The Covenant Of Marriage

Two people joining in a "Covenant"  to remain together for better or worse, richer or poorer, sickness and health, until death do them part.

Well, after looking at the statistics of today's generation it seems that not too many are loyal enough to keep their part of this covenant.

What I do not understand though, is these same people will divorce one,break their end of the covenant and then go to another person and make the same covenant even though the one they made the original covenant with is still alive.  I believe this is the highest form of dis-loyalty, because common sense tells me that if you break the covenant and dis-regarded your vow to one you will do it again, and statistics has proven this to be true also.  You know the old cliche' (once bitten twice shy).  Common sense also tells me that if I want to cross the Street, I must first look around to make sure the Street is clear of oncoming traffic, else I may get knocked down and injure or kill myself. The same should apply to every relationship especially one that will tie up my soul (mind, will and emotions), to another individual for life.  After much experience in the field of marriage, I believe I have enough experience to say a thing or two.  Here are a few of the lessons I have learned:-

1)  Do not shack up.  It is called fornication and it is a sin against your own body and you will not be blessed by God. See 1 Corinthians chapter 6 for further explanation.

2)  Make sure to retain your virginity it is the blood covenant, and you and your marriage will be blessed by God. See Deuteronomy chapter 22 for an explanation of the virgin laws and Mark chapter 10 on Jesus' teaching on the marriage G-d put together. 

3)  Before you get seriously involved speak to all of his/her friends and relatives about his/her past.  Keep a journal.
4)  Watch carefully how they handle issues, situations and problems.  Keep a journal.
5)  Watch carefully how you are treated when you go out.  Does he treat you like a lady?  Keep a journal.
6)   Does she treat you with the respect she gives her father? Or someone she admires and look up to?
7)   How is her cooking?  Can he hold his own in the kitchen?  Keep a journal.
8)   How is she/he around children.  Look carefully!  Keep a journal.
9)   What about the drinking, or consumption of drugs, when socializing. Watch carefully!  Keep a journal.
10)  Does he want a kiss on the lips the first date?  Stop!  Refuse!  Too close for comfort!
11)  Is he/she shifty eyed (flirty) with the opposite sex?
12)  Is patience, long suffering, kindness, responsibility, loyalty, joy, tenderness there?  Keep a journal.
13) Is he/she diligent in the area of work? 
14)  Does he/she have a decent savings account?
15)  Is he/she frugal with money? 

Remember to keep in mind not everything that glitters is gold.  Look inside.  Keep a journal.
 
You may be stuck for life with whatever decision you make. Choose carefully!  Beauty fades on the outside but remains on the inside.  The virtues that will endure throughout all of your trials and tribulations is what really matters and that is the glue which will hold that marriage together in the natural as well as the Spiritual.
Remember also, anyone can say they are a Christian, by their fruits you will know them.  Are they obedient to the Written Words of Jesus Christ in all of their decision making?  If your answer is Yes! and you are also a Christian, then I will say that you have a marriage made in heaven and it will be blessed.

With loving thoughts
Inspired By The Holy Spirit
Sister Marcia
8/13/09 (1:00a.m.)