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Is it possible to be happy when you are grieving?
Yes, I think it is. I am grieving right now, over the loss of my beloved cat Zagnut. Yet I am moving on with life, and trying to live it as God would want me to, and that is with a cheerful heart. At the same time my heart is heavy at the loss I have gone through. So while I am “up”, I am also “down”.
I still take joy at the little things in life, like my new little kitten and his cute antics…or the sweet smell in the air in the morning before the day begins…or the thought of our cruise coming up to celebrate our 25th wedding anniversary. But I also miss my friend, and all the friends and family that have passed from this life.
We can let the feelings of loss overwhelm us, drag us down into a pit and smother us. That is what happened to me when my mother died, but eventually I pulled myself up. I didn’t like being there, and so I have decided I won’t let grief do that to me again.
Grief is a normal process of life. We all go through it at one time or another. If we let it control us, then we need help getting through and dealing with it. But we can also give it to God, and allow Him to help us carry the weight.
No, it doesn’t stop the pain, but it does make it bearable. Having friends or family, or a spouse to help you carry the load is also a blessing from God. And don’t feel guilty that you can enjoy life when you have lost someone. I for one don’t want my family and friends to quit living life after I am gone. It is possible to be sad and happy at the same time, if we have “good” grief going on. There is nothing wrong with mourning the loss of someone, or a pet, or even a job, or a way of life, etc. Just don't let it consume you. Learn something from it, use it to help someone else who is grieving, but don't let it ruin who you are in Christ.
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| August 22, 2008 |
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| I am going through something right now and this blog helped! |
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| August 22, 2008 |
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| Deb, amen! It is normal to grief, but it's not healthy nor does it glorify God when grief becomes our idol. For everything, there is a season :) |
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| August 22, 2008 |
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| meant to say it's normal to grieve, lololol |
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| August 22, 2008 |
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Patti, I am glad that this blog could help you...you don't know what it means to me that it did! That is the reason I write, in the hopes that it will help someone else.
Cinderelly, you are so right! I was not glorifying God when I was grieving my mother...I allowed myself to fall into a deep abyss of depression. My mother would not have wanted that, and I eventually found my way out. Thanks for your comments! |
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| August 22, 2008 |
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| Deb, my dad went home to be with Jesus in Jan., I was blessed to have worked years in hospice and home health( it helped me alot) and blessed to be the only one with him when he passed. I still grieve some, in a funny way now......things that make me smile and cry at the same time. I had to make a choice within myself, am I selfish enough to want him here suffering or am do I love him enough to want him healed with Jesus.....I chose the later and prayed for it. |
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| August 22, 2008 |
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| I know the feeling of what your going through here hon and I will continue to pray for you. |
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| August 22, 2008 |
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| My heart goes out to You!!! |
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| August 22, 2008 |
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Deb... you've come so far...
Praise God for your caring and loving spirit. I'm so sorry about Zagnut. |
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| August 22, 2008 |
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Cinderelly, I know the smile and cry things very well...memories can be wonderful but bittersweet. And you are right, I would never want my mother back if she could not be healthy. She was sick for so long, she is at peace now with God. I am sorry about your dad.
Lara, yes, we are told to be of good cheer even when we have trouble, which this life is full of. Thank God we have something besides this world to look forward to!
Angel Spirit, thank you...
Doyle, thank you to you too.
Joey, I have done a lot of growing in my walk with God, but I realize I have a long way to go still. I don't ever want to stop growing in the knowledge of my Lord and Savior.
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| August 22, 2008 |
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| my heart goes out to u sister and i love u the most with jesus's love and ur my real sister to me and a sister in the lord too love u and will be praying for u always for eternity and keep me posted on what's going on ok let me know everything love u always for eternity in christ jesus |
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| August 23, 2008 |
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| rebekah, thank you sweetie. |
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| August 26, 2008 |
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Great blog Deb!
I remember grieving after the death of my mother and the Lord spoke to me one day and reminded me that she was where she always wanted to be. I knew at that point that I had grieved long enough and what I was really doing was being selfish. Once again, I came to know that what He was saying was true and knowing that truth set me free.
I empathize with you over Zagnut. But I also admire that you have within you the peace that passes understanding!
Thank for being you Deb! |
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| August 26, 2008 |
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| Michael, thank you for being you too! For sharing with us about your grief for your mother. I don't think there is anyone alive who has not lost someone, or will not lose someone as they go through life. Death is a part of life, that is just all there is to it. Still, for some, it is a much harder experience. |
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| August 26, 2008 |
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| Amen, Deb!!!! |
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