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In the year and a half since I’ve been active on MyChurch, many users have come and gone. In these comings and goings, I’ve observed what seem to be patterns in the use of this site. As I thought about these patterns, at least five distinct “phases” seemed to emerge.
Phase 1 – Exploration (Is this site right for me?)
New “user account” freshly created, user explores features of the website. Checks out functionality, content, and general atmosphere (“feel”) of site. User is carefully “tip-toeing” along.
Phase 2 – Embracement (Hey, I like this site.)
User develops a complete “profile”, including personal information (“About Me”), photos, background wallpaper, music player, and other content to personalize page. Begins making friends on site, posts first blog(s) and comments on others’ content. Somewhat cautious at first about interacting with other users. Still learning the website’s features, but with a purpose. Pleased with the site, the user is now “strolling along”.
Phase 3 – Euphoria (I LOVE this site!!)
Recognizes the fabulous potential to connect with others, sees interactions as a source of joy (for self and others). Frequently and confidently posting content to site. Rapidly gaining friends, including some close ones. Now familiar with a majority of the site’s features, guiding/instructing newer users on how to use site. May lose track of time spent online. Now “running at full speed” in their use of the site.
Phase 4 – Exhaustion (I love this site, but…)
Has begun to see certain downsides of online social networking. The internet can be very time consuming, leaving little time for “in-person” relationships (family, friends). Also, one or more negative personalities encountered online, marring enjoyment of site. Perceptions may seep in that the online community just isn’t loving enough, praying enough, spiritual enough, biblical enough, outgoing enough, or perhaps too hypocritical, too superficial, etc. Time online may even become tedious or stressful, no longer relaxing or eagerly anticipated. Instead of rejuvenating, time online has now become an energy taker. User is now “dragging feet”.
Phase 5 – Erraticism (I just can’t find time for that site like I used to.)
Has found being offline more relaxing than being on, and/or simply has more important things to do than interact online. Nevertheless may pop in every now and then to see how folks are doing, to see if site has changed dramatically, etc. User has generally slipped into non-active status. Is able to get site completely out of mind when not online. User is mostly “absent”.
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Do these “phases” seem valid? Could they be true with all online social networks (besides MyChurch)? Can you identify with any of these phases?
I’ve befriended quite a few people since joining MyChurch, but to be honest, many aren’t active on this site anymore. Occasionally I wonder how many of the full 150,000 membership are still active? Could there be something inherent in online social networks that leads to burnout, frustration, or disenchantment?
There also seem to be those with a never-ending supply of MyChurch energy (or Euphoria – phase 3). What keeps them/you going?
For me, it’s a shared walk with Christ. But while fellowship and sharing is great, as with everything “under the sun”, even this can lead to burnout (Exhaustion – phase 4) when not continually submitted to the lordship of our Savior. Certainly not everyone who ends up as a phase fiver has fallen away from the faith though! Indeed God legitimately leads some away from this site just as he leads others to this site. My prayer is that those who are here, are here in accordance with the Lord’s will, using the site in accordance with his will—and therefore happily camped out in phase 3!!
And if there are factors nudging us towards something that looks like phases 4 and 5 above, may we see the Lord’s leading more clearly, whether it be an adjustment in how we use MyChurch, or perhaps a graceful departure instead. Regardless of which outcome, if God is leading, then our destination is the right place to be!
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| June 04, 2008 |
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| Hey, friend! I agree with your phases and have seen what looks like others passing through them, as well. The relationships that have developed are such a blessing! I'd actually like to be on here a little more than I am able, in order to keep up with reading and writing blogs, but I'm still not one much for sitting in front of a computer. Oh, if I could only invite you all over for dinner and a chat around the kitchen table! :-) |
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| June 04, 2008 |
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| You're on for dinner, Jen!!! |
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| June 04, 2008 |
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Totally valid Mr. Mike...but I just can't see burnout on mychurch when I see the wisdom that shines through people like you....
What I love the most about this site is praying for others, and then watching God answer them...He is a Good God...I know more about some of the people on here than I do my own church family...sad but true....
However, God is in control, and He uses this site to minister to His People...How are these people burnt out viewing mychurch...I see it as an opportunity and a blessing...
Mr. Mike you are a blessing... |
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| June 04, 2008 |
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Ooh. That one hits home, Mike! Why on earth did I think I could quit my job, take on the women's ministry director position at church and start my own home-based business all in the same month?? Something had to give and I guess one thing that gave was the time I spent here. Man, I miss you guys!
And VBS is next week....
MyChurch is a great place to socialize and minister. I've seen and been a part of both here. Somehow the brick-and-mortar ministry stuff is more pressing right now, though.
Just think, when we all meet up in heaven, we'll be able to be together, visiting and praising our Savior FOREVER!! What a day, glorious day, that will be!
Hugs!! ~Sooz |
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| June 04, 2008 |
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Mike,
You have touched upon an important concept here.
The fellowship that we gain through social networking sites is really just a way of connecting with others who share our joy in participation with others in the body that we seldom - if at all - get from our fellowships within the corporate church we attend.
Sad but indicative of the society we live in.
But I would would also add that when people realize that it depends a great deal upon _their_ willingness to make their local body "a place to be" that they entere into what we may perceive as burnout. That could also be seen as just taking the flame they had kindled here and are passing it on!
