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| Healing For Our Hurts |
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11:28 Come unto Me, all you that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.
Hurt hinders humanity. I have noticed seven ways that humans handle the hindrance of hurt. #1-3 are not effective; #4-7 will heal your pain. Which ways do you use?
1) Stuff it — They pretend their pain doesn’t exists. Many people refuse to acknowledge the hurt that they are in. Instead they try to shake in off through entertainment, work, alcohol or drugs, eating, exercise, and many other random activities.
2) Put up walls — They attempt to protect themselves from more hurt by avoiding potentially hurtful situations or people.
3) Act out – They hurt other people out of their hurt in an attempt to erase the pain by evening the score. The is often something that the person who hurts other people is not even aware of himself. It is a subconscious reaction to her or his pain.
4) Talk it out – They find a caring individual and verbally and emotionally share their pain with him or her.
5) Let it go – They release it, give it up, refuse to think negative thoughts about the person who hurt them, and move on to better things. Sometimes this takes time.
6) Have compassion for the one who hurts you. The next time that somebody does or says something that hurts you, remember that hurting people hurt other people. Very few people hurt others when they are feeling great. If you think about your hurt this way you will have a little compassion for the one who hurts you and you won’t take his or her actions personally.
7) Ask God to heal you. Seek His Presence and His love. Totally surrender your hurts and your will to Him.
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| October 06, 2008 |
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Um, my mom always said, "You don't feel that way, Brenda Kay!" ;) So call me the Thanksgiving TURKEY -- coz I sure stuffed it a lotta years! |
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| October 06, 2008 |
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| Stuffing emotional turkey can give us indigestion, can't it, GrammyB. |
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| October 06, 2008 |
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| Hey isn't that why the "OKIES" made that good gravy? or is that why we have a lot of chocolate things for after thanksgiving? LOL |
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| October 06, 2008 |
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Well.... call me a turkey!!!..=D |
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| October 06, 2008 |
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Well I'm more of a # 5...I must admit though that it may take time...I get more comfort in talking to GOD about it, and finding comfort in the Word of God....As I am able to LET IT GO....that then puts me in position for #6...being able to have compassion for the one who did the hurt....I had to learn some tough lessons about forgiveness and bitterness...so I can't afford to hold these things inside and against others...Too much work to do for the Kingdom of God...and too little time left to do it ;o) |
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| October 06, 2008 |
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All joking aside- what an awesome post!
#'s 1-3 Wow- Often people (christians do this without realizing it - or adults in the ministry will use "the Lord" to excuse their behavior) - Me personally...#1 I live in so much physical pain sometimes I have to pretend that it does not exsist --- and I have to be mindfull of all my responses to people and things and make sure I am not responding out of pain- I know that some day God will change that in heaven with a new body (I try not to complain, He will not give me more than I can handle!)
#'s 4-6 Each of us should do these daily and think as christians "Just how did Jesus do this?... Ahh...Jesus went to His Father in heaven through prayer and fasting, he went to his friends and said "Come with me", "Pray with me", "Let us gather together" etc... AND #6!!!
#6! Compassion for the one who hurts you!.... Jesus did that very thing (How precious is he?) When those soldiers were beating him... When even all of those that he held dear had left him for not... When every "THUMP" of the hammer tore trough his flesh, ripped into his veins and staked him to the splintering wood... as the pointed thorns dripped even more blood to his face and even the crowd cheered for something different...Even God could not help my Jesus- as HE bore all the HURT of the HURTING world from the begining of time ...He only could think of
COMPASSION ! COMPASSION for those that hurt Him! COMPASSION for those that hurt God the Father! Because of the COMPASSION of Christ... I can now say... I will pray for those who curse me. My Jesus showed me how :0)
Lord never let me forget YOUR COMPASSION for me! for the world! So let YOUR LIGHT SO SHINE BEFORE MEN! |
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| October 06, 2008 |
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I have deferred pain, my stomach is so ate up with ulcers, that i can't feel them any more, so when they flare up, i get deferred pain in my back, kind of like Christians do, acting out against others, in the name of their religion, deferring their own pain onto others.
