-When things are tough and I need time to decide, she always make the decision that she calls “with everyone in mind”

-She thinks she is invincible, even fixing the water leaks she told me long ago.

-And did I forgot to mention that she is lacking trust? My lunch needs to be pack perfectly just in case... At dinner time, we can never finish a meal as family for there is always a need to refill my glass or for an extra napkin, that is not to say that if the meal is not what we like, few pots and another one is done in no time.

-She doesn’t seems to get it. When I want pasta she cooks rice, when I want rice she cooks whatever. Can she read my mind?

She thinks she knows it all. She is so illiterate that the only subject of discussion is the same one. You. She can never do things the way I asked her too.

She is a nurse, a teacher, a counselor, a seamstress, a banker… And let me tell you, she has a photographic memory. In prayers she remembers every one, - even feels sorry for the poor, the sick, the homeless, the pain and suffering of others. Isn’t that sickening?

-A scientist, everything need to be analyzed.

-She is arrogant, everything is worthy of consideration.

-Has animal instincts protecting the children.

-She is paranoid. My clothes have to be extremely organized, and forget about socks and others, they must be perfectly matched with no wrinkles in my shirts and god-forbid my pants. She is a believer Lord. Believes the whites ones, not that white, believe them all…

-No wonder we are going broke, she buys us everything she sees and more. Things that I did not even ask for. And do You know what Lord ?

I think that she is losing her mind. All she talks about is “To be like You”. Isn’t that a bit too prideful?

-She has “the bad habit” of justifying everyone. There is always a reason for everything. I know something is wrong! I see all her faults and in me, she won’t see none.

-She treats me like a child, always watching over me.

-She is so selfish that she does not want me to get sick. And that is not to count what she told me last week. She can’t afford to die early, she wants to see the children grow.

-One of the things that bothers me the most Lord,…

I think she caught something. She can read my mind, although; she “forgot” my sister‘s birthday card. Predicts the future like an Engineer, always planning ahead.

She already heals herself when she is sick. One aspirin and “You and her are more than enough”. And since she does not have enough to do at home she spends a great deal helping others. As she says she wants to give the best to everyone… She has to learn to utilize better her time and cut the “investing time in the children” Not even mother Theresa made as many sacrifices as she does, “always forgiving”. I don’t asked her for much but to clean up all the mess. To leave my tools alone and not hide them in the drawers and let me tell you just one more. Why the needs to know where I have been?

She is a tough one Lord! Self-sufficient, you and her can do it all. “Can You believe that”? -Fearless. Doesn’t worry about finances because You are the sources of her supply. And let us no talk about stingy, everything it is so expensive to her but my closet is pack and let’s not talk about the children’s. Sacrifices and patience kills me, she can wait for later. She wants to save every single one of my pennies.

-Oh! And listen to this one!

When things gets tough, she must tide because “You will multiply”. “Her reasoning, you must store treasures not only in earth but also in heaven”. I call that, greediness. I tell you she is way ahead of the future. That it is not to add that when she was working full time, she was like the energizing bunny, unstoppable. Everything needed to be ready for the next day.

-And did I forgot to tell you? You won’t believe this one. She kneels in prayer to keep her soul in shape. God and I’m telling You man to Man...

She broke all the rules, when she is sad, she sings, when she feels like crying she dances or something. -You have no idea. And this is how I know that she is losing it, when things gets tough, she is thanking and Praising You. Ungratefulness rules her heart, she wants more of you every day.
God smiled and said,
"Yes son, Do you honestly think that you can handle a real woman?

Man to man, God continues; You have no idea what she can endure or accomplish." Through all the pain and strife, she was capable to bring life. She can't change your past, heartache or pain, but she can be there when you need someone who cares. She can't keep your feet from stumbling but you can hold her hand and not fall.  Your joys, triumphs, successes, are not hers but she rejoices as if they were her own. Your decisions in life are not hers to make, nor to judge, she can only support, encourage, and help you when you hurt. For I have created her not of your head for her not to be more than you; neither of your feet for you to stomp over her, I have created her out of your chest for you to treasure her and keep her next to your heart. I have hidden her wings.

Proverbs 31:10 A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth more than rubies. 11. Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. 12.She brings him good , not harm all the days of her life... 25. She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come. 26. She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue. 27. She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. 28.Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and praises her: 29. “Many women do noble things , but you surpass them all.” 30. charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a women who fears the Lord is to be praised. 31.Give her the reward she has earned, and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.

This essay was written to edify and to bring wisdom into our relationships. It was not intended to be use for humiliation, manipulation or control and although it may not be necessary true, it is the way that many times we feel that we are been treated by our husbands, friends, or partners. With a great understanding that no goodly man is created or intended to hurt us with their actions purposely, that it is only the way that many times we see or perceived things through our own eyes let our differences no to be use against each other but to complement each other. Let us use God’s wisdom to uplift and learn from one another.