I have been an ardent poster to many forums over the last 9 years and know that people do go through the stages you describe. In fairness, we must assume that in all things those who truly love the Lord know that we must approach all things in moderation! Even myChurch.org! :)
Blessing!
LV |
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| June 05, 2008 |
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LOL... Oh yeah! You nailed it! And I'm stuck in 3 and hope I never leave it.
What keeps the 3ers there? Praying for and with Gods people!
Seeing the growth in lives and answers.
Yup, it's the shared walk with the Lord.
Supporting and building each other.
Crying with each other when we need and sharing our lives. |
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| June 05, 2008 |
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Mike, Here's my thinking on the matter, speaking for myself only of course, I believe the concept of "social network" is still fairly new to many people as is internet activity, meaning that for most people they are just getting used to being on the internet beyond looking for info and such. For the younger generation this is not a problem, but for many of us older ones, it's still a challenge. We have so much to do and not a lot of time to get it all done, and to top it off we add on a social network or two... wow. For me personally, I've gone through each of the above, however, it's really about time management... first realizing that MyChurch is yet another opportunity to minister and fellowship with people that I know I would never have met personally, and accepting that this is all in God's plan, therefore, I must make the time to fit it all in. For me it's about managing my time, and doing what the Lord says do, knowing that I can't do it all, but then I'm not asked to do it all, just my part. There's a whole lot of "agape" going on in this place. Pastor Aminata |
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| June 05, 2008 |
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| You nailed it MIke! I feel that I am still in phase 3 but phase 4 comes to mind.. For whatever reason the Lord has me being quiet but I am still commenting as much as possible on all the wonderful blogs and trying to keep up with everyone. GREAT Blog!! |
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| June 05, 2008 |
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Thanks Suga, from the bottom of my heart! Speaking of hearts, I believe it's hearts for the Lord that are the ENGINE that runs this place. People filled with the Spirit (in their heart), reaching out to folks in LOVE.
What drives people away? Perhaps they lose sight of God IN THIS PLACE? ...and trust me, he is...he never leaves in fact.
(hmm, those are good thoughts, why the heck aren't in the original blog?) |
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| June 05, 2008 |
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Mike : While reading this I thought about physical churches today......if you think about it, it's the same way in the churches we walk into ;)
People who come and join churches really do go through these stages. I have before! |
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| June 05, 2008 |
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| Interesting post Mike. |
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| June 05, 2008 |
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I think I'm at 3.5..no 3.75..3.72..a bit unstable right now.
I've been on many I-net groups. In fact that's how Alice and I met :). I am amazed, impressed. and glad that MyChurch is still going strong with so many members now! Usually it's the numbers that kill us. MyChurch is definitely a CUT-ABOVE!! |
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| June 05, 2008 |
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Thanks so much Cheryl! As with everything I write, this is overwhelmingly positive...but there is a warning, for those who look for it.
Pastor Aminata...how very thoughtful, and thought-provoking. Good analysis! (oh, btw, we miss your participation in all this agape!) |
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| June 05, 2008 |
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Restore, this is why you have this name. Pastor Aminata |
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| June 05, 2008 |
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Mike, I am coming to grips that I need to tone down and take time off. I felt myself getting addicted to the free expression of thought and the minstry opportunity, and no doubt the affirmation that comes with people agreeing with or liking what you say. I think the problem with these networks is that fact that there is an aspect that it is not real. Some are real, maybe too rea (honest)l, and others change their names, have multiple accounts etc...and it leads to a lot of confusion. There is a fact that this can be a real time stealer and more of a time drain emotionally and ministerially than what you get in return.