praying for healing physically and spiritually |
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| October 06, 2008 |
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| Hey Steve, this was posted when I needed it most.thank-you, thank-you! |
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| October 06, 2008 |
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| Steve you mess me up everytime i read one of your blogs, because it seems like you tag me and understand exactly what i am dealing with, I thank you for the encouraging words and also words of confirmation, it helps to have someone who understands the hurt your dealing with especially when the person who hurt you the most is the one that God has sent you in to heal. |
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| October 06, 2008 |
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| good one |
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| October 06, 2008 |
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| Thanks for all the great comments and stars! |
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| October 06, 2008 |
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| Steve this has helped me tremendously. When I first read it, I thought: "good post for someone else"; then I allowed the holy spirit to examine my heart and I realized this post is what I needed to help me process my own hurt. Thanks. |
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| October 06, 2008 |
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| revstarr: Thanks for the feedback. I am so glad my post helped you process your hurt. |
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| October 07, 2008 |
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| Sheree: I'm am glad the mess-up is a fix-up and not a break-down. |
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| October 07, 2008 |
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| Steve this pinpoints I think my whole conscious life (being the point where I was no longer naive to what people were really saying and doing to me). I am just now at the place at age 37 where I have been really working on forgiving and forgetting!!! I have tried before and many times since but something always happens to bring up that painful memory and I re-live it again. I have had people tell me I really haven't forgiven or it wouldn't happen and others say it takes time. Here is my point, you sound like a learned man, I was under the impression that Jesus died for my sins and transgressions and I had the priviledge to lay all my burdens at his feet!!! So why do I have to walk it out??? As so many have told me. Why can't I lay it down and leave it? I don't feel like I pick it up as I have been told even as I feel it surfacing I am rebuking it. I have been to deliverance classes many times and have gone through many workshops on this. Yet just this week.. One of my relatives(distant) called me to ask prayer for a young lady and it just happens to be someone that was a childhood friend whom reconnected in our adult lives and 4yrs. ago an incident happened and I had her arrested. It is too painful to go back into the details again but let me say this wasn't a slap on the wrist situation. I refused to pray for her and told my great Aunt why and she guilted me into praying for this person. I was up all night... I couldn't sleep... I was sick at my stomach... scared and fearful that something was coming after me and was going to destroy me. It was horrible. I am not crazy, I know it sounds that way and I don't have mental issues although everything I have been through would constitute it. I have taken seminary classes, I homeschool and we study scripture everyday, I must be overlooking something. I was just wondering if in your infinite wisdom could you pray and discern through the Holy Spirit a real answer for me. Right now I am just clinging to 'For now you know in part'... and one day I will know in full when I am with my Father in Heaven. Thank you for your time. Sincerely, Tab. |
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| October 07, 2008 |
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Tabbie: Jesus cares deeply about what you are feeling and going through. He is on your side.
However, our flesh (human nature) and the enemy are working against Him. One reason it is so difficult to experience the peace God has for us is that we forget that we are in a fight. The battle is on. We are not done yet. In the midst of the battle we can have His peace, but we still have to struggle and fight and die to our self and obey God's word.
Jesus said "pray for your enemies." I don't like the concept, but I have found that when I go against my flesh and pray for an enemy, I experience freedom. I suggest you begint to pray for the woman. Ask God to bless her and every time you remember her or the pain she caused you, ask God to bless her again.
Try it. God's way really works. |
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| October 07, 2008 |
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I hear what your saying Steve and I agree with this but it brings to thought the song that says
'The Battles not mine...said little David Lord its thine I'm in your favor'. I don't mind praying for someone's need if it is a true need or for Salvation because that is our great commission. I just prefer to not re-live the pain, anger, frustration, and truly totally forget in my heart of hearts the offense. I know my mind will remember but I shouldn't have a reaction to that once I have given it to God. I mean in the big scheme of things we were made for God's Glory, I was and am Saved by Grace, and I laid all my iniquities and transqressions at the cross. I can pray for her and actually have a couple of times. I am used to praying for someone who continually hurts me every chance she(my step mother) gets. So I am not knew to that concept because she is blessed greatly. I just don't want to live in the past and what if there are other things I have suppressed and they come back to remembrance? I know at age 23 I went through the brownsville deliverance class at the church I was attending and I dealt with physical and mental abuse and sexual abuse from my childhood at 3rd grade and up until I was 17 and ran away from home to go live at my mothers. Then I started abusing alcohol and drugs around 18 until I was 23. Going to church the whole time mind you. I had 2 horrible marriages I dealt with. I remember all those things and it doesn't hurt and hasn't since that class. I have only experienced this situation a few short years ago and the memory is painful. I can't go into detail because I have only told God the extent of this hurt and I thought I had let it go. Yet here it is for the past 7 days haunting me. I cried and prayed to God for hours to completely take this away. Where is my peace? I am growing weary. And as I am writing this I am reminded of all the scriptures on the fruit of the spirit and dying to flesh and 'all who are weak and heavy laden.. I will give you rest'. I have read all of Joyce Meyer's books, Of course the bible and many others recently on forgiveness, who I am called to be, Life lessons and so on. I have played praise songs for hours by CD and keyboard just wanting to be in the presence of God and Thanking Him for trials because they mature us and make us grow spiritually. I have felt peace for a time because my mind was too busy with school, and the mundane of woman's household plite. I don't even think of it during my morning prayer and bible study, well I remember it but don't dwell in it probably because I am so anxious to get in the presence of God. Then there are those moments of rest where no one is calling my name or demanding a service from me and I say Thank you God and close my eyes and then I remember and when I go to bed at night I dream about it and grind my teeth until I wake up from it. Where does it say the christian shall be tormented in their sleep and quiet times? I know it probably sounds like I am trying to argue and trying to sound more knowledgeable than you but truly I am not. I guess I am just at the point that I need someone to dig deep for me. I am always doing and giving for everyone else and hardly have time for me because any time for me I try to spend in the Lord. Which is suppose to be for my benefit. Anyhow, maybe I just need to talk it out like your lesson says... But if I don't tell a person everything that happened will it come back? I really only wanted to tell God and now I have told my aunt and you. God Bless you and Thank you for your advice. My husbands home so I have to go. Thanks. Tab. |
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