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Free speech? Censorship? Whose blog is it anyway?
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Dave Hamm
December 22, 2008
Well stated and spot on. We love you Mike (as long as you don't censor my comments). wink LOL Dave
Jimmie
December 22, 2008
Good information Mike.
Carol Suh
December 22, 2008
Glad you wrote this Mike!  Interactions online are still a new thing to many of us.  Part of building a safe and beneficial communication tool comes with understanding how to set guidelines boundaries :).
Mike n Laura
December 22, 2008
Carebear, I agree and good point. Boundaries are a good thing!! It's challenging for each blogger to define their own boundaries, and even more challenging to inform others of those boundaries. I think MyChurch has done a pretty good job of providing general boundaries for acceptable discourse in the Help/FAQ section.

Given that some people still take it so personally when their comments are deleted, I thought it was important to set the record straight.

Thanks Dave and Jimmie!
Hudnall
December 22, 2008
LOL
the one thing I have come across that really you have no control over...

reading a blog from someone one day- I felt that I had read it before
go through my friends blogs
sure enough- there it was
an exact copy of what someone else had written
Mike n Laura
December 22, 2008
Bubbles....did you inform the "re-poster" that this is somewhat in violation of etiquette? I've seen that a few times. It really is less a case of someone trying to get away with "plagiarism" than it is just someone thinking that anything posted to the internet is public domain and seeking to share it.....
Birdie Courtright
December 22, 2008
Wow Bubbles! You know, at least who ever did that was moved by what had been written or they wouldn't have copied it. Hopefully they weren't intentionally plagerizing someone else's work. :) 

Thanks for the reminder, Mike. I've only run across one instance where I had to remove a comment. I love that people can discuss and chew ideas. It keeps things interesting.   
Brother Todd
December 22, 2008

We are free!

Hudnall
December 22, 2008
I went to the original poster.  He went to him.  They are friends now- hehe
Sheree Timms
December 22, 2008
Thanks Mike, the reason why i joined mychurch is because i had the ability to express my views and even get some Biblical truths that i might have missed.
DENISE
December 22, 2008
THATS FOR SURE YOU CAN GET RID OF ANYTHING IN MY BOOK.......YOU CAN TAKE CONTROL....LIKE BROTHER TODD SAYS WE ARE FREE......
Mike n Laura
December 22, 2008
Bubbles, that is awesome to hear!

Todd, you bet! It's your blog - you get to moderate it! (You have real power!! lol)

Denise, yep he sure is!

Sheree, blogs are like interactive magazine articles.....love the interaction! Though sometimes we have to control that interaction... :-)
MarJay HizWay
December 22, 2008
Right on Brother Mike....Right on ;o)
Dr Tameka Woods
December 22, 2008
Amen thanks for stating this.
Mike n Laura
December 22, 2008
Thanks MarJay! You are a very capable blogger, sister!

Dr Tameka, you're welcome. Your support is appreciated!
Daniel Beasley
December 22, 2008
I've had my own run-in's with folks who didn't understand the concept you've laid out here. Don't remember who said it but: "Freedom of the press belongs to the man who owns one!" always comes to mind... Your blog is your own press--be free!
Kathy
December 22, 2008
Good post, Mike!  (Feel free to delete this comment!)    :)
rebekah byrne
December 22, 2008
i agree with everything u all have said and also definitly with what bubbles said it is so true and u do have the power of ur blogs and whose comments stays on and whose doesn't and they don't have the right to harrass u and don't have the right to mess with u and don't have the right to be mean and demeaning and rude  and hurtful and discouraging and cutting u down and doing all really mean things to u and saying bad and wrong and distasteful things towards u and bubbles i am still extremely sorry for what i said to u along time ago and i am sorry for how i acted it was childish and ignorant of me and hurtful and discouraging and mean of me to do and i hope u can find it in ur heart to forgive me and to be friends again with me sweet friend of mine ur a godsent friend from heaven
Tom
December 22, 2008
   Thanks Mike,
   Being relatively new to this means of communication, I appreciate the view of blog ownership.
   I feel better now about deleting a post or two !  

   LOL, Kathy's made me laugh, wait, is it still there?
ihsallthetime
December 22, 2008
Thanks for this blog Mike.  Most important, I thank the My Church sponsors and will try to not abuse the privileges so freely given to me.  If I have unknowingly offended anyone, please forgive me.  It is never my intention or motive to offend anyone, but like a good friend tells me from time to time, People these days are very sensitive.  I have a very bold spirit and at times the truth I speak may offend. You may delete any of my comments, it does not bother me..........boohoo (LOL).