But with all that said, I have found this to be a loving caring community. Good dialouge, and I have been blessed to learn a lot from others. For me too I think it is a great guage of pop culture and where people are in their walk with the Lord. It helps me become a more effictive minister. |
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| June 05, 2008 |
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| LV, interesting point, that the fellowship we get on a website, with people we've never "met", can be (or seem to be) better than the fellowship we experience at our local church. WOW is that an eye opener! I wonder if others see this as well? |
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| June 05, 2008 |
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| Yes, Cindy... it does happen in about the same stages in the Church. Usually somewhere- someone -offended someone- and things change. That happens here to unfortunately. we are the Body of Christ. We should do everything we can to do all in that Agape Love! |
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| June 05, 2008 |
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| Todd, hmm, I think that is exactly my point...or at least one of them. The "too much of a good thing" factor......I've been there. I'm afraid many have, which is why a lot of really nice members seem to run out of gas and disappear w/o warning. Deb speculated recently about those who leave quietly, never to hear from again. I think this may be an explanation more often than not. |
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| June 05, 2008 |
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| Amen Bub! |
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| June 05, 2008 |
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| Ruth (Bubbles), I too was contemplating what Cindy Lou Who said. It is sad when folks depart from us here, but even worse when they drift away from their brick-n-mortar fellowships for these reasons. We all need community, and face-to-face doesn't get more real! |
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| June 05, 2008 |
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Mike,
I agree with your phases and I've been through them all. There are hundreds of social network opportunities on-line and they can consume way too much time. I have had to cut back. I still use the site to post my blogs and e-mail people to visit it to read them. But one negative is, if you are not a regular on mychurch, it seems your blogs don't get seen or commented on. |
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| June 05, 2008 |
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Right on Target, Mike! I've seen these phases in other online networking groups like Facebook and MySpace. I'm stuck in Phase 3, but as in all things...in moderation. I started my church's site and am happy to see it grow. Several things come to mind: 1) God has intended life to be work (effort put forth). It's not meant to be easy (or the lazy way). This is true in all aspects of our lives, not just online forums. These phases occur in every aspect of our lives. 2) Our phases are dependent on the amount of work put into it. You know...out of sight out of mind. But staying with moderation keeps it in our sight and from burning out. 3) Even though MyChurch is a really good online networking group that is safer than most others, it still isn't perfect. That's because we are not perfect. Therefore our need for each other to encourage, lift up, and hold accountable. And as I tell my daughter, you only post online what you wouldn't mind if the whole world reads. If only we could live all aspects of our lives with that in mind. That would be true integrity! And isn't that what God would like for us? Full of His love! In my mind constantly..."His thoughts! His words! His actions!"..."What next would serve Him best?"..."We are the messenger's of God's love and purpose to the world." "Can God mess up your plans without you becoming resentful?" "Your actions speak so loud, I can't hear what you are saying." "Sin is preceeded by In-Gratitude." I have these posted all over my work space and at home to remind me what I am really here for. For God's purpose! May God infiltrate your lives also!! |
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| June 05, 2008 |
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Brad, good to hear from you buddy!! You said "if you are not a regular on mychurch, it seems your blogs don't get seen or commented on." Yes, that is a drag. Other than folks here being on the lookout for new posts by old friends, I'm not sure what the solution is. One of the bonafide ways to get reads is to participate in the community -- that way folks are regularly stopping by your profile, or are notified of your latest postings in their "What's Fresh" section.
BTW, I too have personal experience w/all the phases I listed....though fortunately my time spent in 4 & 5 has been pretty minimal. I pray your ministry is doing well. God bless you Brad. |
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| June 05, 2008 |
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MT, wow your comment reflects a lot of thought!! Thanks! Great reading! (I expect nothing less from you! lol)
"stuck in Phase 3, but as in all things...in moderation" ... an excellent place to be...in fact I can't think of anyplace better! |
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| June 05, 2008 |
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Mike, "LV, interesting point, that the fellowship we get on a website, with people we've never "met", can be (or seem to be) better than the fellowship we experience at our local church. WOW is that an eye opener! I wonder if others see this as well?"
I was actually thinking along these same lines as you and LV mentioned, the other day. Sometimes I think we here online open up more to each other than we do in person. I don't know exactly why, but I have found myself doing it. I have started thinking I need to plug in more completely in my local church and develope stronger connections there, hopefully without losing the new friends I have never personally met here. I think it takes intentional actions to develope close friends and I pray God will help each of us here take those intentional steps to be fully plugged in both in our local church body and here on the net.
thanks for starting this conversation. |
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| June 05, 2008 |
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Mike n Laura, You are so right! After reading this I realized that I had started to take this site for granted. I really don't want to do that. It has offered me a way to connect to new friends, old friends, and friends from my own church that I haven't yet had a chance to get to know. We're a large church and its easy to get used to the fact that you're not going to know everyone....but through MyChurch, I've been able to really know people from my own church family! What a blessing that has been. There are those that consider online friendships to be less than those in real life, and I do admit that they have their obvious limitations....but let's face it....these friendships are very real and the encouragement we feel when we are "with" our friends on MyChurch is just as real. |
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| June 05, 2008 |
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I agree you are right on this has been a real blessing for me to be able
to connect to our brothers and sisters in Christ God Bless |
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| June 05, 2008 |
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| Cathy, great to meet you!! Thanks for the comment, I pray you find as many blessings here as I have! |
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| June 05, 2008 |
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JanetA, great point....this site gives us a way to introduce ourselves to others within our own churches!! I've met several folks at our church that otherwise might not have met. Having dialogued with one person on here for about a week, I walked up to her at church and we hugged as if we'd known each other for years....awesome!! Glenn, good point! Great relationships never just happen. They always require intentional action! Another poignant comment, thanks bro! |
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| June 05, 2008 |
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Well as usual...this is BRILLIANT!! I'm basking in Phase THREE!!
God just rocks and so does MyChurch!! |
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| June 05, 2008 |
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Cella, darn right you were prayed back. We begged and pleaded too! Folks (like you!) who have become a part of the community must recognize that where you go, our hearts go too! Thanks Cher! Glad to see you're with us in phase 3!! (had a feeling that's where you were!) |
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| June 05, 2008 |
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Man, you don't need any more comments to your blog, Mike...all great observations. but let me quickly mention that I started out with MyChurch as a way to connect with other church members. Specifically, we were starting to talk about a multi-site ministry and we needed a forum. I chose MyChurch because it was safe, primarily. My church friends haven't been real excited about joining in, but I've tried to keep it interesting for them anyway.
But then I started to read a few blogs, make a few friends, and write a few blogs myself. Here's what I like about it. I've always been a writer (good or bad is up to the reader), so I get the good fortune to write about things that interest me. And a bonus is that there are actually readers out there that provide feedback. THAT I like. So, I'm the one who is benefiting from this forum.
