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| I'm Never Wrong! |
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The verse today has been a big part of my life. You see, I married a man who has a perfect earthly father. He is verbally and physically abusive, but according to him, he does no wrong.
I'll give you an example of his life. He had verbally abused our family, including my sons. Being christians, my husband and sons decided to sit down with him about a week before Christmas that year and talk it out in christian love. None of us inlaws were there, just his blood family. We did it that way because all he believes is important is his blood family.
Well, all was in vain, as far as straightening things out. When told by his own family the things he said that hurt them, after asking them to tell him, he blew. He informed them that he never does anything wrong so he doesn't have to apologize.
And day after day, year after year, he continued to blow and even become physical. And day after day, year after year, they continued to try to settle the problem and even us inlaws joined in.
Sadly to say, nothing worked and we all separated ourselves from him.
Are we perfect, no. We all make mistakes, we all say things we wished we hadn't. We are not perfect. And when we do, we ask forgiveness.
No friendship, no family, no work environment is without problems. And the tongue is usually the biggest problem. But, there is nothing that can't be resolved through the Lord, if the parties are willing.
My son told my father in law that he was going to be an old lonely man. And it's the only thing my father in law ever agreed with my son on....sad part is that he added " and I don't care!"
What controls our tongue? Faith does. As our faith in God grows, so does the ability to bridle our tongue and speak only to edify.
The part about my father in law was posted on here to show us how not to be.
3:2 For we all make many mistakes, and if any one makes no mistakes in what he says he is a perfect man, able to bridle the whole body also.
My Bible references another scripture to go with this.
2:10 For whosoever shall keep the whole law, and yet stumble in one `point', he is become guilty of all.
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| To add a comment to "I'm Never Wrong!" |
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| August 22, 2008 |
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| We all have sinned and come short of the glory of God...There is nothing to hard for God...He's able to penatrate the hardest of hearts...continue to lift him up in prayer, long as he has breath in his body...there is hope...I'll be praying that God will soften your father in-law's heart. |
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| August 22, 2008 |
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| preacher: We do lift him up and thanks for praying. I do so wonder about his soul.......he says he never does anything wrong. Yet, one day, I finally asked him about his walk with the Lord and his answer was that there was a moment that he met Jesus (his words) but that if he died that day he'd go to hell.....I asked why? He said because he sins everyday and many times a day.....so maybe because he believes he's going to hell and won't ask God even for forgiveness, then he doesn't care how he treats people. |
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| August 22, 2008 |
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| That's the lie that that Satan want him to believe...Just continue praying that his eyes would be open to this fact... and that he will come to know that God loves him and desires to give him life and life more abundantly...the fact that He's still here God is allowing him the chance to turn to him...It's not God's will that any man shall perish, but that all shall come to repentance...I feel your concern..." Continue to pray in hope that he will break.... and cry out to God... |
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| August 22, 2008 |
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Lara: sis, it is hard......the final blow came with my sons when he tried to hit my son in front of my 3 year old granddaughter. I even tried to talk with him about that, the fact that she's frightened to this day even seeing a picture of him....he replied " I should have gone ahead and hit him!"....it was like my granddaughter, a child, didn't matter! That was the last time I talked with him.
BTW....we have been through christian counseling on how to handle the situation. And I live with my doors locked.
I think at some point you have to decide whether you want your children to live and see it. I wish I hadn't let my children go through it....and now I'm sure not going to allow my grandchildren to. |
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| August 22, 2008 |
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| preacher: thanks for the encouragement, love ya! |
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| August 22, 2008 |
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| mama: God bless you and thanks! |
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| August 22, 2008 |
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| Just remember that when he is old and needs someone, do what Jesus would do... |
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| August 22, 2008 |
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| I have an ongoing situation with my wife that curses at me, wishes I was dead and wishes we were never married. She doesn't show any affection or ever says anything encouraging to me, and will not support me in what I do as a Christian. She won't come to church with me but that doesn't stop me from doing what my Heavenly Father wants me to do. I still demonstrate the love of christ to her in spite of what she says or does and I warn her that time is short and that she will have to go before the judgment seat of Christ. We can't make people choose what we believe and we can't make anyone do anything they don't want to do. The sad thing is they will have no excuse. |
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| August 22, 2008 |
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| voice: he is old and needs someone, but said he would rather be dead than have us help! The help I will give him is prayer..I cannot be physically abused by him anymore. BTW, he tried hitting the county sheriff in a public place about a month ago...why?....because he doesn't like him. |
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| August 22, 2008 |
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| This is a hard one. People just DO NOT realize that words HURT! They feel compelled to say what ever is on there mind whenever they feel like it. If we all just would stop and think and let the Holy Spirit lead us it would be heaven( oh wait a minute, It's earth, the enemy's playground) It goes back to who are you going to serve? |
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| August 22, 2008 |
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Jay: I came back to a verbally abusive ex husband and remarried him.....he is a christian now.
