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| I'm Single...and loving it! |
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Single and loving it! by: Kate McVeigh
Many of us have spoke on here throught messages about being single and the difficulties of single life. Not having someone to depend on, share with, enjoy life with... I would like to invite you to read this book. I turn back to it during different points in my life as a tool with my regular Bible study. Here is the Introduction:
One day a friend called me on the phone, and she was crying.
"Kate!" she sobbed. "I'm still single and I don't feel like I will ever be married! Why haven't I met anybody? It seems like everyone else is married, and all the good men are taken. If I finally do meet a good-looking guy who has his act together, it turns out he's not saved!" She finished in a hurt voice, "I feel like God doesn't care about me at all."
Have you ever felt that way? My friend is a very attractive Christian girl and she has a lot of things going for her, yet she's still unmarried. I meet so many Christian singles who feel exactly like she did that day-like God has forgotten about them or doesn't care about how much they want to find someone to spend their lives with.
You may be divorced, widowed, a single parent, or maybe you're like me and you've never been married. No mater what category you may fall into, God does care about you! He has a great plan for your life no matter where you've been or what you're going through now. I want you to know that it's worth waiting for the one whom God has for you!
29:11 For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith Jehovah, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you hope in your latter end.
My prayer is that as you read this book, it will be a life changing experience for you. While you are in this season of singleness, make the best of it by drawing near to God and getting to know Him better. Take advantage of this time you have right now to focus all your attention on Him. This book will help give you the tools you need to be an uncommon single and soar with God, being all you were created to be.
Get ready to triumph and live an uncommon, victorious, exceptional Christian life!
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| To add a comment to "I'm Single...and loving it!" |
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| August 05, 2008 |
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| Dear friend Cheryl, My 28 year old daughter is having a hard time with this very issue. She thinks the only way to be happy is to have a fella. I pray that she WAITS for God and does not jump into a bad situation(like she is now) |
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| August 05, 2008 |
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| I'm suddenly single again for the second time. God was there the first time and He is here with me now. Thanks for sharing. |
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| August 05, 2008 |
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haha i love being single
dont worry the right guy will come and lift you of your feet darling
:) |
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| August 05, 2008 |
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| Amen! I've been single for a hundred years...LOL!!...okay, since 2003 and I am so happy!!! I am complete in Christ and just in myself with out a guy. Nothing wrong with having one and I am praying for a husband using Stormie O'Martain's book: The Power of a Praying Wife; however, I have no desire to go somewhere where God is not leading....I am satisfied in Christ! |
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| August 05, 2008 |
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| I seen Kate at a conference last year there in Broken Arrow...well, she really is lovin it...I love her books and her testimony, so I too recomend this...as for single and loving it...well I'll letcha know... |
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| August 05, 2008 |
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| sounds like ladies night out :) And No one mentioned Ohprah! Hallellujah |
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| August 05, 2008 |
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I love kate mcveigh, I didn't realize she had this book out. Thanks for the heads up. B |
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| August 05, 2008 |
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I'll have to get that book, been single now for 10 years..feel like 100...and YES I would like for somebody to find their good thing before Jesus comes back....LOL...LOL |
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| August 05, 2008 |
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| I am so dumb sometimes- I am single and thought I was "happy"- I do not know if men do this but i have talked to other christian single women and they get caught up in staying "busy" with other things like I did and don't pay attention and can get tripped up without knowing why they are "unhappy". Thank God he does care for us and is ALWAYS going before us to make our crooked places straight :0) |
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| August 06, 2008 |
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| I basically like being single Cheryl. But the only time I hate being single is at Christmas time. You wake up - and there's nobody there. |
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| August 06, 2008 |
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| I am not singled But for all those that are remember "IF you have JESUS your never alone" God bless you and keep on sharing what God gives to you. |
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| August 06, 2008 |
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| Well Praise the Lord! I am 2x divorced and thank GOD that only through HIS Grace & Mercy that this is the first time in my life I can honestly say I am satisfied being single. HE encourages me that HE loves me daily, un-conditionally un-like "man". HE will never leave me nor forsake me!! HALLELUJAH goes right there. I am going to wait on GOD because I've learned me in and of myself can't pick him (soul-mate/spouse) Yes the Word is correct and that I will stand on,"For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith Jehovah, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you hope in your latter end." The 1 GOD has for me is going to be off the hook!!!! |
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| August 06, 2008 |
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Amen guys!!!
This book is not just for women Zach. Emma would greatly benefit from it to be the woman God intends for her to be and then for you two to connect.
Every woman should read this book BEFORE looking for a guy to date...
Doesn't Jeremiah 29:11 just rock!!!
29:11 For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith Jehovah, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you hope in your latter end.
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| August 06, 2008 |
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Awesome post. I can't believe its been 10 years since my divorce. What was I, 2 when I got married? I may not be able to say I'm single and loving it but I know it I can say the future is definitely in His hands. God bless ya sis. |
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| August 06, 2008 |
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Yep, I understand that too...God is in control!
Amen guys! |
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| August 06, 2008 |
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| Another amazing book on this subject is "Lady in Waiting" by Jackie Kendall and Debby Jones. It had a big impact on me during my single years, and I have recently been leading a group of teen girls through this study. One quote from the book reads "God knows that you will never be complete until you really understand that you are complete in Jesus." |
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| August 06, 2008 |
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| I love it! Thanks lady!! |
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| August 06, 2008 |
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| LOL!! I'm with ya lady!! |
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| August 06, 2008 |
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| Cheryl, This meant a lot. I know right now I've been asking the same question that's been in my head for the last 10 or so years, "is there something wrong with me?" It seems as though I'm wandering in the forrest all this time waiting.... I thank you for posting this. |
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| August 06, 2008 |
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| Amen brother! |
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| August 07, 2008 |
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Ive been single since 97 and have never been married top that P= Ha Ha.......
