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| My late husband's brother shot himself to death last night |
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Drew was in his early forties, had a son, Christopher about age 13. He was divorced and his mom living with him. He was predeceased by his dad, and my former husband. He failed at rehab many times and lost his job.
Prayer for his mom, Leigh. His sister, Leslie. She is the only surviving of Leigh's kids. She is 51 and she was on the phone with him when he shot himself.
Prayer for Christopher most of all.
I do not know if Drew ever got saved. Mike spoke to him before. He went to church only on holidays. He went to my son, Landon's funeral and we had an altar call where people prayed openly to accept Christ. This is in the hands of God.
I am numb. |
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| April 28, 2009 |
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| Juanita - I am praying - Hugs to you my friend,
Love you* |
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| April 28, 2009 |
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| Jesus, comfort this family. In the name of Jesus. I come against suicide...the spirit of suicide. In the name of Jesus. Lord, give us hope when we are going through. Let us mount up on wings like eagles. In the name of Jesus. |
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| April 28, 2009 |
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So sorry to hear this Juanita... :o(
Only God knows the heart...
Praying for the family...
Blessings In Him... :o)
Herman |
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| April 28, 2009 |
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| Dear God hold Christopher, Leigh & Leslie tight in the palm of your hands. Oh God you know the pain they are all in and what they will need in the coming days and weeks. I pray your heavenly hosts would protect them and comfort them. I ask for strength for the family and a bond of unity. I pray many good neighbours and friends who would be there beside them all to comfort them and help them in practical ways. Look after this family's emotional, mental, spiritual and financial needs I ask in the precious name of Jesus', Amen. |
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| April 28, 2009 |
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| Father we lift up this family to you in prayer, in the name of Jesus, for comfort. Praying for you Juanita for the Lord to strengthen you, comfort you & grant you peace, in the name of Jesus. Amen. Love & hugs, my dear, this is indeed sad. |
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| April 28, 2009 |
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| Lord Almighty, we can not even begin to understand the why. I pray that you will condemn the tormenting spirits that caused this tragedy. Bind them Lord, and cast them to the pit of Hell to never return, so they may not cause another the same harm. Please send your healing Angels to this family and friends of this family. Lord, in the name of Jesus, bind the accusing spirits against this family. Those demons that will accuse to cause confusion and chaos. Cast down all generational curses in all generations forward and backward, all the way to Adam. I am lifting up these souls to you who do not yet know your Son in this family. Lord, reveal yourself to them so that they may choose Life. I pray in my Saviors name, the name above all others, in Jesus name! Amen. |
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| April 28, 2009 |
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| It is understandable that you are numb...wow. I don't know what to say. How horrible...especially for the poor sister who was on the phone with him at the time he shot himself. What a tragedy. I will be praying for them. |
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| April 28, 2009 |
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Hey folks....about to go to bed, don't have much energy to do anything so getting up early to clean up. Drew and I have not seen each other since Landon's funeral. This has brought back so many memories. My late husband, Mike, took his life 10 months before on Dec 15, 2000 with an overdose and his family wanted to call it a heart attack because of the stigma of suicide. Then my son shot himself and Drew and his exwife came to the funeral, but no one else did. We had become estranged after Mike's death due to a battle. Mike and I had lived apart at the time of his death but had reconsciled and we stopped the divorce. When I went to the house we owned to lie down with one of his shirts to grieve, they called the police and tried to have me arrested. They had emptied much out of the house before telling me he was dead. He was dead 10 hours before they told me and only then because I had to sign to have his funeral arrangements completed. Mike and I talked the night before and he said they would be mad we were working things out. He had gotten saved May and that was September. I do NOT know what happened between that call and his choice to die. His parents called the divorce attorney and asked to push the divorce on through and she told them it was not possible and that it was HIS decision to stop it because he still loved me. It was a horrendous ugly battle. The house was mine the minute he stopped breathing but they fought bitterly to try to take it from me. So they broke the law by removing stuff and were mad when the police had no grounds to arrest me.
