1. Stop all criticism. Criticism never changes a thing. Refuse to criticize yourself. Accept yourself exactly as you are. Everybody changes. When you criticize yourself, your changes are negative. When you approve of yourself, your changes are positive. Yeah! You read that right!  Quit being so negative and criticizing every one else for their short comings.  The Bible tells us that we need to be gentle and let our forbearance be known to all men.
2. Stop scaring yourself. Stop terrorizing yourself with your thoughts. It's a dreadful way to live. Find a mental image that gives you pleasure, (mine is yellow roses) and immediately switch your scary thought to a pleasure thought.   Now you won't see me thinking of yellow roses! But imagine that, quit projecting your fear and misgivings onto others around you.  I know a woman who was so consumed with her natural appearance that her 12 year old son who is small, and athletic, and handsome, is worried about his weight!  When he is under weight!  As Christians we need to understand that God has not give us a spirit of fear  We can be bold, confident, and full of faith and hope.  When we walk in the Spirit there will be no time to terrorize others with your own worries and fears.
3. Be gentle and kind and patient. Be gentle with yourself. Be kind to yourself. Be patient with yourself as you learn the new ways of thinking. Treat yourself as you would someone you really love. Imagine that?  Be kind.  Be gentle.  Be patient.  After all isn't that the way you would like some one to treat you?  We are exhorted in the Bible to "Be kind one to another being tender-hearted and forgiving one another."  Did you know that "Love covers a multitude of sins?"  Yes, that's right and "Love is patient and Love is kind." When we are gentle and kind with someone and exercise genuine patience with them in their humaness we actually display love and this is a reflection of God in your life and this Makes our Heavenly Father extremely happy!l  
4. Be kind to your mind. Self-hatred is only hating your own thoughts. Don't hate yourself for having the thoughts. Gently change the thoughts.  Don''t hate yourself and please don't hate others.  I once had a lot of bitterness in my life, and I have to the glory of God worked through most of that.  One particular truth that God taught me in all of that, was this: "The people you hate does not effect them as much as it effects you."  Those that have hurt you and me could care less about our feelings and what they did that messed up our life so badly!  They probably have never even gave you a second thought and they are living their merry little life totally oblivious to how they help to destroy your l life!  I have been there, and nothing good comes from hatred and bitterness.  My suggestion to you is to let it go and to comit those that offended you into the Lord's hands.
5. Praise yourself. Criticism breaks the inner spirit. Praise builds it up. Praise yourself as much as you can. Tell yourself how well you are doing with every little thing. Do you know why we like praise so much?  Because we are created in the image and likeness of our loving Heavenly Father.  He loves to be praised, worshiped and adored.  We do too!  Be a praiser, be the kind of person that is a blessing to be around.  Be known as the one who always gives the sincere compliment, the one who speaks life into a person's situation the person who seeks to build up instead of destroy. 
6. Support yourself. Find ways to support yourself. Reach out to friends and allow them to help you. It is being strong to ask for help when you need it.  loving yourself means supporting yourself.  Be a supportive person to others.  Be a yes man!  Yes you can! Yes you will!  I believe in you!  I trust your good judgment!  These are all nice positive things you can say to others that will encourage and inspire others to attempt and achieve great things
7. Be loving to your negatives. Acknowledge that you created them to fulfil a need. Now you are finding new, positive ways to fulfil those needs. So, lovingly release the old negative patterns.  Don't always be so hard on yourself and harsh with yourself.  Appreciate your growth, don't kid yourself, but honestly evaluate who you are, what you have done, and where you are going.  But if you fall, don't beat yourself up about it.  This is the same with others.  Their flaws are so obvious!  Can I get an Amen?? We just want to play the Holy Spirit and "fix" everybody.  We need to be patient and understanding when someone messes up. I have heard it said that the Christian Army is the only army in the world that will shoot it's own wounded."  We who are strong ought to bear the weaknesses of our younger brother's and sisters in Christ.  If someone is caught in a sin, be gracious and understanding, Jesus told us about the Plank and the Spec.  It is so easy to want to identify and fix the problems of another, but all of us have our own issues to work out.  So we need to be loving to the parts of our life that we are desperately trying to change and to others around us who drive us crazy!
8. Take care of your body. Learn about nutrition. What kind of fuel does your body need to have optimum energy and vitality? Learn about exercise. What kind of exercise can you enjoy? Cherish and revere the temple you live in.  Take care of others and be thoughtful to them.  If you see that someone is sick or lonely, then do what you can to make them feel better.  Be a good example to the beleivers.  Please don't be a road block or a stumbling block to others in their walk with Christ or on their way to Christ.  
9. Mirror work. Look into your own eyes often. Express this growing sense of love you have for yourself. Forgive yourself looking into the mirror. Talk to your parents looking into the mirror. Forgive them, too. At least once a day look into the mirror and say: "I love you, I really love you!."  What this writer is meaning by "mirror work" is "Self talk", Christians need to talk to themselves more often!  King David was such a man of God that he would encourage himself in the Lord.   We need to speak the word of God into our life, into our family, into our church.  Romans 10:17 says, "Faith comes by hearing and hearing by the word of God.  But this is also true of others.  Speak hope, and peace, and blessing and life into people around you.
10. LOVE YOURSELF - DO IT NOW! Don't wait until you get well or lose the weight, or get the new job, or the new relationship.
    BEGIN NOW - Do the best you can.  That's right we need to love each other.  We need to quit focusing on our self and our perfect little situation, but don't need to wait for an ideal or perfect situation to do something.  If God has called you to it then He will provide a way for you to accomplish the vision He has given you.      copyright 1988 Louise L. Hay

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