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5:25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; 5:26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, 5:27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. 5:28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. 5:29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: 5:30 For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. 5:31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. 5:32 This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church. 5:33 Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.
Sex is three-sided. Yet in our culture only one side of sex is promoted — physical pleasure. Sex, as promoted by our modern media, is all about selfish pleasure and nothing else. That is a rather shallow view of sex because it completely overlooks the other two sides.
Our society likes to deny the second side of sex, procreation. This denial is widely practiced through irresponsible sexual activity, womb killings, runaway fathers, and unwanted or abused children.
The third side of sex is seldom if ever mentioned. Even though it is the most pleasurable aspect of sex, many people don’t even know it exists. This is the heart-to-heart, emotional and spiritual intimacy.
The physical act of sex is like a door. It can open a pathway to an amazing, loving, compassionate, thrilling, trust-filled, dedicated, honorable, inspiring relationship. Sometimes people get a glimpse of this third side of sex and try to grasp it with the term “soul mate.”
Most people however can’t get their eyes off the door — the physical act of sex. They seldom, if ever, go through the door to the beautiful spiritual and emotional parts of sex.
The modern approach to sex is like someone going to a Walmart and playing with the door for hours. They step up and back away and make the Walmart door open and close. They see how close they can get to the door without making it open. Then they walk away and tell people they “got some great Walmart.”
The truth is that they didn’t get any Walmart at all. They never got beyond the door. Walmart is full of thousands of great things and those door-players missed them all and went away empty.
So many people today are missing out on the great aspect of sex. They have made it “casual,” “hooking up” in the door of superficiality with meaningless physical contortions. Meanwhile a treasure house of intimate blessings with another human beings is ignored and denied.
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| December 16, 2008 |
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| Interesting view of it my friend and thanks |
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| December 16, 2008 |
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| Great points Steve! (lol, if you aren't careful, your blog is gonna end up with a PG-13 rating! lol) |
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| Amen |
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| December 16, 2008 |
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You have a rare gift for explaining things, brother. Sex has been cheapened and so many of us have allowed that even when we know better. Even within the bonds of matrimony we can take it to the mere level of a duty like brushing our teeth. It was meant for more than that...just reading Song of Solomon tells us so. I am gonna look at Walmart doors a bit differently after today. :) Womb killings is a new phase to me but passion for the unborn is not. I never aborted but God has given me a love for the women who are in agony because of their decision. I am seeking a love for those who have not repented because I won't be able to reach them until I can. Pray for that. My profile pic was shot in DC when I was caught praying for the unborn in August of this year. It isn't my best photo but it reflects more of who is inside of me than any I have had taken. Be blessed and be bold to proclaim your timeless messages. love and hugs, juanita |
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| December 16, 2008 |
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| In order to not add too much to this site.... I would like to recomend a book " Divine Romance " it is a very good book :0) |
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| December 16, 2008 |
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| Steve I loved the imagery of the opening door. The fact that they leave empty handed, that was a very clever analogy! Great blog. Stu |
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| December 16, 2008 |
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| Hey Angie, I have that book and have not read it yet! Thanks! I will make it a priority after the book I am reading. If I remember correctly it is written about angels and their amazement of the romance God has for us. hugs and love to you sweet sister. |
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| December 16, 2008 |
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| Nice blog Steve...Wonderful way to look at it...We should receive all that God has for us (smile) |
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| December 16, 2008 |
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| GREAT WAY TO LOOK AT THIS MY FRIEND....... |
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| December 16, 2008 |
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| Good explanation and I liked the Walmart Door term..........Society is to blame for most of our downhill negative behavior and it continues to get worse. God created Adam and Eve and that is where it started. Great blog Steve. |
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| December 16, 2008 |
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| WELL I DO DECLARE. THE FOURTH SIDE OF SEX IS BETWEEN A HUSBAND AND A WIFE. NOW THAT'S SEX AND THAT SETTLES IT. AMEN |
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| December 16, 2008 |
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| Very good comments. Thank you all for sharing. |
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| December 16, 2008 |
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Great Blog Steve. I'm not sure you expected humor to
come out of this, but God does have a sense of humor.
May I add,{ I'm still giggling about the Wal-mart door...}
The Song of Solomon is a great read also.
Agape, Greek for Love.
Love that is spirtual, not sexual in its nature.
I myself love to be cuddled and yes by my Husband! |
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| December 16, 2008 |
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"Most people however can’t get their eyes off the door — the physical act of sex. They seldom, if ever, go through the door to the beautiful spiritual and emotional parts of sex."
Sadly, this statement pretty much sums it up for most of us.... Sex can be a very "selfish" realm... Truly... it is too often "all about me" which shuts the door on any real intimacy between lovers. The prominence of pornography in our culture is a symptom of that kind of mentality: With Christ, I believe this can be overcome.
Blessing for caring about this troubled topic.
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| December 17, 2008 |
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I so agree that the mentality of America in general has "lost God" and spirituality in our daily lives. With most having the "entitlement" syndrome it is difficult to teach "restraint/abstinence" any more. Having been a medical missionary and living abroad I stand amazed at how "casual and shallow" we really treat this precious gift from God. Most times the road that leads to sexual relations is One Way - pure selfishness and as you so elequantly said "all about me". All to often, words of love are spoken as a manipulation to get a physical desire met. Once the desire is quenched it is back to "business as usual" without caring let alone love or remorse for the injured feelings of the other.
Most do not know "real love" and therefore turn to sex as a quick fix or cheap alternative. I know that all good things are worth waiting for!
With Agape,
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| December 17, 2008 |
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| I can not resisit to add one more comment.... If we look around us see all the things that TRIP us up they are all tricks of SATAN, Do not ever forget that it is Satan goal to get our eyes and hearts off of what God has designed for us... God designed sex for us, if the deveil can screw that up then he will--- and laugh the whole time! God has plans for us and they are plans for good! |
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| December 17, 2008 |
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| This goes right along with a video I just posted by Josh Harris titled "Don't Waste Your Sexuality." Great post!
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| December 17, 2008 |
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| Amen! For those of us who want to be lights for Christ, purity is very important, both in the flesh and in our mind. |
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| December 17, 2008 |
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| We like to expose the sins of sex as if they are a thing of our time yet, those sins are not new. The difference is the proliferation of avenues to bring it to our attention. But if you want to see sex sins in action over 2000 years ago, just read some of the Old Testament books. Check on David and others. Human moral fabric is very thin when it comes to sexual desires, to matters of the flesh. We even wonder if we would enjoy those pleasures in the after life, LOL. |
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