I could go on about how I enjoy the encouragement from others like you, Mike, and how I enjoy commenting and perhaps helping others to be encouraged, and I enjoy reading about things I never thought of before from people of all denominations and regions, but I won't. Suffice it to say that I'm probably a high two or 3. Now if I can only manage my time.....
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| June 05, 2008 |
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Gotta chime in with Ed.... I love writing. So, Phase 3 and blinking. (Enjoying blogging, but trying to be moderate.) Sharing time with family and work is difficult. (I have several blogs in draft mode, and y'all are so blessed that they haven't seen the light of day yet!) But I love it here! My greatest problem is keeping up with all of the GREAT blogs. Mike, your prolific writings come to mind! And I could name many prolific others! Not sure how y'all have time to crank out such good stuff, and not get paid for it! We are greatly blessed, aren't we? Thanks, all, for your thoughts and lives on display! |
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| June 06, 2008 |
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Very interesting post, Mike. As I was reading your phases, I was thinking of how very similar that is to church life. We see the same kinds of phases within our churches.
I too have wondered how many of the 150,000 members have been on the site, in the past month or so. I joined in March 2007 with the purpose of bringing my own church here. 13 have joined. Two of them ever learned to use the site, and none are active, so in my personal church the active/inactive ratio is 1/12. (I'm the 1.) We are currently searching for a fulltime youth and childen's minister, and I am hoping to bring him/her onboard for a new jumpstart of interest. |
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| June 06, 2008 |
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Hal, blog comments are sometimes even more fun and interesting reading than blogs themselves.... the interaction is wonderful! Glad to see you are in ph. 3, what a great place to be! Ed, it has been most enjoyable meeting and getting to know you better here. I see the personal interaction has been particularly enjoyable for you too! Encouragement is the name of the game! Hope you remain in ph 3 forever! ps... You picked the same text color as Jen I think. :-) Kathy, several have commented like you how they see the same/similar phases in their churches as well. Sad... but true! How do we remain in phase 3? Well, a dedicate, disciplined pursuit of the Lord and his will certainly helps, and may even be the key! I too was one of the first from our church to join here. Actually Laura signed us up, then did her own vanishing act. :-( We had over 100 folks from our church sign up, spurred by our pastor promoting the site from the pulpit. Then he stopped blogging and talking about MyChurch, and the people followed suit. :-( Currently there are about 5 people from our church still active here, including our assistant pastor, who actually took an extended break from here himself before returning recently to start posting daily devotions (from the book of Acts). This site is geared mostly towards churches, as a tool to foster communication within them. It does disappoint me that our church hasn't utilized this site more. BUT... as we all know, there are many other benefits of MyChurch.org, namely meeting YOU!! (and the many other wonderful brothers and sisters worldwide!) |
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| June 06, 2008 |
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Well put Mike I think with my current eyesight capabilities.
Blessings,
David |
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| June 06, 2008 |
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| Well, I gotta say I'm a 3! This site is such a blessing for me...you see, when hubby's MS is bad, he sleeps and I don't want to leave him alone (due to the fact that sometimes when he gets up, he falls).....so I'm right here in the room with him and I have fellowship!!!!!!!! |
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| June 06, 2008 |
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| I'm staying put right here in #3! I love, love, love it! I also started here when someone from my church suggested that we use it as a means of information for the students in our Bible College. Most of the students joined, and then some other church members, but I can't understand why they don't all join! I am uplifted by all of you each and every day, and enjoy the fellowship so much! |
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| June 06, 2008 |
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| Hey Mike, great blog, and I can relate to most all of the things you listed...especially right now, as summer is here and there is a lot of outside work that needs done, and my cat being sick, and I am just not feeling like I want to be on the computer as much right now. I still love the site, but I can't seem to find the time I did before. I still try to jump on here every day, but sometimes I don't feel like doing much. I love to write, and I love to read the blogs, so I know when my life slows down a bit, I will be more active. Right now, I am feeling the love and support and prayers of many on behalf of my sick cat. I am so glad that this site exists for people like me. |
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| June 06, 2008 |
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"I still love the site, but I can't seem to find the time I did before." Deb, funny, your words come from my thoughts on phases 4 and 5 almost verbatim. Did you mean to do this? I feel for you!! We all go through seasons where we feel beleaguered and fatigued. The Lord may be leading you to minister elsewhere, or he may be allowing trials for other reasons. Either way, I hope it passes quickly for you!! Hope you continue blogging your insights on life w/Christ, many enjoy reading them!! |
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| June 06, 2008 |
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phase 3, Minstry opportunities are endless. I love the idea of planting seeds in minstry through blogging. The people who have ministered to me have humbled me and helped me become a better minister. I am so grateful to 'mychurch'. The friends I have made are true God connections. Of course we must use restraint. Every God opportunity is not "your" opportunity. Thanks for reminding us all that we should be stewards of our time. |
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| June 06, 2008 |
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Of course we must use restraint. Every God opportunity is not "your" opportunity.
