TRUST! Today’s issue I will be discussing is TRUST! I'm sure We’ve all dealt with this issue before! Imagine you are building a popsicle-stick house. For the sake of this article I will abbreviate Popsicle-stick house as P.S.H.! It takes HOURS to build your P.S.H.! You work laboriously straining yourself to get the Popsicle sticks straight and just right until they make a perfect house shape. Now imagine that the mailman comes to your door to deliver your mail and 'Fido' (your dog) goes CRAZY, and conveniently runs right through your P.S.H.... Your response? AaaauuuggggghhhhH! (kill Fido!) Now, consider this. Trust, is a thing just like that P.S.H... It takes a long long time to build it up mutually... but it can be destroyed in a moment with one harsh thoughtless response, one sneaky deed, or one distasteful rumor (whether true or untrue). And trust, just like that quant little P.S.H., takes a long long time to build back once it’s been destroyed... Lastly, consider this; What side are YOU on? Are you the dog, who just ran through one of your friend's ‘P.S.H.s’ (obviously I’m speaking metaphorically!)? Or are you the famed builder, of the said P.S.H. who’s just had his figurative P.S.H. run through?... Think about it for a moment… Well hopefully your neither one of these!... But if you are one or the other, then the following is for you;
If your the builder; Firstly, It isn't wrong to be mad or even angry at a friend for betraying your trust. On the contrary, your friend should know that you are angry so that he or she knows what he or she did wasn't right. but don't let you anger fester. (I.E. A fester is a blister that keeps welling up and going rotten if it isn’t treated.) Take some time away from your friend who has hurt you, but then take steps to (gulp) rebuild your popsicle-stick house, and in doing so rebuild your friendship. IT WON"T BE EASY. But it will be worth it! If your the dog; You may not think your the dog. You may have betrayed your friend's trust without even realizing it. If your friend/s seem distant or like they’re not responding to you, then talk. see what's wrong, ask if you've ever "ran through their P.S.H.” before. The thing is, our pride won't let us ask for forgiveness, our pride will say that we've done no wrong and that we really don't need to apologize or ask for forgiveness... But our pride itself betrays us. As humans we all have an ego, and so we need to *GULP* swallow our pride, and 1. admit, we betrayed a friend, 2. apologize, and most importantly 3. work together to rebuild your P.S.H.! (actually, the *GULP* was step one, but you get the idea!) BEN |
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