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| Am I Just a Horrible Man? |
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So, I decided to take my kids to a local park so they can enjoy the warm day and burn off some energy. They are on the platic playground contraption and having a good time. Two other boys come along - one was 5, the other was about 9 or 10. My son (age 6) always loves finding new buddies to play with so he ends up playing with the two boys. After a while, I see that they are playing tug of war with my son's arms, pulling on his shirt, and bringing him to the ground and sitting on him. This, despite my son asking them to stop. Well, I am not one to sit back and just let "boys be boys" at the expense of my son. I don't yell or get mean. I walk up and, matter of factly, tell that to get off my son and that they have no business treating him like that while he is asking them to stop. Well, the mother of the boys calls them over to the bench where she was sitting and watching everything go down. The three of them sit there are glare at me for the next 10 minutes. The daughter (about 3 or so) came over to our side of the playground to see my 3 year old daughter and the mother yells for the girl to get away from us. I decide enough is enough and we make our way out of there. As we start walking back to the car, the mother stands up and says, loud enough for me to hear, "OK, boys, you can play now and not have to worry about anybody." As I get the kids in the car and drive off, she continues to give me the skunk eye and shake her head. Yep, nasty old man that I am not letting kids treat my son like a rag doll against his will.
I seem to be setting a trend. Our old neighbors thought I was evil, too. The kids constantly kicked a football against the side of my house and I would go out and try to nicely say, "Please stop doing that." Of course, after about 2 years, my tone began to sour as they would do this sometimes a few times a day. My family would be in the house enjoying an evening together when we look up and see the neighbor kids with the faces platered against our front window watching us, or in our backyard sitting on our patio watching us through the window. Of course, being Mr. Mean, I told the kids they were being rude.
I used to think I had every right to not have my kids mistreated. I used to think I had a right to have a quiet evening at home without always having neighbor kids smear my window while they stare at us.
Don't get me started on traffic. Yep, the people who cut me off on the freeway, nearly clipping my front end. On occasion, yes I will honk the horn - maybe they didn't see me. What happens? Yep, the person who nearly ran me off the road gives me the one finger salute.
Maybe I have been wrong all this time. Maybe I am just a horrible human being. |
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Yeah, you're a bad guy. Just kiddding. Didn't you know you're not supposed to stifle any of these little 'angels' from 'expressing themselves'? No wonder people grow up thinking it's OK to hurt, steal, commit adultery, or any other sinful things - they're just 'being themselves'. That's a bummer, but I'm more worried about the parents than the kids - the kids are just doing what they think they're allowed to do. If it's any consolation from the "misery loves company' dept. Paulie was snubbed a bit by some older boys at a family picnic yesterdaay, but thankfully one of the uncles took the kids to task over it. But, case-in-point is THAT is human nature - to be self-serving and NOT worried about others...and all the more reason we need to keep our kids with eyes on CHrist! |
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| Yeah Paul, you're a horrible mean person, and they are the perfect saints. Pride is an ugly thing. Their pride allows them to come up with a twisted sense of justice that somehow gives them the right to do anything they want to do, while maintaining a positive self image. This is so twisted, like you, I have to laugh. |
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Thanks for the comfort, brothers!
I heard someone point out that we are seeing the first generation coming up under the "self-esteem parenting" mindset. Kids who are never told "NO" - kids who are never confronted. Kids who are nothing but praised.
Again, I must be a horrible person - I say no to my kids. Yes, I have yelled at them. Yes, they get in trouble for doing wrong things. I love my kids like crazy, though! Since when is saying "no" an unloving thing?
"Yes, little Billy, have all the sugar you want! I love you and I want you to get diabetes."
"Yes, Susy, have all the cheeseburgers you want - I want you to have an early heart attack."
"No, Timmy, you don't have to do homework - I want you to live in my basement for the rest of your life."
Either I am a horrble person or I am starting to think our world is going nuts!
Or at least th state of Colorado - what's up with the legislation to do away with gender-specific public restrooms????? |
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Yep, what kind of a mean nasty person would want to stop those 2 boys from having fun? They got off lucky, and I'm betting they didn't even learn anything. I know now-a-days you would get into deep trouble for it, but it would have been very tempting to show those two kids, just how your son felt when they played tug of war with him. (OK so it's very hard to play tug of war with just one person, so would have to toss them across the playground instead)
My neighbor's kids would have lost their football the first time they did it again after having warned them. As for watching in the window, guess I would have ended up calling the Police to warn them and their parents to make them stop doing it. Although now-a-days not sure if kids are even scared of having the cops called on them.
And mean nasty person, how dare you say no to kids who are picking on your kid. And what would the Mother had thought if your son had gotten hurt? Guess it would have been your fault for bringing your son to the park to tempt them.
I knew you weren't allowed to say know to kids, but I can't believe you are now longer allowed to say no to an adult. Can't you just see all the problems that's going to cause. I can't believe that Colorado decided that the majority of it's people had no right to object to having their privacy invaded to protect the minority that felt it was right to chose which restroom they perfered to use.
I don't believe that many people really object to using the correct restroom unless they have alternative motives. I hope that they don't depend too much on tourist. |
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July 08, 2008 at 9:45am |
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| **Shakes head** :) |
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My guess is the mother would have just said, "Your son just has to toughen up." I love that one! Yes, it is a flaw that my son is tender-hearted and not a bully. After all, if he was tougher, he could have fended for himself, then the mom would have been mad that my son is bullying her kids. Oh, well!
We are in a fallen world. And yes, from a theological point of view, I know that I am actually a horrible man who was made new by the blood of Calvary's Lamb! |
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