Love you Brother
Shalom to all my friends 
Mike n Laura
December 22, 2008
Marcia...no worries, sister. You've never offended me (though I can't really speak for anyone else). You're a seeker of truth and attempt to share what you know (or have been convicted of). You also seem to be confident in God to convict others of the truth when they see it. God bless!

Kathy, thanks and no worries, your comment will stand! lol
Mike n Laura
December 22, 2008
Tom, sounds like you already had a pretty good feel for moderating your own blog. You see, you knew more than you thought!

PastorDan, yes some really don't get it. Hopefully posts like this one add to the collective knowledge.

Rebekah, sounds like your instincts are right on, sister.
mstovall2003
December 22, 2008
Thanks Mike for the info - I pray that in my blogging I have not offended anyone.  I pray that the Holy Spirit will continue to guide me in the posts that I make.  I always try to include the author of the devotionals and if the writing comes from my hand I try to let you folks know.

We will always have someone who is just downright offensive and it is the work of the devil trying to put fear, doubt and stir up trouble...  We have formed what I believe is a closeknit family and Gods WORD will prevail...

Merry Christmas
GraceAlone
December 22, 2008
I can see your points Mike. But it is cliqish here. I have read some of the most outstanding posts and people just glaze over. I guess I am just more serious.
Joey     R
December 22, 2008

Thank ya, Mike.  I love to scribble all over your blogs.   hehe!!

Mike n Laura
December 22, 2008

Joey, nuthin offensive about your scribbles. ;-)  Actually they're always quite pleasant.

Dennis, I too have found some real gems that were largely overlooked by the community. Or...maybe my idea of "outstanding" was really just my own subjective opinion.

Mary, you're welcome. And I wouldn't worry, I don't think anyone who reads your blogs doubts your love for your readers. God bless you sister!

HigherGround
December 22, 2008

Hey Mike, just getting to read this and wow!

One time I got a whack in the head over a blog and I prayed hard before responding. I wondered if I could bring peace to the situation and it appears overall I did. What happened next was beautiful because some folks nicely responded and touched on the comment to be supportive. I felt smothered in love and it was a blessing in the end for the exercise of it all. I almost felt like I was ready for another challenge but with the elections over the ugly has rested a wee bit. lol

I hugely look forward to your blogs and many others on here and don't like to spar with anyone. If I don't find something on mychurch to learn from there is always a giggle like the message my buddy Bubbles wrote about above. I will carry that laugh with me all day tomorrow! That is the power of the Lord's love. 

Huge hugs...juanita

Mike n Laura
December 22, 2008
Juanita, thanks, you are such a blessing. Like you, I really don't like sparring either. I must admit, though I try to answer every post to my blogs, I just don't have the time anymore to get into huge back n forth discussions with people who repeatedly post lengthy comments.  I'm not anxious to delete comments though either, and will almost always let dissenting comments stand (depending largely on their tone). Actually, I appreciate dissention, to a point. It's good to see brothers and sisters conscientiously wrestling with truth.

I had my own "whacked on the head" experience on one of my blogs. But rather than delete the critical, accusatory posts to my blog, I carried on a dialogue w/the member via private messaging, and we ended up becoming friends. I'll never forget it, and still praise God for that outcome to this day! 
Ian Grant Spong
December 23, 2008
I was being harassed recently and even asked the gentleman to stop persecuting me. He continued. Then blessing of blessings, I found that if I unticked or ticked a certain box, I forget which one now, I could allow only my friends to post comments on my blogs. I'm not sure what blocking an individual does. Perhaps you can explain the difference between blocking and only allowing friends to comment. Thanks friend.
Old Man of The North
December 23, 2008

I can relate to what you've written Mike.  Its our account, our blog, so we should moderate it.  So if there's anything in there that is deemed to be abusive, offensive or whatever, we also have the power to either tackle it or delete it. 

As for palgiarism?  I think I tacked that subject in one of my last blogs.  People may have heard it before, but they should rubber stamp it and put a bit of themselves into it.  After all, we can't go to heaven on somebody else's faith.  Its by our own faith that we'll enter the gates of heaven.  And if  were to be really honest with people, people can spend up to a couple of hours writing something, only for someone else to just cut 'n' paste and present it as their own.  Like I've said, we won't get to heaven on somebody else's faith (even if its in written form). 

