| I don't want a man I have to fight for.... |
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Over the years I have learned alot of hard lessons in various areas, including relationships. The hardest pill to swallow was the following, " it doesn't matter how much you love some, and will do anything for the relationship to work. At the end of the day when a person doesn't want you, baby, they do not want you & there is nothing you can do/say to change it"
After getting over the hurt of things ending with someone close to me years ago, I took inventory of myself in previous relationships. I do not get attached easily. Unlike, some women I have never been the type to feel lonely and/or sit in church begging God for a man.
Unfortunately, when I do love I tend to love hard. So when things ended with (him) back in Chicago I took time for myself. I must admit I'm finally in love with someone who truly deserves it (ME!!).
Now that I have taken a few years to be by myself I have adopted the following philosophy for any future relationship.. I DO NOT WANT A MAN I HAVE TO FIGHT FOR...
I'm not talking about fighting other females physically, it's not that serious over anyone in my book. What I mean is, I do not want to fight for someone else's time. If I'm a priority in his life then regardless of how busy his schedule is time will always be made for me. When things get to the point his homies are seeing him more than you..baby get prepared because the pink slip is right around the corner.
So here are a few steps that will work for me going forward...
* You convince a potential employer for work, a jury not to convict you, but I do not want a man I have to convince. At the end of the day if he's really interested in getting to know me, then the proper efforts will be made on his end.
Ladies, I'm not saying you cannot show interest in a man, but it has to be done the right way. For example, if I were to see someone that finally peeks my interest I will take the time to notice his character. If he passes that test I would pull him to the side and let him know I'm interested and give my number. After that I'm done. He knows how I feel, as well as how to find me.
If he's interested then he will call. If not, no problem I can easily shake the dust off and keep stepping. These days the only man I'm chasing is the Lord.
*when the warning signs appear, take heed to them instead of making excuses for it. If women are constantly throwing themselves at him, and he doesn't seem to have a problem with the attention. Maybe it's time to pull back.
*become friends in the early stages of the relationship. You would be surprised how many couples out there, that are not friends. Outside of boyfriend/girlfriend issues, they cannot hold a 5-minute conversation together.
*enjoy the ride and take it one step at a time. If it's meant to be it will work itself out.
*Lastly, when it's time to move, baby get the heck on. There is nothing worse than trying to hold on to, or chasing someone who doesn't want to get caught. At least not by you.
Well that's it for now. Keep shooting for the mark.
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