Cheryl thanks for posting peace be with you on your walk with the Lord single or not!!!!
We will all find some one if we Wait and i know i have waited for a wile oh yeah!!!!! |
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| August 07, 2008 |
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| Thank you, will read it. As a man who is single (yet the Bride of Christ) i get to focus on my relationship with Jesus, and I am in love with Him, complete in Him, fulfilled in Him, continually triumphing in Him, and He is the very reason I am living for. I have learned and am learning patience and have single female friends who are sold out to Jesus and that is the most attractive quality of all. It helps that they are all Christian counselors and in ministry or working internships like me. My pastor has said some things that have helped me, "If you want God's best then be God's best" and this takes time and perseverance, growth in the Lord and true humility. Humility comes before honor and the wise man forsees the trouble and hides himself, but the simple pass on and are punished the proverbs say. I'm just really tired of being punished, so I draw close to God by living His Word out and relating to other men the hell that I went through by doing it my way, because His way is soooo peaceful and today all of my friendships have purpose and unity. Boundaries are vital and must be personal, but are of no avail when the hearts motives are not submitted to the Lord, and I have learned that, It really is vanity to do things any other way than what is prescribed in the Holy Word, and to be unmarried is a blessing that is highly underestimated by many, or so I think. Today, I will do His will, for there is nothing of more eternal worth than to please my Lord and Savior, to whom I owe every thing and to whom I look to so that I can see through His eyes, and think His thoughts. God bless and prosper you, keep up the good work, He is faithful. |
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| August 07, 2008 |
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| Amen guys! |
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| August 08, 2008 |
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Ok. I'm already bracing for the landfall following this thought but I wanted to share...
As a pastor, I am NOT endorsing that anyone be "unequally yoked". But let's not forget that there is a lot of courtship that takes place before the "yoke" is applied.
Ok. You meet a great guy. He has his act together. But >gasp< you discover he is not "saved" or is "unchurched".
First, let me be the one to caution that just because a man attends church does not mean he is "Christian". Being in Church does not make a man right with God. Jesus being in the man makes him right with God. Make sure you're sizing a man up using the right criteria!
But--back to the point--you discover he's not saved! Hmmmmmm. Since when is it only a man's job to evangelize? Let's talk abou this. You meet a great guy. He has his act together. If he is really as excited about you as you are about him, he is going to want to know what makes you tick--who you are and what you are about. Without whipping out the 20lb King James Bible and the Sign-Today-or-You're-Going-to-Hell-tract, let's presume that maybe--just maybe--- this guy wants to get to know you.
Why not just share about your faith? Share with him why it is important to you. Share your testimony --as it emerges naturally in conversation-- about the ways --the simple ways-- that God has made and is making a difference in your life. Tell him about your day and let him know--in simple conversation--all the ways you have seen the hand of God in your life. Or how the wisdom of God's Word got you through a crisis... Let him see your faith.
If he really "has it all together" he is going to see the peace and joy and wisdom that fills you and begin to crave what you have. At risk of calling it "dating evangelism"-- well, that's what it is.
Nobody says you have to marry the man. But give him a chance to hear and see the gospel through you. Who knows? Did you ever think that God in his sovereignty brought you together for the sake of the Kingdom of God?
Hey, if he doesn't "bite" then "shake the dust from your feet" as you walk away from the relationship.
Give your "being single" to God and ask Him to use this "gift" He has given you. You may not end up in a long term holy relationship. But you have scattered the seed of the gospel along the road of life. This is Bible! "Seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness and all these things will be added unto you...."
If we have enough wonderful single women who simply won't commit or cross the moral line in the dating relationship because the man refuses to become a man of faith, maybe we'll see more men will start perking up their ears at the power of the cross.
Um, and don't forget the power of prayer. Yes. You can pray a man into the kingdom of heaven. Sic the "hound of heaven" on that elusive fox and see what happens.
Just a thought.... |
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| August 08, 2008 |
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Amen brother Rich!! Your right on target....the only thing I would add is if he is in an addiction or abusive, do not enter a relationship with this person until they have recovery and some time behind the recovery would be my advise.
Awesome addition!
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| August 08, 2008 |
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Hello Sis Cheryl!
thanks for the special dedicated posting for singles! May GOD bless those who are being single,and let them living with HOPE,JOY,PEACE by the grace of our LORD Savior!
May GOD bless you,and your family!
In christ,
Esther |
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| August 08, 2008 |
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| Amen lady! |
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| August 08, 2008 |
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| So true Lara! You make God smile lady! |
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| August 08, 2008 |
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Love it Cheryl. Have another book to recomment. A Jewel in His Crown Rediscovering Your Value as a Woman of Excellance - by Priscilla Evans Shirer. Amazing book talks about how we should enjoy ourselves and know ourselves. We should learn to love ourselves in the manner that Jesus does.
Although Cheryl, as of late if I have anymore fun with myself I would just have to marry myself. Life is fun falling back into Love with Jesus fully and completely again.
Bless you. Love you lady. |
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| August 08, 2008 |
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| Excellent addition lady, thanks! |
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| August 08, 2008 |
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| I guess I should read it.
I don't know how to reconcile the fact that for nearly 30 years, God has put the desire for togetherness in me without fulfilling it. |
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| August 09, 2008 |
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| It is excellent...I am currently rereading it...just for the unity of knowing someone else is out there walking the same walk in the areas that I am with Christ....I do not have a singles group in my local church...Just me and Jesus!! |
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