As for blocking people?  I haven't got a clue.  Its not that I want to block people, but they must realise we're here for one purpose, and one purpose only.  And as you picked up in one of my blogs in the past, I received something that went down like a lead balloon.  What puzzled me after their comment was, they invited me/added me to become their friend, and my brain cell kind of did a flip!  With a grand entrance like that, heaping guilt and condemnation onto people that can hardly stand with what they've already got, what more have they got to say that will add salt to the wounds of people?  So I responded - but in a different way, leaving the door wide open to come back to me - that if they've got something good to say, say it.  Otherwise, likewise - the door is also open.  People must realise that a word out of season could send someone crashing to the floor.  Likewise, when writing stuff and presenting it for "friends only" limits the messages to friends only,  therefore counteracts spreading the message to as many people as possible, which counteracts reaching as many people as possible.  So wherever possible - my messages are for all people - not just some, which kind of goes in-line with what Grant has written above who has the same dilema of what to do when, how to do it, and if its appropriate given the circumstances.  Anyway Mike, if I don't hear from you before, I hope you and yours have a great Christmas.  God bless.

Mike n Laura
December 23, 2008
Grant, first, I'm very sorry you rec'd that kind of treatment. I suppose some get so puffed up that don't see anything wrong with treating others like that. :-( 

As I understand, blocking users prevents them from seeing your profile, sending you messages, or commenting on your blogs. (They should still see your blogs though.) Checking the box under your privacy settings to only allow friends to comment, still allows them to view your profile and send private messages. Under blog settings (visible when blogs are in edit mode) you can also make blogs "friends-only", meaning only friends can see/read them.

I would also suggest reporting all clear cases of harassment to MyChurch admin. If they'll harass you, they'll do it to others.
Mike n Laura
December 23, 2008
Stevie, sounds like yo have a great handle on controlling your blog...for the benefit of all who read it! Where the abusive and blatantly arrogant are concerned, I'm a fan of the "block" feature. Like you said, allows "spreading the message to as many people as possible", thus "reaching as many people as possible". The feature simply cuts off that offensive individual from interacting...though they can still read your posts.

There are 4 blokes on my "blocked" list. They all have this in common: when I attempted to privately message them to seek reconciliation, they reacted with more abuse. You gotta know when to cut off all ties.m
Old Man of The North
December 23, 2008
Agreed.
Cheryl Whit
December 23, 2008
Awesome!~
Bren
December 23, 2008

Thank you so much for sharing this information.

Deb Rockwell
December 23, 2008
I have used the censorship, and deleting comments that I don't think are appropriate.  I like people to feel free to comment on my blogs and voice their own viewpoints even if I might not agree with them.  But using bad or offensive language, or to cut others down, I don't put up with that. 
Mike n Laura
December 23, 2008
Deb, I'm with ya. Like you, I appreciate reading perspectives that differ from mine, and have rec'd a few comments that disagree. And tose that use offensive or abusive language are not tolerated.

Thanks Bren, Cheryl, and restore!
HigherGround
December 24, 2008

Now I know why I could star but not comment on your recent blog Grant. I thought we were already friends. lol

I wasn't blocked, I don't believe because I have agreed with all your stuff I have read to date. :) Lift the shackles from me brother Grant? hugs juanita

 

Sue
December 25, 2008
FINALLLY!!!!  Sue did triple stars!!!  It's Christmas!!
Prayer Warrior For God
December 26, 2008
I loved this one Mike it is so awesome and so true. =) You probably did a bit of reasearch before you posted this one and that is so cool to see. I used to have mine set as friends only, but am slowly coming out of my shell.
Coreena
December 27, 2008
I feel empowered!!  Thanks for the blog, Mike!  Even though I have been on mychurch for over a year this is still kind of new to me.  I appreciate the instructions and clarifications you have given in this blog.
Donna S
December 27, 2008
I LOVE "TOOLS" we have been given so many "tools" to help us in all ways of life
Mike n Laura
December 28, 2008
You are indeed welcome Coreena. You are definitely not alone. I have repeatedly encountered members who feel entrapped and powerless at the hands of outspoken commenters. None of us need host comments we are uncomfortable with.

Sometimes it helps to privately message someone who has posted a comment you don't care for, explaining why you deleted it. This can be situationally dependent.

Occasionally commenters who feel passionate about a topic or issue that you blog about simply need to be told to write their own blog on the topic, rather than take over your blog in order to push their views!

Right-o, Donna!!
REMARKABLE TERRY
December 28, 2008

Very well said Mike.  This was so much need because people are leaving Mychurch because of other peoples comments on their blogs.  We do have control here, I'm glad you have educated the family about this....

