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Mom, If sex is a form of love and affection between parents, why is it considered a sin if this "love" is shared before marriage?
WHAT!! are you serious!! yeah, I was asked this question by my 13 year old.
"Lord Jesus, grant me the wisdom, and disernment to be a loving, and approachable parent."
I did things growing up that I am very very ashamed of. Things, that would shatter my heart if I found out my teenage girls did. So how do I address this question with out being a complete hypocrite?
Alarming statistics remind us that, as parents, we need to work hard to keep our teenagers from making mistakes that can affect them for the rest of their lives. This is especially true regarding sex. How do we make sure they are equipped to make godly choices?
But.... I was equipped and had those same choices, I was raised in a Christian home, yet I still made life altering mistakes... how do I prevent history from repeating itself in the lives of my daughters?
If you're reluctant to speak openly with your tweens/ teens about sex, the world is more than willing to speak on your behalf-and you may not like the message they preach.
I had to step down off my soap box, and tell my girls about the real teenager I was. Tears burned my eyes as I recounted some events in my life, that I would rather they not know. But after alot of prayer, the Lord encouraged me that I can let my guard down, and share these things with my girls. They need to know the reasons I push them to remain pure, I had to provide the real life situations, and reveal to them the heartbreaking consequences.
In my heart I know it was kind of like therapy for me, as well understanding for my daughters.
Good communication is critical, If you have tweens or teens I would encourage you to speak with them openly. If you are not approachable, they will NOT come to you when it really matters. Speak with your Heavenly Father about them,and the sexual pressures they face. Pray for wisdom and discernment as you parent.Pray that, day by day, "your" lifestyle will help them to fall more in love with Jesus so they won't need the physical affection of others as strongly.
The world is coming after our children like never before. As parents we must equip them become lights in a dark world. Ask God to guide you as you seek to help your tweens/teens embrace purity and grow to become godly adults.
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| Tammy, you shared with your girls something far more powerful than teaching....you shared your experiences. (I'm tearing up a little now too, b/c I also know the ache of regret!) I'm sure they learned much more from you than they bargained for. Perhaps this is why God allows us to do really stupid things sometimes, because he knows he can rescue us later and he also knows our experiences can be used to help others with less strength and resolve than us? I don't know, just thinking... Thanks for sharing this powerful blog today! |
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Tammy, Your girls are "blessed by God" to have you for their MOM !
To answer your question.... that is God's intention.........A special kind of love for a man and his wife !!! Personally, I love the "Eve idea" ! |
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Bless you Mike, I am still recovering from writing it.
If this blog helps just one parent develope the courage to approach the topic
before they are unprepared to be approached by their children, it will be worth
every tear.
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| Thank you Paul, Being a mom to 3 three girls is just not as easy as my mom made it look. Then again, back in the day, we just didnt discuss this kinda stuff.... hence the mistakes I made... I am trusting God to make me a "life-changer" for my kids... keep me in your prayers! It is truly a full time job! |
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This is a great blog.I only wish that my mom had been more open about sex in the proper way.I put out the blogs on child molesters.My mom was one of them.
Thanx for writting such a great blog.I applaud u for ur courage in opening up with ur children.There r things that r still difficult for me and my mom to talk about to this day.God Bless u for ur openness. |
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Sue |
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May 16, 2008 at 8:46am |
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| Tammy, I love your realness here. This sounds like it was the right way for you to handle this situation, but it may not be for every family. (I know you were not saying that it is :) I have found that it is best for our family, if I teach them what the Word says and why. Letting out sins of the past, has caused nothing but harm/pain around here. Somethings are better left unsaid in some situations. But it certainly sounds like you did the right thing for your family. God bless you for being led of the Spirit in the way that you have. I just wanted to add a perspective from the other side of the coin. Hope you don't mind :) |
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Maddie- thanks for sharing, Times were different back in the day, doesnt make it right, but certain things just were not discussed. I am trying to break that old tradition, and have the lines of communication open. Thanks for reading- God Bless
Sue- I certainly agree with you, sharing some experiences of the past are not the right avenue for everyone. I started to see certain similarities in my past being re-visited with my own daughters, and just felt that showing them the whole picture might be good for all of us. We all must parent according to our own convictions and with the wisdom God gives us. Thanks for reading and commenting Sue! |
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