Try carrying your friends thought pattern to its logical conclusion.  It begins something like....

"I expect God to do everything I want.  If He is real and if He loves me, then He will give me everything I want.  And since I also expect this God to treat me the same as everyone else, then He should give them what they want as well."

They basically view God as a divine vending machine.

So now everyone will get what they want.  Game 4 of the World Series is going on right now. People are praying for their favorite to win on both sides.  So how's this going to end up?  He gives everyone what they want, right?

What about all the people who prayed when they bought lottery tickets for this weekend?  How many of them got the big money?

Every person ever born has died.  This has been going on since people first came into the world.  I know your friend says she doesn't believe in God because it seems as though He didn't come through.

But what if God's purpose is not to give us everything we want?  What if the nature of the relationship between God and each one of us is different from that?  For that matter, how did we start to think that God is supposed to give us everything we want?

Maybe answering that last question first is a good place to start.  It may be because someone has ascribed to God an attribute seen in a parent that may not reflect the true nature of God.  Sometimes a parent will give us something we'd really like to have if we're having a really bad day.  I think it's very natural for people to view God through the lens of how they were raised.

God is sooooo much different from that.

So maybe the second thing to address to what your friend seems to know about God. 

There's a line the George Burns movie, "Oh God" where someone asks the question, "God, why do you allow suffering to go on in the world?"  God's response is, "Me?  I don't allow it.  You do."

It's frequently mankind's selfishness that allows people around the world to suffer.  And it is our own selfishness to expect God to keep a person here for us when that person is ready to go be with Him.  When it's a person's time to go, then we can be joyful for that person because we know that they enter into a body with no pain and suffering and that they are completely filled with a love that we can barely taste now.  But God gives us opportunities to encounter that love while we are still here.

So you can talk with your friend about the many ways that God makes available to us to encounter that love.

Above all, I would suggest that you reflect the love of God through your words and your actions.  At this point, that may be the first opportunity for her to encounter God.

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Hallelujah! Praise God for those words :)

Thanks for sharing this Stu!