It was a kindness that ten months later his brother, Drew, came to Landon's funeral. Perhaps it was for the very purpose of calling out to God in the altar prayer the mourners all seemed to pray. I have only heard that he got into drugs and drinking and rehab like Mike did. Mike tried to share his faith with Drew so seeds were planted but it was not in their upbringing.
I told my brother to tell my stepdaughter that it would be awkward if I came for Leigh. I will draft a letter to her. I last saw Christopher as a toddler.
I don't know what to do but I don't think it would be comforting for me to be there with them. They are stoic in nature and not emotional and would probably like to sweep this under the rug as quickly as possible. Praying for the right thing to do. |
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| April 28, 2009 |
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Even after writing this I read it and it sounds so ugly. I am totally looking at this from an eternal standard. If my son's death meant that Drew was able to pray and accept Christ and even if he never grew deep and got saved by the skin of his teeth, then my son's death served purpose and I am thankful that God allowed Landon to go forward with his choice. I am crying as I write that. I am trying to see this only from the viewpoint that there was a chance, and he heard the gospel that night for sure.
Please, no comments from those of you that believe suicides are all in hell. I won't debate that ever again with anyone. It serves no purpose.
All the bitterness kept us apart for these years but my heart breaks for Leigh. Both her sons chose to die. She only has Leslie left and Drew's son and Mike's daughter and granddaughter. I don't think Leigh or Leslie are Christians.
Pray for their souls in all this. Christopher had gotten into brooding and writing poetry about death and had an obseesion with it. He was only about five when Mike died and he took it hard. His daddy ...this is too big. He is extremely sensitive and his mom coddles him. His half sister died at age 16 before he was born so his mom was obsessed with making everything perfect for Christopher. When Drew and Beck ended their marriage, they made almost a weird thing about being together for all holidays and stuff for him even though she remarried. They tried to make it like it wasn't really a divorce, even going on picnics together to keep him grounded.
Please forgive me for rambling but by now you know ...how I am...and this is just so hard to wrap my thoughts around. I just want God to be glorified and for something wonderful to come of it.
I will send a letter to his mom to start and ask the Holy Spirit for words. ly juanita mae |
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| April 28, 2009 |
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Dearest Juanita~
We are so sorry to hear of this tragedy. Our deepest sympathies and prayers go out to Christopher and the rest of the family.......Ken & Angel ORR |
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| April 28, 2009 |
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| Oh Juanita...I am so sorry.. bless your heart! And yes, I will be praying for everyone involved...may the LORD protect Christopher from ugly words and attitudes and may it open doors for him to learn about God's abundant love! |
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| April 28, 2009 |
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Only God knows the heart and we are not to judge. We don't know what's going on in a persons mind when they choose to take their own life. They are calling out for help and I believe when someone is hurting that bad, their not responsible for their actions. Pain can numb us to the point where we don't see clearly.
Some may disagree with me and that's ok, God understands each heart he will have the final say
May God keep Christopher in his hands right now Mrs. J and flood him in peace. |
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| April 29, 2009 |
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Juanita...my lovely friend...I am so sorry for your pain...
You and your family are in my prayers..=( |
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| April 29, 2009 |
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God in Heaven, I am praying for you to show your Juanita Mae tonight what to do in this situation. God, open the door if you want JBabe to reach them for your glory now. Give her the words and strength to go through this with them, healing them and her the same. Satan, we come against you in the authority given unto man in the Spirit, by the Lord Jesus Christ and we say you have no authority over those who are in Christ! We break all demonic oppressions you have placed against Juanita's family and we bind your demonic spirits and call them out to be sent to the great abyss to never return unto them again in Jesus' name. Glory Hallelujah! Amen.
