HOW TO MAKE A HOUSE A HOME

God established the order of the earth from the beginning of time. Therefore, there is an order in which a

For the family to make a house a home. The order of the household begins with God the Father,

Jesus the Christ and the Holy Comforter, man , wife and the child. The man is to provide structure for the family by being an example setter for his wife and children. In other words , the man sets the pace for the household. God has given man an awesome responsibility as headship. The man must be living a Christ centered life He is commanded to love his wife as God loves the church. Treating her with honor and respect. The Man must purpose himself to walk in love, tender hearted, compassion, understanding and with good communication. The head must not be over powering, dominating or intimidating to the wife in any way but delight himself in her. If the head of the household is out of order, then God will hold the man responsible for his actions.

The wife is the helper. She is commanded to love her husband as God loved the church. The wife is gracious, kind to her husband with her inner beauty. She respects him, honor and supports him. She is a virtuous woman. She submits to her husband, realizing that they are one with him in the Name of Jesus.

If the head of the household is telling you to do something that is out of God’s will, such as blaspheming against God then you are not obligated to submit to your husband. That is out of God’s will for your life. If the head of the household has made a wrong decision. Pray for him that he will see that a wrong decision was made and ask God to change the situation. Learn how to be quiet and seek God for answers.

Do not your allow children to get in the middle of your marriage. Children have a tendency to play one parent against the other which presents problems in most marriages. Remember, the order of the household. Work together when decisions are being made about the child(ren) They are watching you and how you handle each situation. Teach your children, pray with your children, set good examples for your children. They will appreciate you more when you spend some quality time with them. Watch what your children are bringing into the house such as video game, CD‘s . Go into there rooms and literally take a search. Why not ( they are just rooming with you). And not paying bills in your house. Teach them responsibility and respect. (most important). This is the the fifth commandment with promise. Honor and respect your parents so your days will be longer upon this earth. Children will try you to see how far that they can push you. Put the fear of God in them at an early age. God will not allow them to get away with anything so why should you. When you allow your children to get away with things, you are sending them straight to hell. Watch what they see on TV and on the computer. Children are inquisitive and all they need is one open door and the enemy is ready to try to destroy them at an early age.

Husbands and wife, seek ye first the kingdom of God and all of His righteousness and all of these things will be added unto you. The order of the household has already been established by God. All we have to is follow it. Love one another with that agape kind of love as God loves us. Ask God to change us first. Learn how to keep our tongue under the submission of the Holy Ghost. This is why Jesus left us the Holy Spirit. . We should not do or say or do anything unless we are being led by the Spirit of God. Stop pointing fingers and pursue peace in your marriage. Never shut your spouse out with the silent treatment. Do not deny your spouse sex. Remember that your body belongs to your spouse. Communication is the best source to build the marriage. If there is a communication problem in your marriage, then there is a communication problem with God. God is the one you should be communicating with first, not your friend, or neighbor. After going to God with the problem or situation, then rest in with the prayer of thanksgiving, knowing that your prayer is being answered. Now, going to others is not a bad thing. It has to be someone who you can trust to join in a prayer of agreement that has a spirit led life and someone one is a strong warrior for Christ. You cannot just go to anyone to confide personal information. Let go all bitterness, envy, strife, bad temper, evil speaking, resentment, slander abuse, bad language in the Name of Jesus. Purpose yourself to walk in love, tender hearted, compassionate, understanding and good communication. Render the enemy powerless in your marriage in the Name of Jesus. Learn how to apologize or say you are sorry even when you are not wrong. Go somewhere to cool down to discontinue the argument. Yelling and screaming never solves a problem. God is concerned about how you handle that situation, not your spouse. Never (ever) go to sleep with a problem unresolved. The enemy does not want to see the unity of the marriage because there is power. This is how you make a house a home. It’s a commitment. Amen