You couldn't be talking about anything you posted on here!  Everything I have read from you is from a woman of strong faith!  Is this MySpace?  I have only visited their homepage. 

Can I jump in here for a sec?  I heard someone say something that absolutely changed the way I talked to my daughter, who is now 16 and an amazing Christian young woman.  I will share it here in the hopes that it will help you, too.

We have a passion awakening in adolescence.  That initial passion belongs to God.  It is placed in our minds and spirits by God to drive us to Him.  The problem occurs when our young teen boys and girls start listening to music, watching videos/movies and reading material that glorifies romantic passion.  It misdirects our passion for God to a passion for the opposite sex. 

We need to see that passion for what it is, a motivator to get to know our Savior even better and to become more intimate with Him.  Romantic love and passion will follow in God's time.

That means we need to limit our teen's exposure to all of the sensous material that is so easily accessed in this day and age.  I sought out edifying music, books and magazines for my daughter and pointed out the immorality I saw in popular music and culture.  I never forbid her to listen to that stuff, but we don't have cable TV, rarely go to movies and whenever we saw something inappropriate, I pointed out not only what was wrong but why it was wrong.  She'd roll her eyes, but I now hear her saying the same things to her friends, in her own words, of course!  She does enjoy romantic songs, but has found more pleasure in hearing Michael Buble sing "Everything," than some over-painted young girl chant something about "do me, baby."  She has learned to use discression when choosing what sort of information she feeds her mind.

The longing your daughter is experiencing is real, Julia.  It is meant to motivate her to seek the Lord with all her heart, soul, mind and strength.  As moms, we have the priveledge of helping to point our teens in that direction.  It can be done, but it takes a proactive approach, not a reactive one.  Hmm...this might be a good blog topic of its own!

Thanks, Soozane. :) My advice would have been pretty much the same, Julia, but Soozane has the experience to go with it. I don't really have any books or anything to suggest, sorry. :( The only thing you can do is encourage her in her personal relationship with Christ and keep her on the right path.

Ephesians 6:4" ...do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord." (NIV)

Sue, no no these were posts on my blogger blog from over 3 years ago. (I don't know if you have read my testimony or not, but I didn't come back to Christ until a couple months after they were posted... so it has been 3 years now.)