With his family, I will not put my life in danger physically.....seriously, his mother choked me, we have pics of my neck, a year ago. |
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| August 22, 2008 |
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| Patti; amen.....and you know, we started trying to ignore the words.....but then it got physical. |
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| August 22, 2008 |
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| Awe...Prophet Jay...That's seem so hard to believe, although it may be true...I have never met you in person, "but you are such a lovable guy so full of encouragement, and I know you can tell by the response you receive here on MyChurch. Be encouraged!!! Over and Over again We Love you Guy! I will also lift you and your family up in prayer.... |
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| August 22, 2008 |
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| Wow, I think you are doing what you can. You have to remove yourself from him since he is that physically abusive. Prayer is the only thing you can do. |
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| August 22, 2008 |
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| Deb: thanks :) |
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| August 22, 2008 |
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| Thank God for His Grace and Mercy....When we mess up and break even one of His Commandments....we can ask forgiveness....get up and start all over again to get back on the right path....Continue to pray sis..Prayer changes things and people ;o) |
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| August 22, 2008 |
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Our God is the perfect Father !!!!!! |
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| August 22, 2008 |
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Cinderelly...I have to say that blog title really caught my attention! I also know a man who believes he is never wrong. Sad thing is, he's a preacher. Prayer is the answer!
Prophet Jay - I find it so hard to understand how a woman who has such a Godly example in her home could not see that Jesus is the Way the Truth and the Life! I will keep her in my prayers. |
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| August 22, 2008 |
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| Carol: Amen, it is the only answer......it took me about 30 years to realize that you cannot reason and sometimes even talk with them......they wouldn't allow us to even agree to disagee, lol.....their answers are already formed before your sentence is finished.....so all we can do is pray. |
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| August 22, 2008 |
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If he is a teenager then I know a site that he can go to that may help out. http://www.teenhopeline.com/ Praying for ya always. |
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| August 22, 2008 |
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| Oh I forgot to mention that the site is a christian based one..opps |
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| August 22, 2008 |
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| Thanks Angel :) |
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| August 22, 2008 |
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Cinder he will also be in my prayer... sad how people choose their life and be miserable..
Yep it was time to close the door, and take care what you do have your family and grandkids..and keep him in prayers..
Brother Jay your wife also in my prayer ... |
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| August 22, 2008 |
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I will keep him in my prayers and you continue to do so... There is a day that all of us will have to face and maybe before then or on that day he will ask our Lord and Savior into his heart. I pray that he will.
Much Love |
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| August 22, 2008 |
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| Understand Cindy...love 'im from a distance...it is the best you can do... |
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| August 22, 2008 |
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Shelley: thanks love ya
mstovall: thanks...I pray he does too ;)
voice: exactly ;) |
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| August 22, 2008 |
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I hurt for all of you, including him. Pray him up and so will we.
What Voice said? It's safer that way. I know. |
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| August 22, 2008 |
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| Joey, thanks....it's really hard because we all live in a small town. It's safer, but it still makes me angry that we're adults living with locked doors, LOL |
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| August 22, 2008 |
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I sympathize with you,I know how it is for people so pridefull; they don't admit they are wrong... My ex husband was raised this way with his father saying I might not be right but I am never wrong.
My husband was more verbally abusive then physical, and it wasn't just me it was our sons as well... I did leave him 82 and 93 he died... I offend feel guilty, because I don't know where he is...
If he ever knew God... Don't give up totally on your father-in-law... I realize that you have to stay away from him at this time... But peter ask Jesus how many times do we forgive (paraphrasing) and Jesus said 70x70... I will pray that the circumstance change and God will work this out.
God bless you. |
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| August 22, 2008 |
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Marilyn: One of my father in laws sayings is " I was wrong once, when I thought I was wrong" I went through the verbal abuse and so did my kids....now hubby is a christian.
I have forgiven and pray for them.....thanks for praying :) |
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| August 23, 2008 |
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| I feel intense pity for your F-I-L. There is one man caught in a strong vortex of self-focused bitterness, seems to me. Unfortunately as long as he's abusive like that, particularly physically, separation seems to be a must. One day I hope you can have the opportunity to show him the grace know you so dearly want to. I'm sorry for all this Cindy. |
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| August 24, 2008 |
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| Mike: it is very hard, when you want so badly to love someone and them be in your life, and the more you show them love, the more abusive they are :( I, too, feel pity for him.....such a sad, horrible life. Thanks, Mike :) |
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