Could it be said any better? I don't think so! Thanks revstarr! |
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| June 06, 2008 |
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| Hi Mike, Great post. So far I think I'm the only one mentioning phase 2!! I'm also in phase 3 &4, although not for the reasons you mention. It's more time management and being tired after a long day at work and caring for the kiddies. Plus I like to read Mychurch blogs when I'm truly in a place to reflect on what's being said. Having said that, it just amazes me that so many people have developed this kind of a friendship on the internet. |
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| June 06, 2008 |
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Hi Mike,
I'm definately Phase III. I feel safe and very dogly.
I spend 2-4 hours per day reading and commenting on blogs. I love it because I learn so much from so many people. I feel free to open, honest and able to express myself, and the environment is so friendly! I write blogs, some weeks one, some weeks more. Sometimes I go for 2-3 weeks without writing and someone will send me a note to check on me. |
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| June 06, 2008 |
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Joey, you bet. You go that long, we're comin after ya!
Stacey, hang in phase 2 for a while! No hurry getting to 3. It's a lot of fun and all, but we want you with us a long time, so pace yourself! And that goes for C3 too!!
Oh, Ms Carol Hall, I'm thrilled to hear of your residence in phase 3 too! Yes, do encourage the rest of your bible college students to join. Biblically literate kids, that's JUST what we need around here. |
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| June 07, 2008 |
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Yes, it's still phase 3 for me.
I don't always have time , but when I do I find my old blog favs, like yours or maybe explore a few new ones, as you have said, many come and go. |
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| June 07, 2008 |
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Victorious, happy to hear you're in such a good place! I really do pray the Lord keeps you there. There's no shame in finding ourselves in phases 4 or 5, if the Lord is leading us to replace our MyChurch time with family time, or ministry elsewhere, or some other priority. But I myself feel slightly ashamed to admit I've experienced phase 4/5 over the last two months, due mainly to some negative experiences and "negative personalities". Was the Lord trying to use them to lead me elsewhere? I don't think so, but I'm still searching the Lord for answers. For now I'm back in phase 3, though at a different pace than before. |
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| June 07, 2008 |
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| Good point, mine is phase 2 and phase 3. Thank you, Mike and Laura! |
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| June 07, 2008 |
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It's good that you go with the seasons, Kim. When we fight them, I think we get our priorities out of whack.... a bad thing. Good to see you drop in...as always!
Thanks Della, I'm happy you've "embraced" MyChurch. Hang onto it...and us! :-) |
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| June 07, 2008 |
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Very interesting, Mike. I have to see where I fit in on this.
Thanks |
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| June 07, 2008 |
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| Well, Mike....I would have to say that I am a phase 3 myself. I have not been a mychurcher for a long time, but have gained much encouragement and love from this site, and sad to say in a lot of ways...more encouragement than in my "real life". Does that make sense? I am just now getting to this blog because the last few days I have been going through some really difficult issues and shall we say life lessons in "friendship". And right now...I'll take my online friendships that I have developed here anyday over what I thought I had here in the real world. (now, there is one person on this site that is in my "real world" that I have yet to meet and I am hoping that she and I can get to know each other as great friends) But there is wonderful encouragement here and great things to be said about this site. I'm sure that there are some that have left for not so great reasons....but for now...I like being here...and I will stay, because I like it! And I like this Church! |
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| June 07, 2008 |
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Mike,
I frequently go trolling through the site looking for interesting or challenging blogs. I usually check 1-2 times a day, every day. I've only created a handful of blogs, but I've commented on a lot of blogs.
The phases you outlined are very close to my own experiences on a number of fronts (hobbies for instance).
I attempted to get something going with a redesign effort of our church's webpage and with a ministry that I run to fold mychurch into it, but it never got any legs. So to some extent the experiment of mychurch is somewhat over, but I continue to see value in continuing to participate by looking for blogs that challenge my faith and encountering those opportunities to encourage those who honestly ask for help in growing their faith.
And I've found that when I'm off-line for a while I miss connecting with some on-line personalities I now regard as friends.
