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This is my first attempt at blogging. I am not sure how often I will venture into this realm, but here is a beginning. Last year around this time my wife, Ruby and I dropped our oldest son off at St. Lawrence University to start his college career. It was very difficult to drive away leaving him on a campus with no friends and 250 miles away from home. Of course our fears were missed placed and when he called home for the first time he said, “College is the best thing ever.” He made lots of really good friends, and even though he is not on a Christian campus he has maintained a fairly strong faith. We raise our children to hopefully become well-adjusted adults and hope we have given them enough information and insight into God’s love and plan to help them make wise decisions when they venture out on their own. Hoping and praying that God will hold them close as they make their new start. Well our first release of our son Geoff went very well and he came home at Christmas and thanked us for everything we had done to prepare him to be out on his own. What a blessing that was for us as parents, but in reality it was God preparing us for Feb. 24, 2007. On Feb. 24, 2007 Geoff had a head on collision with a tree while snowboarding on Whiteface Mountain in northeastern New York State. He was airlifted to Burlington VT and in critical care at Fletcher-Allen Hospital. That is one phone call you never want to answer. It was a traumatic time for our family but God’s grace was more than sufficient. We found a welcoming family in several local churches, even though we were 7 hours from home. God was gracious to us. Our son Geoff spent 9 days in ICU 8 of which were in a medically induced comma with a traumatic brain injury. We spent two weeks and more waiting and praying for the one child we had already begun to release. But that is not really what this blog is about. If you want to read the details of that experience, you can check this web page out. www.caringbridge.org/visit/geoffbaum mostly you will find information in the Journal section. Here is where our dilemma begins anew. Geoff has made a remarkable recovery and will be returning to St. Lawrence next Monday or Tuesday, to begin his second year of study. How do we let go? We thought it was hard last year, now we have new anxieties that will make this even harder. Will he be safe? Of course he has plans to continue snowboarding, he was “having the best winter of his life.” We will spend the winter on our knees praying for protection. I know that God will have to give us the strength to drive away from him next week when we drop him off. God has begun a good work in him and we have to trust Him to see it through to the end. One verse that brings us comfort through much of this has been Jeremiah 29:11, “For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” We know that Geoff is in God’s hands and plans, so we need to just let go, but it is soooooooo very hard to do. Please pray for Ruby and me that we can trust God enough to let our son go. |
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Glenn, Great blog! I can't imagine what your experience with your son in ICU must have felt like. We have several of our own, but they're significantly younger. I'm not ready to release them yet! I can't even go there yet mentally, quite frankly. But we are seeking to do what you and Ruby have apparently excelled at, and that's preparing to let them go. You really encouraged me with your first blog, thanks for writing for us! ~mike |
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Glenn, what a testimony! These are the stories of encouragement we need to share with each other. I don't envy you your task of re-releasing your son next week. We are a couple of years behind you in the parenting department and were feeling the pangs of letting go last night as we prepared to send our 8th grader and high school junior off to school today. Our daughter will likely make college plans this year, and our son is student body president with a big job to do. I had a friend tell me once that God calls us to hold our children with open hands. I thought the toddler years were the toughest part of parenting, but I am beginning to see that the real challenge comes when we need to begin to let them go.
Sorry, this is the first day of school and I'm feeling all mommy-ish and sappy. Thanks for sharing your story. |
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| Letting go is never easy. We have 5 teenagers to tend to with the letting go. We have a blended family. So, some of the times a couple leave to live with the other parent. This has been very heart wrenching for me. I never feel completly satisfied with me as a mom because of it. We had to let go a rebellious son recently, as noted in my last blog. I would say, I know it is not easy, but thank the Lord that you are able to send your son with your blessing. The blessing means so much. We were not able to bless our son. ITS ALL IN THE BLESSING! Find your joy in that. I WISH I could send mine our blessing. :( |
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August 20, 2007 at 12:20pm |
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Mike, thanks for being the first to read and respond to my blog. You always seem to be the first with a positive word of encouragement. Thanks.
