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My life iz over-controlled......
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Joey     R
July 03, 2009
It's this "love thing" you know.  We can't help it.  LOL
Joey     R
July 03, 2009
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Lara Leger
July 03, 2009
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I know I anything but appreciated the 'overprotective' thing when i was a teenager. I hated it, in fact.  my dad didn't even want me getting my ears pierced.  But as I look back, I see how they did it b/c they loved me, and did what they thought was best for me.  God has entrusted you to them, so they have to give an account to the Lord about how they parent you.  Where there's no discipline and no boundaries, it destroys you.  You may hate it now, but once you are on your own, and when you have your own kids, if you choose to do that, you'll "get it".  It took me quite a few years, but now I understand from whense they came.  Just remember they love you lots.  :)
Denise Frenette
July 03, 2009
Hi Sk8erChic ,   As a mother, I instinctually want to help you out, and hope your attuned to hearing what may help in the end. 

When we show ourselves trustworthy, it should have the result of earning us respectful trust. We can choose to mature trusting ways through time, though it may be hard - for some more than others. Afterall, we are individuals, with seemingly built in characteristics as well as ones conformed in us through our environmental experiences. But we can all choose to work at trust, and positive character traits that enhance our lifestyle and relationships in the end.  

I hope that your parents are reasonable, and that you are able to find yourself receiving trust from them as time goes by. For that purpose, I have sought and found tidbits for you.  // Hope you find these useful. Love in Christ, Denise  Here are the tidbits:

Bible Version: The Message (MSG)
Proverbs 3:3
Don't lose your grip on Love and Loyalty. Tie them around your neck; carve their initials on your heart. Earn a reputation for living well in God's eyes and the eyes of the people.
Proverbs 14:35
Diligent work gets a warm commendation; shiftless work earns an angry rebuke.
Ecclesiastes 5:12
Hard and honest work earns a good night's sleep, Whether supper is beans or steak. But a rich man's belly gives him insomnia.
I also think Proverbs 1 to 3 a useful read on the topic of a young man earning his father's (parents') trust.  Whether it be Father God, or your own earthly given father and mother. As you read these, be sure to contemplate them both as advise from a flesh and bone dad and mom's perspective, but also from the perspective of our Father and maker, our God whom parents are designed after, and designed by - for our help in growing wisdom and many good years.   ///   And, last but not least, Check this out: I found it by googling Earning trust. http://www.ehow.com/how_2343131_earn-parents-trust.html :             HOW TO EARN YOUR PARENTS TRUST                                        Earning your parents' trust can be very difficult especially if you have done something, such as sneaking out, that makes them feel unable to trust you. It takes a lot of hard work to regain your parents' trust. Once your parents trust you, it is important for you to do your best to keep that  trust intact.                                                                                 
Instructions:
Step 1

Tell the truth. Lying to your parents will always lessen their trust in you. When you are truthful, even about negative or bad things, you are showing your parents that you can be trusted.

Step 2

Do your chores. Make sure that your room is clean and that any other chores you do are done to the best of your ability. This means that you may have to work a little harder than you want but, it will be worth it when you have your parents' trust.

Step 3

Keep up your grades and do your school work. Your parents are more likely to trust you if you are doing good in school. Even if your grades slip, let your parents know and make sure that you work hard to get them back up.

Step 4

Use common sense to help you make decisions. Making good decisions will show your parents that you are mature which will make it easier for them to trust you.

Step 5

Respect your elders and everyone else around you. A person who is respectful is easier to trust than someone who has an attitude problem.

Step 6

Follow the rules. This includes house rules, school rules, public laws and rules and the rules of any place you visit. If your parents get reports of you being unruly, your chances of earning their trust will suffer.                                                                                                                  I hope you find this a suitable and reasonable response to your blog.  I write it in love, and with respect knowing that this is an emotional issue for you. I pray that your parents show wisdom to give you freedom that is in keeping with the wisdom you yourself apply in making decisions for steering your life forward.  I do this as if you were my own son to love, and to hope for good things to come real soon.  I DO have a son (24 yrs old), and two daughters (26 and 28)     ///                                                                          Blessings to you. Translation: I wish you well!    // online bible verses' search  ->   www.biblegateway.com   ( suggested versions to read it in: New Living Translation (NLT) / New International Version (NIV) / The Message (MSG) /  New American Standard / New Century  

Denise Frenette
July 03, 2009
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