Gene
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| June 08, 2008 |
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Mike, You know how I always seem to see the "other" side of things, and well, this time is no exception. Honestly, I have found myself praying that God would move us -- and by us I mean all of us, His Body, His Church -- out of our modern-day "social networking" comfort-caves and back into face-to-face ministering. Does this mean I don't think these types of places are good? Of course not. It means I think they're like chocolate, car-tweaking and most hobbies: they can be good and nice when enjoyed in the proper proportions, but seem to almost try in and of themselves to draw (or drag) you more and more fully into their clutches, until they begin taking away the very vitality that we think (or worse yet, feel like) they're giving us. In other words, they can behave like a normal dose of extra-strength Tylenol when we have a headache, but after some time they get us to start taking "higher doses" to get the same "relief", when in actuality what we're doing is poisoning ourselves. Perhaps this illustration will better convey the point: salt does NOTHING while it's in the jar with all the other salt. It's when you take it out of the jar and spread it around where there is no salt that it begins to manifest it's powerful qualities. Or like the proverbial "light under a bushel"...that's not where it's supposed to be, but rather on a lampstand so the light can be seen by all. It's nice to sit and enjoy fellowship, whether amongst warm bodies or cool keyboards, but the fact remains that fellowship is supposed to be more of a battery-recharger than a day-in, day-out place of constancy -- how will the batteries ever begin to put OUT energy if they're always sitting in the charger? Don't get me wrong, I'm not "bah-humbug"-ing fellowship by any means...I love fellowship, and I love seeing others being warmed by the fire that fellowship so wonderfully kindles. But at the same time, I see many MANY people who allow themselves to become so enthralled with that warmth that they never want to go back out in the cold. And THAT, my beloved brother, is exactly where the rub comes. Because Jesus minced no words when He gave us His command to "go OUT...", not "stay home". And let's not forget that one of satan's greatest tools for getting the saints off-track is mis-direction -- he doesn't have to get us doing "sinful" things, just get us to not do the things we should be doing. This really wasn't supposed to be a long response, but you know me I guess... :) There are many valid reasons to be here interacting with each other. But there are about six billion reasons to be out in the world being salt and light, and taking Jesus to those who DON'T know Him yet. Just my two cents. In His service, and yours,
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| June 08, 2008 |
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| Mike, my current phase is not there -- Persecution (?). I posted a series hoping to bring about greater understanding between Christians only to be severely harrassed for having included Catholics as fellow Christians. The accusations got so bad in the end, that I had to delete all posts made by a couple of individuals. The result? I have gone quiet for a while. Blessings to you! |
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| June 08, 2008 |
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Grant, I'm sorry to hear. I think we can safely say, persecution = harassment, and there are tools on this site to deal with that. I pray they are effective for you. ps...I loved that series you wrote!!
Jason, thanks for offering us the "other side", ALWAYS important to consider. Weelllll, can't disagree at all, if online social networking is preventing the salt from being applied to the outside world, then there is a problem. And for some, maybe this is the case. You mentioned the key: "when enjoyed in the proper proportions". Like everything, balance is so important. We can also get stuck inside the church walls, doing good things like fellowship, prayer, worship..... Let's also keep Romans 14:23 - "everything that does not come from faith is sin."
Gene, sorry your MyChurch experiment wasn't successful. Sounds like our own church's experience, though I would imagine for different reasons. I also thought your observation about hobbies interesting. Thanks for sharing your perspective!
Lara, you're RIGHT!! The negs are in our churches, as well as in our online networks. It's called PEOPLE! My own idealized view of MyChurch was punctured almost immediately when I joined. It took me about 2 days before I got reemed for something I had posted. But since, I have learned how to avoid that sort of thing. Or so I thought!!! I'm gradually coming around again. Thanks for being a friend, Lara!
Val, I'm thrilled to hear you are in phase 3....a great place to be! Real friends you will find here, and sometimes you get to meet in person - a real treat! And let us not be mistaken, all the "crap" you can deal with from people in person, you will find here, and vice versa. Of course, gossip and backstabbing might be a little harder to accomplish online...right?
Thanks JR!! You seem like a phase 5 my friend. Hopefully a joyous 5 too. (ps... Miss you!) |
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| June 08, 2008 |
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THTMS- don't you see that it is "prep"? Most people do not find this kind of God given love in their Churches. How sad is that? If the Body of Christ is not built up and edified how can it do any work? It is spreading! Praise God!
I so agree that the comments are the best part of bloging! Cuz then you get -- well, THIS. (looong blog- LOL)
Mike you always get everyones thought processes grinding. I love it! |
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| June 08, 2008 |
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| Thanks Ruth....it's enjoyable being a "facilitator"...I play the same role in my small group! |
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| June 08, 2008 |
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| LOL! |
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| June 08, 2008 |
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Hi Thomas!
(I hope that you are laughing "with" us... lol) |
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| June 08, 2008 |
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Yes, you nailed it. I would add that everything in our life goes through a "reality check." One of my favorite sermons was on "The Four R's of Life." Romance is first. We fall in love with the new person or the new activity. After that comes Reality. We learn more and see a bigger picture. Rejection is 3rd. Either something inside of us or someone close to us points out all the negatives. The 4th R is Redemption. If God is in this relationship or activity, He will redeem it. I've made some connections on MyChurch that are important to me and I maintain those. I started out blogging a lot but every once in a while I feel impressed by God to take a break. I'm in one of those breaks now. I know I will write again because I am a writer. But I am not sure I will blog seriously on MyChurch again because I have found that publications that pay want original writing, not something that has already appeared in print. I occasionally do something light or fun here and I love the relational part of those blogs, whether they are mine or somebody else's - that is what works for me now. Two things more I'd like to say about why I don't spend as much time on MyChurch as I used to: 1) There are more people and more blogs and I get overwhelmed and feel I can't keep up! 2) I have heard the young generation of today called the "We" generation and I think that may be why some people blog what seems continuously. There are some good things to be said about that mentality but there is no way I am going to read 3 blogs by the same person in one day! Finally, something you pointed out in an excellent past post you did on blogging also comes to mind about why I spend less time on MyChurch: I am sure there are some excellent blogs I do not read simply because they are too long and/or they are formatted poorly. I look at those long blogs with no breaks that just go on and on and I sigh and go on to something easier to read. Maybe it's time for you to add to and repost that earlier blog of yours! I think you said five paragraphs is enough and I agree with that! |
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| June 08, 2008 |
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Thank You nice to meet you too :)
God Bless You |
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| June 09, 2008 |
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Ah Jay (Janell) - thanks for posting the 4 R's. There is somewhat of a parallel there. I hope it's safe to take the 4th R for granted here! :-)
And yes, I KNOW what you mean about being overwhelmed at the # of blogs here! I've been tempted lately to blog on how hard it is to keep up with all the GREAT blogs! (Seriously, was there a course on blog writing recently that I missed? There are so many good ones!!!) 3 blogs in a day is TOO MUCH!! (Heck, these days I struggle to get 3 written in a week!)
