You’re ready to get married and beside the cake, the wedding gown, invitations and bridal show; the reality is that you are establishing a family. I’m so interested in those topics and subject that make easier your life as wife-to-be.

Yes, you are engaged and this is the perfect time for you to start learning the wonderful role of being a “wife”. And start discussing certain topics with your fiancé.

It’s not a secret; our country is in the mist of a financial emergency and we need to work together to survive the economic downturn. The media has sought the advice of financial experts on how to cope with the economy - but few have sought the advice of marriage counselors to gauge the marital impact.

Reading my blog’s news this morning I found this “ a Minneapolis team of Olson, Olson-Sigg and Larson, Ph.D psychologists with decades of marital counseling experience and authors of the new book ''The Couple Checkup,'' believe they have found the secrets behind the happy marriage. The trio analyzed data and feedback from 50,000 American couples. Based on their marital satisfaction, the team separated happy couples from unhappy couples and determined what makes each so different. The trio discovered that conflicts over money and finances have never been more heated and threatening - with many couples reporting it is their sole source of marital stress.”

I have to confess, after 11 years married, we have experienced all kind of economical situations, and of course, you could smell the sour aroma of “conflict” when the money wasn’t enough to pay the bills. However, just before I get married I started thinking about this issue; at my parent’s house the financial topic was always an issue. Every payday my parents will argue about: what’s mine, what’s yours and what’s leftover! I can still hearing my mom’s best argument “- I Earned It, It’s Mine! Right?” Please do not misunderstand me, my mom was an extraordinary woman with imperfections as each one of us, but she always said to me “your husband can never know how much money you make”

But after becoming a young lady, I started hating that area in my parent’s relationship and I promised I wouldn’t follow that example. So, as soon as I engaged, we began to speak on this subject; I really wanted to get over any financial skepticism before the big day.

At the short age of 20 years old we were able to discuss about this subject; and eleven years later we still getting good results out of that two hours conversation.

I’ve learned that many financial crises are not only the consequence of “not having enough” but also not trusting sufficient instead, like in my parent’s example. In my mind I always thought, if you can’t deal with finances and become authentic in that area, I won’t be able to completely trust in any other one.

Finances are just the beginning point. We agreed that there is not “mine” or “yours” but “ours”. Therefore, if somehow money is an issue for you; I truly recommend you guys to speak about it before the big day. Set your own way and take the financial plan and decisions that work best for you!

I will love to hear your comments and outputs!

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