JBabe, I know you will seek and do His will. I will pray for and with you daily. I am there with you in my spirit always Sister. Love always in Christ. Jewlzy |
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| April 29, 2009 |
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No obit yet. I awakened from a dream that I was praying with a quadraplegic (probably because of Aaron-different post) and he got up out of bed and was walking but his hands were curled. He said Job killed himself, go read it. I protested that he didn't but didn't have my bible with me to prove it. (mental note, go no where without it-doesn't work to keep a second in the car...need it with me)-
reading what i wrote above...my husband died Septembe 15, 2000 -his birthday was December 15, so had that wrong above, not that anyone knows but then July 13, 2001 my son shot himself and Drew came to his funeral. That was the last I saw him. Mike's daughter was in my life until two years ago. She has been on drugs and has attempted suicide no less than five times. She has been in and out of rehab and mental institutions and she will be thirty this year. I spent 30k on rehab after her dad died with money from selling his antiques and car. So much to pray about. Her grandmother and family won't have anything to do with her, she lost custody of her daughter as well. My brother is the only one that can talk to her, it is like handling a rattlesnake. She threatened my life so I stay clear.I don't know how clear her head is regarding feelings but she is actually in danger because of her instability and this is causing a lot of old feelings to surface in me and she is much closer to it all. Please lift Kristin.
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| April 29, 2009 |
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| Lifting Kristin, and Christopher. And YOU, JMae. Trust in God is essential in times like these, I just know it. |
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| April 29, 2009 |
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This is a very sad time for you and I send my deepest sympathy to you and your family .
Father I call on You to be the comfort, strength and guidance that is needed at this time by Juanitta and family members, even though there are problems I pray Lord that You will deal with the problems and make them vanish. Draw the family closer and cause all past hurts to go.
Protect Christopher from all the dark thoughts that he is having lead him Lord to the place of peace Your throne of grace.
Lord draw the mom Leigh into Your comforting arms. Let Leslie now the peace that passes all understanding also
Pour out upon Junitta Your love and peace |
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| April 29, 2009 |
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Juanita,
I know you know God sent the Holy Spirit to be our comforter - that is my prayer for you & the rest of the family. That God sends the Holy Spirit to bring comfort during this painful time.
I can't image the emotions this situation has brought back to you - but know you are loved & you have MANY people praying for you.
God bless.
love,
Michelle |
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| April 29, 2009 |
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| Your prayers are deeply needed. I just found out that his mom was there when he shot himself when on the phone with his sister. When my husband died, she refused to look at him and I was the only one that viewed his body. She didn't want the memory. She has a horrible one now of her youngest child. |
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| April 29, 2009 |
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Continuing to lift up the family & you to the Lord in prayer, in the name of Jesus. I pray for strength, comfort & peace for all of you. Amen. Hugs to you, dear one. |
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| April 29, 2009 |
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| I have just uploaded a picture of Drew on my photos. He was very youthful looking for 45. He was super tall, like 6'5 |
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| May 01, 2009 |
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It is my prayer that God with His angels will protect these people from all destructive attacks from the adversary. Please God, stop this cycle of destruction and replace it with hope, love and joy. Now, be with Juanita as she heals from all of these tragedies. In Jesus Christ our Lord and Savior's name I ask these things. |
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| May 02, 2009 |
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Praying Juanita, for Christopher, you and everyone involved.
I love you, and I do care.. ever so much. |
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| May 11, 2009 |
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| How is this family coping? Please update when you can. |
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| May 11, 2009 |
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My brother and nephew helped move his stuff to my stepdaughter's storage unit and his sister's house. My stepdaughter is in rehab in Florida on a grant as it is HUGELY expensive. This is not a first. I paid five thousand a month for six months after her dad died. My sister said that Drew's mom, sister and son were there and they all thanked my family for helping. My nephew said it was hard being there because the bleach spots were all over where they cleaned up the blood. He said the all looked ok. I said they had a stoic way about them. I went ten days after Landon's death to his car to get his belongings by myself. It was in a parking lot to be destroyed. I was unprepared and fell crawling out on the gravel screaming out to Jesus. I knew but that was a deeper knowing. Hard to explain. Anyway, they will keep a public face, it is their way. He said Christopher seemed just fine. Becky is an outstanding mother so she will be hovering over Christoper's every move to do what she can. She lost her daughter Mindy before he was born to an auto accident. Thank you! |
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