For some reason I was started to read that you remembered something I wrote a while ago. I am humbled. Yes, there were some good pointers there, perhaps I could repost it, possibly at the risk of going through the debate over "ideal blogs" once again...LOL.
I ALWAYS appreciate your comments Janell, so organized, so poignant, so helpful...thanks! |
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| June 09, 2008 |
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I have been on other sites and even invited people to join them, however MyChurch is HOME. I have met some of the nicest people, God fearing, Holy Ghost filled, will correct you in love and I cannot leave. The blogs are awesome, the love is genuine. God knows where he wants you and he put me here. Love all of ya!!!!!! |
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| June 10, 2008 |
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| You talkin bout me??????????? You know it' s not cause i don't want to get on here but i've found myself in the "oreo" generation....What's that you say??? My question too when the lady first said it to me.....I am stuck between my parents and grandkids as a care giver.....the only thing i liked about that phrase is that i get to be the good stuff in the middle....hehehehehe.....love to you and your family my little brother....i will be back.... |
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| June 11, 2008 |
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Home Sweet Home !! |
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| June 11, 2008 |
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 Praise God for mychurch
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| June 13, 2008 |
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| Mike, I absolutely adore my church but at certain times of the year I am unable to get on as much as I like because of other committments that put limits on my computer time. I personally love all the friends I have met through here and all the love and encouragement. At this time of year my own personal ministry takes me in a different direction like I said making my time limited. So please forgive me and dont delete me as this is my season to go and plant the seeds amongst some of God's Children whom He has placed in my care! I will be on sparaticlly checking on all of you and when I am away I am praying for you all!! |
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| June 13, 2008 |
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No worries, beautyforashes. You'll never be deleted! (Actually I'm not really sure what you mean by that, but that's ok --- it won't happen, whatever it is!)
Your personal ministry is WAY more important than blogging on MyChurch....I'm glad you are so in tune with your ministry, I pray the LORD continues to bless people through you!! (Thanks for dropping in, I'm glad you commented.) |
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| June 13, 2008 |
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| Mike- I meant nothing personal by the delete comment. I had people delete me in the past when I was busy and not checking my church that often so I just enjoy reading your post and fellowshipping with you just didnt want you to think I went MIA!!! Be Blessed |
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| June 13, 2008 |
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Um, cool! I'll put you down for phase 3 then, Cathy!
Thanks beauty-- it's a joy fellowshipping w/you too. Hope everyone reads your testimony!! |
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| June 13, 2008 |
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| Mike, Thanks for your encouragement. With that and the encouragement of others, I have deleted the comments that come from (er) questionable sources or motives, and now am much more at peace. I suppose I could liken it to the stages of adaptation to a new country, job or even moving interstate -- 1. tourist, 2. depression, 3. coping, 4 thriving. I am now coping and moving on towards thriving. Where does that put me on your scale? |
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| June 13, 2008 |
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| Mike, Mike , Mike, I don't know how in the world i missed this blog, "THIS IS GREAT" Brother you have hit the nail on the head with this, and I think that everyone who comes to this site should read it. I love this site and have been led to it for a purpose and that's why I am still here and active" but Man this is needed, and I think the Lord is pleased that you followed the Holy Spirit in writing it. I know he has because Flesh and blood did not reveal this to you. God bless you and please in some way "Please direct the new people to read this" God bless you. |
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| June 13, 2008 |
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Grant - very glad to hear you're in that place of peace...coping, towards thriving...that is very encouraging to hear. Your posts are appreciated! I would think you fall between phases 3 & 4, deriving some deep enjoyment and satisfaction from the site, but with an eye on the potential negatives, perhaps some lessons learned tempering that "euphoria". Just my opinion! Thanks for dropping in. Keith, I would appreciate suggestions on how to get newer users to read it. The benefit I see in folks reading this who might be in the early stages of MyChurch/online social networks is, they might realize the importance of balance, guarding against burnout or false expectations. Thanks for your kind words brother! |
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| June 13, 2008 |
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This is my very first time to respond on MYCHURCH!........so I guess I'm in phase 1...!!!!!. I just joined today, was invited by a friend. I also agree with your phases. I have found myself in many of these phases for other sites I've visited and became familar with them. |
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| June 13, 2008 |
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| gospelgirl, welcome to MyChurch!! and welcome to your first phase! lol |
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| June 13, 2008 |
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| You missed one. "Waiting for the New Testament stuff to get done so my normal blog posts don't get lost in the mix." Actually that's somehwat unfair as I've been busy enough that I've been OK with the "excuse". |
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| June 13, 2008 |
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| Don't make excuses, just pay some kid to make a webpage for you that lists all your blogs w/links to each! |
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| June 14, 2008 |
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How come mine is an excuse and the rest are stages, hmmm? (BTW, I'm not denying mine is an excuse, just saying that in reality I have an excuse because how I want to behave causes me to want one.) All the other behaviors are the same, with different reasons (or excuses). And no, now is not the time to get defensive, because I'm not truly looking for an answer. (Nor do I want to pay one of my kids to be on the 'puter more. :) ) |
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| June 14, 2008 |
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Well for once maybe they can do something constructive on the 'puter! 
