Scripture Reference:  Romans 12:1-2

I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that ye present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable service.  And be not conformed to this world, but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect will of God.

Father, In the name of Jesus, Holy Spirit  I invite you into this blog and I pray that every woman that reads this blog will begin to examine herself and seek your wisdom before making any kind of movements when accepting a mate for her life.  God, I ask that you would guide my thoughts and think through my mind as I minister your "Word" to every woman who desires to enter into a  relationship. God you said that if we would delight ourselves in you, that you would give us our hearts desire.  Now Father, I pray that you would help us to make the right decisions and believe in you to send Godly men to these precious women who desires a mate; God, I ask that you would send God-Fearing men that loves you with all of their heart, all of their mind, all of their soul, and with all of their bodies.   In Jesus Name, Amen!

Greetings to all of my ladies:  I have been led to share some spiritual food from Heaven to help you when you feel as though you are ready to invite a mate into your life.  Well, first of all, our bodies belong to God and God does not want us to do anything that will contaminate his vessel.  We are to present our bodies first as a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, which is his reasonable service.  Ladies, God did not intend for us to find a man.  His Word says that the men is suppose to find you.  Proverbs 18:22 says: "Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favor of the Lord." 

There are a lot of men, whether married, single, widowed, or divorced, who are seeking women everyday, especially on this myspace internet.  Ladies, I am led to tell you to be aware of the various men who will try to use all types of slick words just to hop in your bed and then hop out and hop into another woman's bed.  Especially if a man has already being married and is divorced.  These men will first start out by using all the right, enticing words to make you feel good, but in actuality, this is the serpent from "Hell."  The truth has got to be revealed and if someone doesn't stand and teach our woman the real truth about the enemy's tricks, a lot of women will continue to be deceived and will take a risk with their lives with a man that God did not have any intentions for you to invite into your body or your home. 

This is why the various diseases are on the rise.  These men are going from one woman to another and transferring all kinds of diseases and evil spirits in the homes.  Ladies, do you know that when you lay down with a man, every woman that this man has had sexual contact with, you now are having sex with that woman as well?  I know this is strong talk, but it has got to be revealed and told ladies! 

This is real ministry talk ladies.  Be aware of men who have left their good homes, good wives and had children that are not even finished school.  These men fail to realize that they have allowed their children to be placed in a much higher risk category that they once would not be placed in if the men would not have left their homes. It's time for men to take responsibility for their own actions and stop making excuses just to walk in a spirit of selfishness!  Which is a sign of "Childish."   

Always watch when a man complains and speaks negative about his ex-wife to you because this is evidence that  he is only covering up his own faults and his mistakes.  When a man leaves his home, where there are children involved,  these children now have to be raised by a single parent.  I'm not saying that we can't do a good job when we have to raise our children.  We raise them with the help of the Lord.  However, men fail to realize that because of his selfish acts, he has just cursed the next generation of  men. 

A lot of men are selfish and they only think about themselves.  Of course, God does still have some good God-Fearing men for his beautiful women.  The Bible says in Matthew, Chapter 24:12 that, "And because iniquity shall abound, the love of many shall wax cold."  Some men will work harder at trying to save other peoples problems and situations, rather than working harder at their own situation first.  Their proirities are not in the right order.  They really don't know the "Order of God."  Be aware of these types of men.  These types of men are not walking in Godly Wisdom.  They are out for their own personal gain. 

I have known several women who have gone through situations and have being deceived by a man who they thought wanted to really love them, but only to find out that these men only wanted one thing.  If a man walks out on a wife, chances are he will walk out on you too ladies.  It's just a matter of time when the pressure will come on and when hard times occur, his mind and his actions will tell him that it is easier to leave then to stay and work out his differences, and not to mention the baggages that he will bring into your life!  He will always make excuses for his actions, rather than to except full responsibility for his behavior, stand up, admit his faults and allow God to turn his marriage/situation around. 

Ladies, don't be deceived by these men with their lies.  If you are not prayerful and careful, they will fake their way into your life and then after a couple of years, sometimes within months, the real person in them will come out.  Ladies, remember, there is not a thing such as a fresh, new man out there.  Everybody has had somebody at one time or another.  You can always tell if a man is a real man of God by his character as well as how he talks to you and the words that he speaks.

Lets talk about "SEX."    Ladies, "Sex" is only for married couples, therefore, if you are giving your bodies to a man without license, then you are not teaching our men to step up and take responsibility for what he is doing.  If he can't put a ring on your finger, then he can't give you any of his dingie!  I know this is tight, but it is right ladies!!!!  It may even feel uncomfortable for some of you to read this blog, but the real truth is being revealed about these ungoldy men that are going around killing our beautiful women with their lack of integrity.  Ladies, we have to make men pay the price and do it God's way, otherwise, our men will never grow up and be the kind of men that God has destined for them to be.   Ladies, don't sell yourself short.  You are a Virtuous Woman and God holds us at a high price that no man should  be able to buy cheap!!!   Our price is far above rubies!!!

Ladies, how you can control your sexual desires until God sends you a husband is to be filled with his Holy Spirit.  Without the Holy Spirit, we will not have the power to resist temptation.  The Holy Spirit  is our helper. He will lead and guide you into all truths.  The Holy Spirit will help you to flee from fornication and adultery.  Without God's Holy Spirit, the enemy will over power your mind, your decisions and your body.  Therefore, if you haven't already asked God to fill you with his Holy Spirit, I would like to invite you today to ask God to fill you with that special person, which is his Holy Spirit, so that you will have the strength and the power to resist the enemy when he shows his stinking head up in your face.  You will be able to recognize who is real and who is not real.  So, I pray that you will be blessed and that you will seek God's Wisdom and his guidance when making decisions to invite a man into your life. 

I pray that you have received a fresh Word from the Lord and that you will allow the Holy Spirit to lead and guide you when choosing a mate for your home.

Father God, I pray that this Word will not fall on stoney grounds, but that it will begin to take root in my dear, precious women's hearts and spring up into ever lasting life to all who desires to make a difference in this thing called "relationships." 

Dr. Barbara Jones

Your Christian Counselor, Advisor, Minister, Educator & Psalmist