I have had this on my heart and this is so hurting..I thought I would come and vent ...again about this and see what holds from this.

I have made a previous blog on this subject so you are welcome to read that..anyways..

My stepson and his ex girlfriend is having a baby. But the problem is that him and his ex has broken up and is not speaking because of her parents. The parents were wanting him to marry her but he refused to...so when she finds out she is pregnant, she asks him to move with her and her parents and he does. So he begins to work for her father's electrical and plumbing business and he is living with them..well he said several times that they had been pressuring him into marrying her right away but he said he was not ready..so he stays with this family for about 3 months..then one night or morning at 4 am he calls us and asks us to come and pick him up because they threw him out the house because he wouldnt commit to marrying her..when we get there he is sitting on the sidewalk with all his belongings and we ask him what happened and he said that they had been up half the night pressuring him into marrying her and if he didnt commit that night that he would have to leave the house..Well, you know by this time hubby and I are like "okkk..are these people crazy or what?"

To make a long story short my son got himself together and moved in with his oldest brother. He is now going into his second year of college at Arizona State University and working 2 jobs..and saving up for neccessary things for the baby..ok since they have not been talking to either my son or us and we have been trying to get in contact with this family on numerous times and everytime I try to set up a meeting with them..its's always some kind of excuse..they have stood us for dinner twice and never called and just last week we were suppose to meet them and they never called or confirmed our dinner meeting..so what else do I do? I give up! I have tried to call these parents and get this mess straighten out and either one has responed to our calls for a nice meeting and some adult talk. Hubby has even tried to call and everytime it's an excuse.." we cant we have plans..we dont know when we could meet..or ok we will meet you there"..No show..no call!I told John I was so sick of trying to be nice to these people and they are not responding..

Ok so last week the father of my son's ex girlfriend calls my son and tells him that he needs to leave town for 2 years and have no contact with his child and then come back when the child turns 2 and then he could probably start a relationship with his child..and I'm like " What the?" My son said he called him and he told him there is no way he is leaving town for 2 years and he would see his child one way or another." Well, being the father didnt know we had heard his message because my son left it on his cell phone voicemail..and John and I both are furious..after we hear the message and at the same time we are this man is crazy! Does he honestly think my son is going to leave his baby behind?

Several days later the ex girlfriend calls and leaves him a nasty message on his home phone answering machine and yep we hear that too..and she proceeds to say," You need to really take my dad's advice and leave town because when this baby comes in July on the 23rd you will not be able to see him and your family will not be able to be in his life unless you decide to marry me. So if you dont marry me before July 23rd..you and your family will never be allowed to see this baby..so you better take dad's f******g advice and do the right thing you a*****e! Because as far as I'm concern you and your family can go to Hell! John, two of our daughters, two sons and I sit and listen to this message with our mouths hung open..but we could hear her mom and dad in the background laughing and saying things like.."yeah you piece of s**t listen to her and just laughing'..

I'm like what is wrong with these people are they that crazy? Do they honestly think that my son is going to marry her and they are upholding her in the negativity and threatening him with this about this baby?

John and I really hate to bring a lawyer into this but it looks like that is what we are going to have to do. What would you do?

My heart really really aches because to know that John and I wont be able to hold,love and tell this child how much we as grandparents love him..(it's confirmed..it's a boy)..

As everyone that has known me for awhile knows I love children and I dearly love my granbabies and my stepchildren but to deny me my own granchild ..it hurts and it hurts like hell..I have cried so many tears and not wanting to have to get a lawyer for my son but what else is there to do?

I have prayed on this and I do have faith but at the same time this is hurting John and I so bad..to be denied not to see your granchild just because of some unneccessary bull!!

I'm just tripping on these parents and their inmaturity and how could they put this on my son and ask him to leave..no way is he leaving!

I called these parents AGAIN on Monday to see if we could get together and talk but as usual NO..it was always an excuse..this time they were going out of town and I'm like "yeah right"!

I vowed that was the LAST time I was calling at least I have tried to reach out to them...and I throw my hands up.."no more".what else is there for me to do?

Are these people avoiding us because they are so guilty and know they are wrong? I just wonder..what is wrong with these people?

John and I will be beside our son all the way and if these people think they have won this over they have another thing coming!

Thanks for letting me vent ..again! But this is tearing me up inside and it hurts so bad because there is an innocent child caught up in some ignorance that shouldnt be taken place!

Thanks for the shoulder!