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The last few days have been a bit trying for me. One of my husbands co-workers (actually his relief) well his wife committed suicide. No I do not know either of them at all. But My husband has been talking about the guy a lot and I really think this has hit home to him. Just last month we lost our Accountant he was only 64 and he also worked with my husband up till he retired a few years ago. So my husband has had a lot of issues to deal with this last month. I guess me trying to be strong for him and listen when he needs to talk has finally gotten to me. Yesterday was the woman’s funeral. And when hubby got home we talked and he said how people were “blogging” in our local paper about her suicide and their own personal feelings about it. So we were reading what people were saying. My heart was aching so with such mixed emotions to be honest with you. Personally I have always been one who has voiced their opinion on the whole suicide thing. I remember telling people growing up (even if they were joking or not) that I would not got to anyones funeral if they committed suicide. Because I would be so angry that they thought they had the right to kill themselves and never thought of what it would do to those left behind. Let me explain this was long I mean long before I had a personal relationship with Christ. I had girl from High School who I think about 5 years after we graduated Committed Suicide. Never understood why! See me I never felt that life could get so bad that the best way out would be to end your life. I have had many things happen to me and plenty of them bad but never would I think killing my self would be the best for everyone. This is where this hit home yesterday. This lady has a Husband (22 Years) and a daughter who was 7 or 8. Her parents are still alive and live in a different country. Now this is what I know about her situation: She was under doctor’s care for mental issues (PTS). She was very active in her community, and well loved by everyone who knew her. She was recovering and doing well in her mental issues. Her husband had actually been out of work since June to help care for her and their daughter (no, no financial issues) he was going to be returning to work this week, cause she was doing well. When she left the house that morning she was going to drop the daughter off at school and retrun a movie. 1 ½ hours later her husband went looking for her and found her car just down the road and surrounded by officials, and she had jumped from the bridge.I was reading these blogs posted on line at the newspaper web site and I thought HOW COULD YOU PEOPLE!!! This is someones child, someones wife, someones mother, someones sister!! This family is mourning the loss of their loved one and you are on this public forum voicing your opinion on how selfish suicide is, Where was her husband at the time, blah blah blah!! I was so upset by it. One comment even mentioned the husband and daughter’s names and I thought you are the coward you didn’t post your own name but you did theirs, after saying how sorry you were and Calling the woman a selfish woman not thinking of other people! Like I said to my husband I have my own personal feelings and opinions on the whole suicide thing but I would never NEVER use a forum like that to say the things these people did our of respect for those who have been left behind. I guess today I am just saying again our words we need to be careful not only what we say and how we say it but what we write and how and where we write it. Remember once they are out WORDS cannot be taken back. So be careful with your words today. Remember when you are talking about someone, someone is always listening to what you are saying!!! That person you are talking about is someone’s child and their father is listening and so is yours!
Please this is not a blog to discuss ones own personal feelings or beliefs on suicide so if you intend on doing that Please (no offense) but keep it to yourself! |
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| September 25, 2008 |
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MY PRAYERS ARE WITH THE FAMILIES,AND EVEN FOR THOSE
WHOM YOU MENTION.
GOD BLESS |
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| September 25, 2008 |
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| So sorry to hear this, my prayers are with her family. Ken has had 4 guys that we ran around with in school commit suicide....3 of them in the last 2 years, so sad :( |
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| September 25, 2008 |
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How sad.... My prayers are with this family......
WORDS can cut worst than a knife and yet people continue to be so thoughtless..... |
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| September 25, 2008 |
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| You have definitely given us a lot to think about, sister. Thanks! |
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| September 25, 2008 |
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| I will keep praying, as I always include in my prayers those who are affected by suicide. Only God knows what's in the hearts of man. |
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| September 25, 2008 |
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| I have been there so many times personally! Praise God for His Mercy, my prayers are with the family! love Stu! |
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| September 25, 2008 |
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You words hit so close to home. if you have read my testimony you know why.
I am praying for you and your hubby as well as this family. I will also pray that the people in your community will have more compassion with their words, the enemy is powerful, especially when someone is suffering from an MI, may God comfort her child and husband in this terrible time of loss.
God Bless you and your Husband ((((big hugs))))
Heather |
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| September 25, 2008 |
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| Praying for those left behind. Yes you are right our words do have an effect, so we must choose carefully what we say. |
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| September 25, 2008 |
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| Oh, my....what heart ache for all!!! Praying for her family and all those you mentioned. May they never be in the position this family is in now! Praying for God's comfort for you and your husband as well. |
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| September 25, 2008 |
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| Hey Sister, I was trying to send you a private message....couldn't find the tab on your new page???? It does look great. |
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| September 25, 2008 |
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| I pray God will save and comfort those who remain. Suicide is real. I pray that the daughter is released from that cycle. I pray she will find hope in Jesus and lead millions to Christ. |
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| September 25, 2008 |
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| i would say the same thing blessings845 said and that i've been praying for u guys and for all those families and all the things their going through ok and it isn't a game when u commit suicide not one little bit at all got it good and their is never never never never a really good reason to ever commit suicide ever |
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| September 25, 2008 |
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I heard a Priest say something in College in 1983 that stuck with me throughouts all of these years.
I quote him-
Words are like leaves you put them on someone door steps BUT if the WIND come the leaves get blown away
and never come back.
So words are important you can never take them back once you say them they blow away with the wind like the leaves.
I really think about what I say people and I think we as christains must be VERY CAREFUL.Wr are to encourage each otherr in faith and building each other in the WORD.
I will be PRAYING
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| October 10, 2008 |
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| I am with you! People really need to be careful when passing a judgement on a situation if they don't have all the details! If anyone has the right to say anything in this situation it's those who were involved and know the situation, not those pious people sitting behind their computers that never got their hands dirty with that womans life! |
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| October 10, 2008 |
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When I read this blog, tears began to flow. In 1991, I remembered when I stood at my kitchen window contemplating suicide. I though I was a strong independent individual until that day. I cannot explain the way thoughts of suicide works, except to say that these thoughts come into your head and take over every other thought. It begins to control your mind. At the time, I was not filled with the Holy Spirit. I was put on Prozac and did not sleep or eat for three days. My doctor at the time told me to continue to take Prozac. I am not a medicine taker and I knew this drug was doing the opposite of what they thought it would do. I did not know about depression and did not think I was depressed at the time. A few months later, I cried out to God and He took away the thoughts of suicide, and everything else that altered my mind, and poured His Spirit into me. To make a long story short, I thank my heavenly Father he pulled me from the depths of hell (yes I saw hell) and give me what it took to overcome the thoughts of suicide and every things else. However, I had to continue to yield to the Holy Spirit to overcome the evil one, and that meant read the bible and doing what it said. I held on to the Word of God for dear life. That is why I know the bible is the true book of helps. What God promised He is able to perform. I tested Him at His Word and found that He is the only way out of every depression, oppression or possession.
Father please reach into the mind and heart of the husband, daughter and all family members left behind. Fill them from the crown of their head to the soles of their feet with your Holy Spirit. Bring peace to their minds and hearts and please dear Father, turn this situation around and bring some good out of it. Bring all of the gossipers naysayers to repentance and shut the mouths of the evil ones, in the name of Jesus Christ, I pray. Amen! |
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