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| A Man verses a Gentleman/A woman verses a Lady |
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Most of what I learned from my daddy did not come from direct teaching. Most of what he taught me was purely by example. One of the few things I do remember him directly telling me was one of the many things that separeted men from true gentlemen, and women from true ladies. This may be old school, and a lot of people look at me as though I am crazy when I say this, but I need to know if I am the only one on earth that still feels this way, so if you have an opinion, please comment.
A true gentleman would never find himself alone with a woman if: 1) he is a married man or, 2) she is a married woman. And the same is true for a lady.
I always feel uncomfortable when I find myself in the above position, but have been told that I am being old fashioned and unrealistic. Am I?
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| June 29, 2007 |
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| No, it's not unrealistic at all. I agree completely. In my ministry I have vowed to myself, the Lord, and Leann to never be in a counselling situation, or any situation at all for that matter where I am alone with any member of the opposite sex. (other than my own family of course) I think there is just too much that has happened in our time to allow yourself to be placed in any situation that could appear to be questionable. After all, Scripture says to be "above reproach and to avois all appearance of evil." I think that is highly applicable to what you are talking about. Great position to have adopted for yourself. I appluad you! |
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| June 29, 2007 |
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| nice mom, i kinda agree but like what if they are like coworkers or employes or something you cant really stop that can you?? |
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| June 29, 2007 |
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Julia, I have known several Christians with your father's perspective.
One in particular, a 90-something year old woman in our church. She lives across town from our church, can no longer drive, and longs to come to church when her health allows. However, she will not ride alone with any man in the church who volunteers to pick her up. She doesn't want to start any rumors, she says. I think she's precious!
From the other perspective, one of my deacon families is a 90-something year old man who lives in an assisted living home. He is alert, delightful, and precious, and he loves my occasional visits. Many days he sits there alone with no visitors, and the gender of his visitors is not a concern of his. He wants company.
I respect your perspective, but personally choose to evaluate each circumstance individually. There are times when my wisest counsel is to avoid being alone with a particular male, or female, but that is not a one-size-fits-all rule for me. |
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| June 29, 2007 |
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Thank you for your comments Chris, Tollie, and Kathy.
I agree that it is certainly something that depends on the circumstances. There are times when I have to have a private meeting with my male boss and the door is closed. Although it does make me a little uncomfortable (not because of anything he does), I don't believe it is wrong. and certainly when there must be a visit to an elderly person who lives alone, and possibly many other situations.
Chris made reference to the main point I believe my daddy was trying to make, and that is that we must be very careful not to allow ourselves to raise questions regarding our Christian integrity. |
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