Each individual person is accountable for thei actions; however...to a girl...it is just hot outside..thats it, not trying to attract anything...guys have to realize this also...but too much skin, too low, too short etc is never okay.

Woman do it too John. Woman can get caught up in picturing themselves married to Random men they come in contact with lusting for that "Mr Right". The truth is is that we do not get to choose who is right for us and when we will get involved with someone and what they will look like. At least for the completely sold out crowd of Jesus. When we gave our heart away to God that was it. We also gave up rights to make those big decisions. That's why, Shannon, there is no point in "attraction" or "looking around" if you are sold out to God your Looks and your attraction should be so fixed on God that someone would have to seek God so hard to get to your heart because your so involved in HIS worship and work and Kingdom.  It is when we use our time unwisely that we leave room for the enemy to come in and take up residence. WORD, FELLOWSHIP, PRAYER! Emphasis on the Fellowship these people will not let you stay down when nurtured you will never feel lonely and/or needy. You will have everything you need Vertically and Horizontally.

When your single you have a gift of not having to rush home like the married people. You get to just get up and take off to do something awesome for God's kingdom like go SERVE ON A MEXICO TEAM for the weekend. You wouldn't shouldn't have time to sit and worry about what you will eat or what you will drink or what you will wear, Who you will marry and or court should be inserted there.....
Check out my blogs there are some interesting perspectives there.

- God Bless You Guys
Love,
Amoe from Bako (aka Amy U)

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PS John thanks for being so transparent. When we hold up the words that we have embedded in us that we have a hard time with .... then God has a way of totally working with that. It is when we hold it in and hide our weeknesses that God doesn't get the full glory from delivering you.

   
15  Then the evil desire, when it has conceived, gives birth to sin, and sin, when it is fully matured, brings forth death.

I've heard old time preachers, evangelist use this example...

A thought is like a bird flying over your head. Lust is allowing the bird to land on your head. Sin is allowing the bird to build a nest in your hair.

I agree with that simple "theology". John, if you see a woman and she looks good and you are attracted by that that is not sin but reality. But if you allow your eyes to linger and your mind to wander where your body cannot that is lust. Sin is when you are comfortable with lust and it has found a dwelling place in your heart.

So be of good cheer, brother. Your heart is tender and you are honorable to value women as "help meets" not "help meats".

Something I have observed over the years on who is attracted to who and what attracts them changes as we get older. When younger it is mostly based on physical and temporal things (like money, possessions). As we live and experience life the inner person and spiritual things take on a much more important role. It is not unusual for someone who wouldn't have got a second look twenty years earlier to suddenly become much more attractive even though they are the same person they were back then.

But sadly, it is also true that very beautiful people in the eyes of GOD and those who love GOD can find themselves alone. I'm not trying to explain why. I don't know why. Just making observations. I do believe, personally, if christians allowed GOD to "make them a help meet" they would be far happier than doing it themselves, but that is another blog.  :)

About how women dress. I once knew a christian who when it got summer the top came off whenever possible. It often got unwanted attention but didn't seem to bother. Actually, the attention was kind of flattering. But over the years the pounds came on and the top stayed on and there is no more attention being paid. Oh, I forgot to say this christian was me ( a brother in the Lord).

I have an eight year old and a five year old at home and we go to the public pool just about every day. Most everyone there is near what is considered ideal body weight and of course many dress in ways that are obviously meant to draw attention. I'm not offended nor am I lusting. Let them enjoy today for who knows what changes the years ahead will bring.

I don't own a suit or tie. Being dressed up for me is wearing a shirt that buttons to church. When my dad was alive I never wore a suit or tie to his house so why should I wear one in my Father's house? On the outside.

Ever wonder if GOD really notices these temporal flesh and blood bodies when He looks at us? Or does He look beyond that into our hearts and minds where we really live. How are we dressed there? I believe if we are dressed right there how someone else dresses will be far less tempting. At least that has been my testimony.


Bibles or books? Either, or, or both.

Back when Forty Days of Purpose and The Passion were getting their "press" I wrote a poem called The Seduction of Christianity.


The Seduction of Christianity

Forty Days Of Purpose and The Passion too
Discipleship is easy when the meat is chewed for you

Seminars and conferences occasionally a retreat
Bags overflowing from our spiritual trick or treat

Rich young rulers have found a place of rest
No need to worry about being put to the test

Majestic is the temple that is built elaborately
A monument of faithfulness for all the world to see

The gospel is now packaged in a way that will sell
No need to mention the Cross or the Blood or hell

The seduction of christendom is subtle indeed
The grass is always greener but does the Shepherd lead


Perhaps we need forty days without a purpose or a plan
Just a passion to draw closer to Jesus and our fellow man

Perhaps we need to get away less and get involved more
Instead of gathering riches share with the spiritually poor

Perhaps we need to remove the limits of how far we will go
And walk in obedience in whatever the Lord may show

Perhaps we need to build people instead of ministries
Touching lives invisibly but knowing that the Lord sees

Perhaps we need a reminder of just where we came from
Because of the Cross and the Blood I'm a child of the kingdom

Perhaps we need to embrace the truth that sets us free
If you deny yourself, take up your cross, and follow Me


.....peace.....


Before I was a christian I was an atheist. One day a stupid preacher challenged me to read the book of Matthew. I was so offended I did. A very boring read thru the first four chapters. But as I was reading thru what I now know is the Beatitudes GOD came mightily and made Himself real. I got saved. In just a few weeks I had read the New Testament thru a couple times.

There are books and teachers over the years that have influenced how I live out my christianity. But by far the greatest influence in my life is the Book GOD wrote and the teaching within. Books are wonderful but if our greatest growth is from books and not the Word...

Excitedly I had discovered new truth from the scripture where Martha was busy serving and Mary sat at Jesus feet listening to His teaching. As I as a young christian shared it with a much older christian in his home he reached for a commentary, read its comments on the scripture, and then assured me that yes, I was right. I thought how sad.

We both received the same truth. But I got to taste it, chew it, ingest it and it became life to me. To him it was just words. I chewed my own meat but his was chewed and bottled up like baby food. I discovered a precious gem to be prized. He held someone else's gem in his hand.

But, when all is said and done, how we get our meat in our "spritual sandwich" is not as important as where we get our bread. Jesus is the bread of life.


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In a short time I heard several women, online and personally, share how deeply a spouse's or ex-spouse's porn addiction had hurt them. Feelings and reactions ranged from disgust to shattered self-esteem. They felt betrayed. They were betrayed.


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