Joe, I will be praying for you and your Friend. 
No it is never good when this happen but God
knows each Heart.  Trust and stay focus on Him. 
With Love We Pray....LOL  God Bless

JUDGING OTHERS IS A SIN!
“Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you (Matthew 7:12).”

Kansas, here is what I have researched:

Should Christians Judge?

Christian's are often told they should not judge, it this a Biblical principle or a man made one?

Judging isn't about deciding who is bad,  judging is about making decisions based on evidence. A teacher judges every time they issue a report card, even if that report card is filled with A+'s, so to say we must not judge would be to say that we can't tell someone they did well even if they did something that saved lives. So to never judge would be to never tell your kids that you are proud of them. I for one would not want to live in a world where kids were never praised, even by their parents.

Ephesians 5:11-And have no fellowship with the unfruitfull works of darkness,  but rather reprove them.

2 Tim 4:2 Preach the word; be instant in season , out of season; reprove, rebuke, exhort with all longsuffering and doctrine.

Luke 17:3 Take heed to yourselves: If thy brother trespass against thee, rebuke him; and if he repent, forgive him.

1 Timothy 5:20 Them that sin rebuke before all, that others also may fear.

Titus 1:13 This witness is true. Wherefore rebuke them sharply,  that they may be sound in the faith;

John 7:24 Judge not according to the appearance, but judge righteous judgment.

The word rebuke means to to criticize sharply . The word reprove means to to scold or correct usually gently or with kindly intent This can not be done without judging someone. Sometimes you must judge people. For example if you see someone who can hardly walk without falling down trying to get behind the wheel of a car. If you don't judge them someone could get killed., sin hurts, and sometimes kills. If you don't judge someone who is involved in that behavior, you will always wonder if you could have stopped at least some of the pain that was caused. The facts are that many actions in this would can cause pain to people, adultery often causes broken homes, disease, and has even been known to incite murder. Judging those who are guilty of committing adultery can actually save a life. Ask yourself would Jesus like it if you could have saved a life by simply taking a person aside to a private place and kindly explaining the how dangerous his actions were, but you  refused  to do that simple life saving action ? The tricks behind judging are 1) Know the facts, Just because you see a woman hugging a man that isn't her husband doesn't necessarily mean she is cheating. Is this person a relative, or a long term family friend?  People who look guilty aren't necessarily as guilty as they look.  A person who looks like they are drunk, might actually be on a doctor prescribed medicine. Even a person who is guilty of a sin, might not deserve as much guilt as you would think at first blush. A person who steals might steal because they are unwilling to work, or they might steal because they are doing their best and still can't feed their kids. Someone who steals for the sake of stealing deserves allot more harsher judgment then someone who steals an apple for a hungry child. 2) Don't be a hypocrite If you weight 300 lb.. don't call someone else fat, It will be clear to them that you are not any stronger then they are, and they will just get angry, instead invite them to take a walk with you. 3) Always judge with love in your heart. Hatred or a bad attitude will only  drive the person to do more of the behavior that upsets you. 4) Don't harp, If you have said what you need to say, and it isn't a matter of life and death  leave it alone for  a while, harping will only drive the person away. If it is a matter of life and death do whatever you have do.

Hi Joe,

Actually I was going to speak to the verse that Dan quoted [1 Cor 5]...but he beat me too it. :-) If we are going to see what God is saying about judgment we really need to look at everything God is saying about judgment. If we select only one set of scriptures that supports a given perspective then we are actually not speaking the truth.

In 1 Corinthians 11:31 we are told that we are, first of all, to judge ourselves so that we won't be judged.  I believe that is part-in-parcel with the confession of our sins.  When we confess our sins it is because we have judged ourselves guilty.

Just like with Paul delivering that Corinthian over to Satan for the destruction of his flesh (notice that it wasn't the man's sin that delivered him to Satan but Paul: rabbit trail) and later in 2 Corinthians he forgave that same man [looks like it anyway] because he found out that he had changed his mind and confessed his sin.  So mercy is to be shown, generously, to those who repent (Greek: change of mind), but judgment is to be applied to those who will not change their mind. There are numerous scriptures that speak to that fact...what about those?

Sincerely,
Craig