Norm, you know much of what I say to you is said w/tongue in cheek.  Love ya bro, hope to keep talkin to ya! |
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| June 14, 2008 |
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Norm, you know much of what I say to you is said w/tongue in cheek. No wonder it's so hard to understand the words. Next time move that tongue outta the way. And now Mike, you know much of what I say to you is said w/tongue in cheek. |
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| June 14, 2008 |
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| Like two peas in a pod? |
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| June 14, 2008 |
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| I didn't know peas could type. |
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| June 16, 2008 |
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WOW-- I wish I had something witty to add, but alas, I do not. Thanks for the thoughts and the thoughts they provoked. May God continue to use you and your efforts to build His Kingdom. |
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| June 18, 2008 |
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Chris, you just did! Thanks for your input.
Shannon, you continue to be one of the greatest encouragers on MyChurch. Ya just need ta blog more! (lol) Clearly the site means a lot to you, hope you stay in phase 3 for a long time to come! |
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| June 18, 2008 |
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Hi - I really enjoyed this. I actually was very active on MyChurch and enjoyed the fellowship that I was engaged in, but then I deleted myself. I can't say exactly why (too complicated for a comment, better as a blog) but now I'm back feeling fresh as ever. Thanks for the great post. So true! |
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| June 18, 2008 |
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| I'm a Phase 5/Phase 2 kinda girl! I always find good stuff here -- just don't always get to take the time to catch up with everyone. That said, I think it's a great way to get to know my extended "family" :) |
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| June 18, 2008 |
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Grammy, hello!! I too find myself occasionally getting into phase 5 territory. So I guess I can identify!! Hopefully you'll find yourself dwelling in phase 3 soon. God bless! LindaZ - hope you become active again, and rediscover what inspired you to become active in the first place. |
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| June 20, 2008 |
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Hello, My name is Chris and I am a Phase 5 Addict....LOL
I know it's been a while. I have been building my business and spending the time I used to spend on here studying for Seminary classes.
I will be checking in more regularly, as the business is doing well. My website is chrisellisphotos.com and the blog can be found at here.
Be Blessed & Be A Blessing,
CHris |
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| June 29, 2008 |
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Wow! Thank you so much for helping me through what I have yet to go through. Though you may detect a hint of sarcasm...do not let that discourage you, doc. I love your think-through-it-ness. I am most definitely showing some signs;)
God bless you too, Mike. |
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| June 29, 2008 |
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| p.s. I think Pastor Aminata has got it right. I gave you three stars. (out of ???) Yet to set a limit... Most so far though. |
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| June 30, 2008 |
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Haha, so Pastor Chris is blogging about photography now. Chris, is there a way you can tie that into your faith and blog about it here? LOL
Tonya, thank you!! Glad to be able to help....in advance. I think they call it preventative medicine, lol. |
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| November 29, 2008 |
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| Have you been spying on me? lol well you pretty much hit it right on the nail, (for me atleast.) This is basically exactly what I went through with Mychurch... I came, I loved it, I was on all the time, I started losing intrest, I didnt exactly find some of the blogs interesting or I didnt agree with them, I barely came back on. I really just saw the mychurch icon now and I decided to see what was going on... and you are still up and at em Mike... |
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| November 29, 2008 |
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| YOU SAID IT ALL! |
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| November 29, 2008 |
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JoshMo...if you come back and read this...I'd just like you to know that you've made me laugh many times. Your sense of humor is missed around here. BTW, I'm still a ninja. Denise, thanks! And here's hoping you're one of those who never run out of MyChurch energy! |
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| November 29, 2008 |
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I have my email page up and mychurch page up and bounce back and forth while watching the news. My husband just kissed me and said 'goodnight computer lady' I guess I am obsessed stage 3, but am realizing I haven't read a book or spent time on other stuff as much lately as I would like to. I turned off my laptop to help with gathering pinecones to burn and spend time doing other yardwork today and spend time with Jim and found myself worrying about what I would miss on here. I don't comment on all obviously but I do like to read the blogs. Faith builders, friendship, and prayer and praise...news....hugs and tears...testimony, love the testimony...and sometimes I can see my own growth by going back and reading my own stuff. lol love you guys, juanita |
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| November 30, 2008 |
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| Juanita, lovely comment, simply lovely! It's going on two years for me and I still feel the same way. Tho' I spend much less time on MyChurch than I used to. There was a time when I used to be on MyChurch reading and commenting for 1-2 hrs each night after Laura went to sleep....(she falls asleep earlier than me 6 nights of the week). I got tired of being tired everyday though, lol! Now it's about 30 min ea night, sometimes more if there are a lot of great blogs. Of course, a return of the Subscriptions feature would be a HUGE help in catching up on all the blogs I most want to read..... (hint hint, MyChurch team....) |
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