Mike n Laura
December 28, 2008
Thanks Terry. Yep, it's true, MyChurch hosts the blog, and the blogger hosts the comments, and the commenter, well he/she really should act graciously when typing on someone else's space.

ps... some people who get offended need to realize they share the blame, due to their own inciteful words
pandabear
December 29, 2008
Mike, some people who get offended often are being convicted by the Holy Spirit.
Mike n Laura
December 29, 2008
Pandabear, do you mean those who take their aggression out on the blogger? Or the blogger who doesn't care for some of the comments posted? Well, I guess it could go either way. Thanks for your input!
Steve Simms
December 29, 2008
Good points, Mike.  Blogging is great freedom of expression!
Evangelist Keith  Wilson
December 29, 2008
Thank God for those Delete buttons! LOL
Mrs Annette
December 29, 2008
Amen & Amen....Thanks for the encouraging "Blog" :)   
Mike n Laura
December 29, 2008

You are very welcome Mrs Annette!

Mrs Strout, you are indeed free (to write whatever you choose to your blog, and moderate it as you see fit)!!  :-)

 

Mike n Laura
December 29, 2008

That "Delete" occasionally comes in very handy, Keith.  Thanks Steve!

 

Elizabeth Christy
December 30, 2008
Thanks so much for posting this! I had an issue myself once that left me feeling violated and it is SOOO nice to know that we do indeed have these tools available to us. Definitely important info!
Angela
December 30, 2008
Thanks, just wish I read this before I deleted all my blogs :)!
Mike n Laura
December 30, 2008

Ah, Elizabeth, thanks so much for letting me know. You of all people had an issue? But your blogs are so benign, so encouraging! Just further proves it can happen to anyone!! So glad you are now feeling empowered, on your own blog!

Angela, oh sister, don't tell me that!!!!  Well praise God you have backups stored on your local harddrive. Right?

 

Angela
December 30, 2008
Yup sure do! I usually type all my blogs on microsoft word first, then post them...so they are all there!
Mike n Laura
December 30, 2008
I never doubted you  :-)
Janet A
December 30, 2008

Thank you for this information.  I had a negative experience with comments on my blog and so this is good news for me.

Janet 

 

Mike n Laura
December 30, 2008
Janet, somewhat surprisingly, you are not the only one. When we join an online network such as this one, it is important to be aware of the tools at our disposal, as well as recognize exactly whose turf we're on. (Though we really should be gracious no matter where we are, right?)
Teral McDowell
January 02, 2009
Thanks, Mike, interesting blog and good info. Perhaps the teachings of Eph 5:15b would help to remind us, namely myself, that we are to seek after good for one another (in my devotional this morning).
Joey     R
January 02, 2009

It is my blog.  It's my responsiblity to keep it spic and span.  I'm not a teacher at all.  I write what God places on my heart, what is going on in my life, stuff my brother sends me, and poetry that I've written.

Once in while I have to have a huge cat fight.  I do that when people have picking at each other.

Mike n Laura
January 02, 2009
Teral, that is one of many scriptures we would all do well to memorize...and practice. Thanks!

Catfight, Joey? Your profile pic would suggest "dogfight". :-)
Joey     R
January 02, 2009

Funny ain't ya....  I call it peace makin!

Olivia
January 02, 2009
This is great!
Kansas City Joe
January 02, 2009
Amen..you wrote it..you control it..
Joey     R
January 03, 2009
I don't think he is controllin it very well now.   hehe!!    Mikey!
Mike n Laura
January 03, 2009

Thanks Olivia! Thanks Joe...exactly right bro!

Oh Joey, I hate to get in the way of good clean fun, lol

 

Dave Mark
January 12, 2009

Hi Mike,

I try not to comment on blogs because I know other people want to have their say. As you know, once I say something about anything nothing else needs to be said. <ahem> So I want others to put their views forward without being intimidated by my insights and views <cough>. I don't ask to be right all of the time, I just am <wheeze>. So don't be too hard on the rest, they're trying as best as they can.  

Lara Leger
January 12, 2009
Yeah, and seeing as this is attempt two here, I fully intend to use those "rights." lol
David
January 12, 2009
Hmm, I find it odd that there would be offensive comments left by fellow Christians. If so, some people need to reevaluate themselves and think about how God wants them to live.
Mike n Laura
January 12, 2009

David, I find it odd too!! But alas, we still see the occasional offensive comment here and there. Even Christians can lose their temper, misjudge others' intentions, etc.

Lara, a most heartfelt welcome back is given sister!  And yes, this post is long, long overdue.

Mike n Laura
January 12, 2009

David the beloved, I've always been extremely lax in controlling the comments on my blogs. I can probably count on two hands the # of comments I've deleted. People have posted their views in disagreement with mine often, yet their comments have remained.

Also, in moderating my blog, I always have my younger readers in mind too. If I wouldn't want my own children to read it, or I believe it will lead them dangerously astray from truth about God, I WILL DELETE IT!!