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 Do you remember this movie? It is a good chick flick. I remember watching it on a date with my future wife and it was a nice story about falling in love again after losing someone you loved.
Unfortunately, many of us have been left behind by someone we loved. Maybe, it was through a death, or perhaps it was through a divorce which in my opinion is a different kind of death.
I want to say, that as long as God is in your life it is never over! It is never hopeless, and because God is love you can love again. It is important to grieve your loss, but take some time to gain perspective and realize that you were an individual before you became a couple. Someone fell in love with you before because of who you were and someone can fall in love with you again if you will let it happen. Sadly, many of us are hurt so badly in a relationship or relationships that we can't trust anyone, we lash out when someone touches a wound, and we generally build up walls and try to test everyone to see if they can be trusted. In doing this, the whole dating thing becomes a game that no one can win, because no one can be real enough to deal with the consequences of getting close. Jesus can heal our wounds our trauma, and emotional issues. In Him we find comfort, peace, and purpose in our lives. Many of us have a hard time loving others because we don't love ourselves and we don't feel lovable. Well just because someone rejected you, doesn't mean that you are a throw away! It just meant that they weren't right for you. Permission to speak freely, if you find yourself in a state after a break up or divorce don't wallow in self pity. Don't try to analyze everything and figure out what you did wrong. Chances are you know what you need to work on, so there is no sense in beating yourself up over your failures. Therefore there is no condemnation to them that are in Christ Jesus. God loves you, always has and always will. You are accepted in the Beloved. You are a special person who was fearfully and wonderfully made. So, you had a bad relationship, join the club. How does the old saying go? "It is better to have lost and loved than to have never loved at all." Be a giver, a lover, be kind, compassionate, gentle, forgiving gracious, thoughtful, patient and you will see you will become nearly irresistible to others! Don't forget to comb your hair and brush your teeth too, but overall work on becoming the best person you can be and you will attract that kind of person. Also another thing, as it comes to mind, quit speaking things that are negative, like: "I am a bum magnet," "If there is a loser I'll find it." or "Only the ugly girls like me" when you say stuff like that it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. Life and death are in the power of the tongue. You need to believe God has something beautiful for you, and quote verses like, "Eye has not seen and ear has not heard nor has it entered into the heart of man what God has in store for those that love Him." you will find, that as you focus on Jesus and on the positives and find a purpose for your life, others will be drawn to you.
Alright, this is enough of my Doctor Randy Carlson impersonation, and let me know how it goes out there for you.
God Bless,
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| August 13, 2008 |
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| So nice words about love dear Brother Todd. Great encouraging to me |
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Good words...
Never seen the flick, I am not much of a chick flick kinda gal, more sci fi. But I know what you are talking about completely, for me as a recently soon to be divorcee again trusting is going to be hard in the male species.
But I know and have faith in this, I KNOW I MUST fall in Love with JESUS again before any man is to come into my life again. He will be the one to heal me, and allow me to trust in anything again particularly in matters of the heart. If it is in my will to be married, He will provide that husband, if not, so be it. My last husband was a great man, just poor timing, and we are best friends. Long story, we can talk about it or you can discern from my blog about divorce.
Regardless this is a good message. Thanks for posting it.
Bless you |
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| August 14, 2008 |
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| A lot of times the problems in our relationship arise from all the baggage we never let go of. Usually it's both parties with all the baggage and that is a recipre for disaster. Take all the baggage to the altar before you get into a relationship and try some good biblical counseling so we don't repeat past failures. I know Christians that are shacking up, like going for a test drive and yet they go to church like nothing is wrong. We need to resolve all of these issues so that there could be blessing instead of a curse. |
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| August 14, 2008 |
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| Hey Brother I never saw this movie...but this was a powerful blog ;o) and Prophet Jay stop cracking me up...LOL...LOL...LOL |
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| August 14, 2008 |
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Paul: But the greatest of these is love. Thank you, for stopping by and encouraging.
Becky: You know what it is going to take. You need to heal first and foremost. You also need to discover who you are. Then you need to look at what caused the marriage to fail and what part did you play in it. Keep seeking comfort in Jesus and He will heal you emotionally. It is very painful, but in the end you will be stronger, better, and wiser.
Jay: I could not agree with you more brother! How can we have a decent relationship with someone if we aren't even healthy ourself? We carry so much baggage, such as "bitterness, anger, resentment, unforgiveness, mistrust, misconceptions, and all of our cope-ing mechanisms. Ususually we are "Needy" and that does not make for a good relationship. Because we have been hurt so much and need so much TLC that we are not able to give back or give out. There is so much to be said, here but perhaps for another time. Great point and it is well received!
Juan: Perhaps you should have written this blog! The wisdom that you shared in those few sentences are powerful! People need to hear those words! We need to realize who we are in Christ and know that God loves us no matter what. We need to understand we are significant and we are worth loving. How can you give love when you have not received love? Most of what the world thinks of love is not really love at all. It is business. You help me and I help you. When you cease to be useful to me, I am moving on. Anyway, you got me started, but I want to stand up and shout that your comment is wise and needs to be heeded.
Margie & Carrie: Thanks! and it is a good movie if you like those sad stories with happy endings. |
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| August 14, 2008 |
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| Juan: I like that TLC Totally loving Christ! Appreciate your comments. You are always welcome to overtake my blog anytime. |
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