Romans 12:2).“And one good way of changing your thinking is to change your vocabulary” mmmmhhhh! Again, in working to transform/change your attitude, you need to slip-up from time to time, but don’t let yesterday’s failures & tomorrow’s challenges spoil today’s possibilities. Start each day with a confession like -“this morning I choose to think positive thoughts”, I choose to have positive feelings regardless of what comes my way”, I choose to respond with positive behaviour”. TAKE NOTE OF THIS: “You can’t move from “negative thinking” to “positive thinking” without changing from “negative talking” to “positive talking”. Eliminate some words from your vocabulary such as: “I can’t”, “I’m not able”, “will I ever get a job”, “will I ever have business break-forth”, “will I ever get married”, “this course is very difficult, I don’t think I will pass it”, “I don’t have what it takes”, “I don’t believe it”, “I don’t care”, “I’m not sure I can”, “it’s impossible” “I don’t have time”. ONLINE/INTERNET ATTITUDE:You need to also change your attitude of making people fool by your non-response of mails sent to you. Understand in most cases “response is better than silence”. And when you response, stop turning the details upside down. Always get the correct fact and reply accordingly. And your yes or no or any comment will go along way than none.“That you don’t have time” is not an excuse, cus, in the first place you had time to login. Your lack of response to mails from people you know & which you’re equally supposed to reply, is just like when someone is having a physical direct discussion with you & you suddenly walk-out of the person without an answer.This kind of undesirable attitude indirectly means that – you’re calling the person a fool. And I simply call it a – “naïve & arrogant behavior”, which won’t help you in life. Stop that your “less concern & non-chalant attitude”.Discard such undisciplined behavior of yours today & transform to a better one for your now & future benefits, not matter your personality. DESIRE TO CHANGE:You must ask God to give you the desire to change & then focus your mind towards changes. And as soon as you start focusing your mind-set towards changes; your brain will begin to work faster to achieve positive results. Remember, all lasting change begins with desire & God can put the desire in your heart, if you are ready today. (Philippians 2:12, 13). TRANSLATE YOUR DESIRE INTO ACTION:Study the WORD daily – confess scriptures about those areas where you want your attitude to change, which could be – Laziness, Hot temper/Grumpiness, Lies, Cynicism, Procrastination, Lack of love, Disobidence to God's instruction & commandment, Criticism, Spiritual blindness, Stingy, etc. Declare repeatedly to yourself that “you are who God says you are”, “you can do what He says you can & you have what He says in His word that He has given you”.(Read – Proverbs 23:21). - Pray daily in faith, believing that God has answered your prayers- Be grateful & thankful to God in every circumstance you’re into & for every blessing in your life- Expect good things to happen to you- Be nice to people- Love everyone (far or near) with agape/brotherly love ASSOCIATE WITH PEOPLE WITH A POSITIVE ATTITUDE – (PROVERBS 13:20):Basically, your associations will determine your attitude. If you spend all day hanging around grouchy, ungrateful complainers, you will automatically wind-up like them too. Why? Because attitude is very contagious.So beware! TAKE ONE DAY AT A TIME:Negative attitudes were not developed in a day & would not be transformed overnight. Therefore, working to transform or changing your attitude is a gradual process, which also requires hard working. But don’t let yesterday’s failures & tomorrow’s challenges spoil today’s possibilities. Start each day with a confession, e.g -“This morning I choose to think positive thoughts, I choose to have positive feelings regardless of what comes my way, I choose to respond with positive behavior”. Remember, nobody forces you to think, feel or behave the way you do, its all your decision. Therefore, make the right decision today for better attitude & results & for your end-time accountability. The Lord will see you through!
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