Sooz, good luck with the whole searching for a college thing. Check out the Collegeboard.com website for search tips.
Actaully I think you do a little letting go when ever you send them off to school in a new environment. Like Kindergarten, or Middle School or High School, each new step calls for a little more release. Thanks again to both of you. peace Glenn |
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August 20, 2007 at 12:23pm |
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Shannon, That is very hard in deed. You may not feel able to send him with your blessing, but you definately can send him with God's blessing as you pray. Don't let go of your child without fighting the spiritual battle even if he does not know it.
I will pray God's peace for you and God's grace on your son. peace Glenn |
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August 20, 2007 at 12:56pm |
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Wow, Glenn! Great blog! Interestingly I read it immediately after reading Soozanne's poem which fits great here: http://www.mychurch.org/blog/52056/Sappy-Mommy I prayed for your family as I read your blog! May God bring peace, comfort, and protection to you all! |
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August 20, 2007 at 1:09pm |
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Thanks Kathy, I read Sappy-Mommy after I read Sooz, reply to my post. I love her writing. Thanks for reading and your prayers peace Glenn |
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Hi, Glen
I have 3 sons in their 20s and letting go of each one has been different. I have learned so much about trusting the Lord in it all! |
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Well, this is a wonderful testimony! God is faithful! We love our kids so much, and are so used to caring and providing for them it is hard to let them go because we need them as much as they need us. They give us purpose to our life, they motivate us etc...especially if you had to care for him around the clock to nurse him back to health and after nearly losing him, you definitely don't want to let him go again. But I would say this, what else could happen that could compare to what you just experienced? It is obvious that God has His hand on Geof and that the LORD has anointed Him for a purpose. Until that purpose is fulfilled He is indestructible. Seeing him flourish on his own, will bring you as much joy as having him near you and taking care of him. He and you are both going to be OK! By the way Excellent 1st blog! Do it again! |
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Letting go is never easy. I had to remind myself over and over that they are God's in the first place, not mine and that I had spent all the years raising them for that very moment. I started looking at it as a new chapter in the book of our lives and then I got excited because I wanted to see the fruits of raising them. Eleven years after letting the first one go.....he had a family of his own. Then the problem with letting go came.....how could I let go of him for 15 months for him to serve our country in Kuwait? To only hear his voice occasionally, to not see his smile, to not be able to hug him....all the things I took for granted. The experience taught me alot of things and took me through a whole range of emotions. Lots of tears, hanging on his every word when he could call, hating not being able to talk normal to him during those calls, memorizing everything about him that I took for granted before, not wanting good people to thank me and ask me about him (it brought tears back)....but most of all, a four year old boy, his son, my grandson was used by God to help me past my selfishness......listening to him cry on the phone everynight, trying to comfort him because daddy couldn't tuck him in bed. My pain and letting go seemed trivial, compared to this little man who was at the age to not understand. Then God also worked on me through the news....other moms who would never have the chance to hear their child's voice or hug them again, talk about humbling! I will be praying for y'all....it is never easy, but God can use it for good :) |
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May 21, 2008 at 5:45am |
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Hopeful you are so right, it is very different with each child. Life has been different with each child and we are now getting ready to let son number 2 head off to college, very different. But in it all we see God's hand and know He is in control. Brother Todd thank you for your encouragement. Geoff has truly recovered completely and is a totally different young man. God got his attention in a new way and it is amazing to see where he is going. We were able to release him again with much prayer and lots of phone calls and text messages but God is good and He will use Geoff in some amazing way I am sure. Thanks for your encourageing word. Cindy thanks for sharing your son with us through his service. God keep him safe and bring him home to mom and his son. Thank you Cindy for raising a strong young man who has chosen to serve us all. I pray God's grace on you and your family especially your grandson. Peace |
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| Glenn : Thanks, he came home in Oct. His son still struggles when he has to travel on business....I guess the effects are long term? We've learned alot through it all :) |
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