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| Disapproval = Hatred -- Modern Myth #9 |
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5:9 I wrote unto you in an epistle not to company with fornicators: 5:10 Yet not altogether with the fornicators of this world, or with the covetous, or extortioners, or with idolaters; for then must ye needs go out of the world. 5:11 But now I have written unto you not to keep company, if any man that is called a brother be a fornicator, or covetous, or an idolater, or a railer, or a drunkard, or an extortioner; with such an one no not to eat. 5:12 For what have I to do to judge them also that are without? do not ye judge them that are within? 5:13 But them that are without God judgeth. Therefore put away from among yourselves that wicked person.
Somehow our society has accepted and promotes the mythological idea that to disapprove is to hate. If you don’t approve of someone’s behavior nowadays, you might be accused of “hate speech” or of having a “phobia.” This however, is nonsense.
Even the people who love me the most, my immediate family, sometimes disapprove of my ideas or actions. But they still love me very much! Their love for me has nothing whatsoever to do with their approval or disapproval of my beliefs and behaviors.
So why is it any different in society? If you disapprove of lying, that doesn’t mean that you hate liars. Someone you love dearly may frequently lie, but you still love her or him, don’t you? Just because you disapprove of lying, it doesn’t make you a liarphobic, does it?
People who demand that other people approve of their behaviors have to be very insecure. After all, no one on earth is completely approved of by everybody. Just look at the US President (no matter who he or she is).
Millions of people are constantly disapproving of what the President says and does. Does the President turn around and call those who disapprove of him “haters” or “phobics?” Of course not. He or she is too secure of an individual to fall for that myth! And neither should the rest of us! We need to deny the lie that says that to disapprove is to hate! |
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| October 19, 2008 |
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AMEN and well said..in a world where tolerance is king, its difficult to make a stand. For as soon as you stand for truth..which often shines the light on those living in sin, automatically brings on the labels of "haters"...which is usually the farthest thing from the truth. We should say the truth because we love them to much for them to live in isolation from the love of Christ. Very good job. =) |
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| October 19, 2008 |
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I saw a movie years ago about the life of Peter and Paul. They disagreed with each other frequently and were both on a mission from the Lord. Their personalities got in the way. :) I am not sure if that could be backed up scripturally so maybe someone else can share if it is in there.
Anyway, I appreciate the insight of this blog, be blessed. |
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| October 19, 2008 |
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People want to have things set in categories for them - easy constructs of "yes" and "no." It is easier to evoke an emotional response (hatred) when applying a logical perspective (disapproval) than to defend the position logically. By demonizing the opposition an emotional response can be made that makes reason irrelevant. We do it in politics as well as social relationships.
You're right, Steve. It is a great myth. It is quite possible to disagree and still remain friends - to disapprove and still retain amity.
Oh, that we could remove personalities and individual hurts from the equation. . . . |
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| October 19, 2008 |
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I'm with you on this one Brother Steve...But as you have said there are a lot of insecure people out there....But the truth is the light....I, personally, shall continue to speak forth TRUTH whether they like it or not...call me what you want..I have a charge to keep...and a God to glorify .... ain't nobodies blood gonna be on my hands ;o) |
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| October 19, 2008 |
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Millions of people are constantly disapproving of what the President says and does. Does the President turn around and call those who disapprove of him “haters” or “phobics?” Not here yet!!!! But coming soon to a state near you! |
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| October 19, 2008 |
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I have to agree with you Brother Steve, this is the Leap Before You Look syndrome, the Automatic Assumption Condition that affects far too many. I've spoken many times in regard to these very things, the automatic assumption, the leap before we look, it is one thing to disapprove, and one thing to hate. The situation you speak of sure sounds like an automatic assumptions to me. Great post, Brother Steve.
Rev. Laura A. Neff
The Rainbow Minister |
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| October 19, 2008 |
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PeaNut2: Tolerance isn't king. Jesus is King!!!
Juanita: Paul and Peter did disagree and Paul rebuked Peter openly one time. But they both respected each other.
Gene: I actually like having friends who disagree with me. It keeps life from being boring.
That's it, Mar Jay. Keep on speaking the truth, no matter what names the insecure call you.
Gary: Let's hope the government doesn't clamp down on criticism. Political correctness has already done enough damage to truth.
Rainbow: I think it is more of a: "If you don't call my leap wonderful, you hate me." |
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| October 19, 2008 |
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| Well written. |
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| October 19, 2008 |
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| Thank you, racunpoodle. |
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| October 19, 2008 |
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| And thank you, woman of laughter. |
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| October 19, 2008 |
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| if we continue towards socialism, expect clamp downs big time |
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| October 19, 2008 |
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Steve, I think sometimes part of the problem is what Jesus was so often angry with the Pharisees about, hypocricy. 6:41 And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother's eye, but considerest not the beam that is in thine own eye? 6:42 Or how canst thou say to thy brother, Brother, let me cast out the mote that is in thine eye, when thou thyself beholdest not the beam that is in thine own eye? Thou hypocrite, cast out first the beam out of thine own eye, and then shalt thou see clearly to cast out the mote that is in thy brother's eye. 6:43 For there is no good tree that bringeth forth corrupt fruit; nor again a corrupt tree that bringeth forth good fruit. |
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| October 19, 2008 |
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| Amen, Jerry. We must live what we speak. |
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| October 19, 2008 |
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Thanks for making us think about this, Steve! In an age of soundbytes, absolutes are convenient, high impact cues that don't challenge a person's ability to think. You either love or hate. I think popularity contests like American Idol and Survivor, in which people are voted out of situations because others don't approve of them, have helped to propagate the myth. |
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| October 19, 2008 |
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| Good points, Bookish. |
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| October 19, 2008 |
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| I think of my dad who always told me, don't say you hate someone. Hate, he maintained, is the same as murder. According to him, it was acceptable to dislike someone. And dislike he did. Sometime his views were on the edge and he wasn't afraid to express them. But he was friendly and open, even to his "enemies". Complete strangers would buy him coffee. |
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| October 20, 2008 |
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| Sounds like he lived what he preached, Olivia. |
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| October 20, 2008 |
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| Great Blog Steve |
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| October 20, 2008 |
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| Thank you, Sheree. |
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